Terrified to break up with my giver

[LLL]

Hi,

 

Things aren't going well with my current boyfriend, the guy who gave me HSV-1 about 9 months ago.

The thing is i'm quite scared to lose him and start looking for someone else. I'm feeling quite over whelmed by "no one else will ever want me" feelings and I'm getting myself down. I don't really want to be rejected by people for something I had no control over.

I guess i'm just wondering if anyone has any stories where anyone's been nice and accepting and still wanted a romantic relationship with the person infected..

[WCSDancer2010]

LLL

 

Hello and Welcome!

 

For starters, your best bet is to read all the Success Stories you can on here. There are tons of great stories of H+ finding love there.

 

http://projectaccept.org/who-gets-hsv/

 

Handouts + disclosure e-book:

https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook

Herpes facts video

 

 

Also, I'm going to post some info on the Rejection Response. Sometimes learning why you react a certain way helps folks to learn how to overcome this reaction. We are hard wired to want to be accepted (so the saber toothed tigers wouldn't get us - there is safety in numbers) so our instinct is to stay where we are accepted, even if it's not healthy for us.

 

http://supporttruthanddialog.com/rejection_its-all-about-perspective/ (my blog)

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/4699/first-real-disclosure-first-real-rejection Rejection as your teacher…..

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection

 

[Bambina3]

H or no h....I would not stay with a man if I was miserable....id rather be alone

Good kick with everything xx

[LLL]

@wscdancer2010 Thankyou for all this information, I will definitely look at it all!

 

@Bambina3 Yeah you're probably right!