OnlyGoodThoughts

I completely understand. Regardless of the outcome, please know that you are a pet of a large club. About 1 in 6 people have it. So, I promise you, The One does exist and he will love you no matter what.

Angel, As I see it, you have 2 choices: 1. Tell him face to face and either accept his rejection or his acceptance. 2. Write him a letter, explain what you have and wait. He will either call you...... or he won't. But, you will be able to privately deal with your pain, in knowing he was not "The One". I told my husband, then friend, the first night we met. I got tired of investing time in men, waiting for the right moment, only to be dumped. One guy had the nerve to make a date with me (after we had dated for months, with no sex, but he knew before we met. He stood me up. He didn't even return my phone calls, when I tried to reach out to him. About a week after that, he sent me an email, explaining that he was falling in love with me, but that he would never be able to resolve the fact that I had Herpes. I spiraled into a DEEP SEA of depression. I mean, I told him BEFORE we met. I didn't need his brand of "love" any way. Now, I have a man who would walk through shark-infested waters to bring me a lemonade. He didn't have Herpes then, and I have not passed it on to him. But, he told me I was worth it. Now, that's REAL, UNCONDITIONAL love. Trust me. You are postponing the inevitable. And, honestly, after 3 months, regardless of not having sex, you and he had the same intentions - to get to deeply know each other - with the possibility of a solid relationship down the line. This is going to come as big surprise to him. So, please understand if he feels a bit deceived and hurt by your delayed notification. Now, there is good news! Because you didn't sleep with him, you have absolutely NOTHING to feel ashamed of. You were considerate enough to not but him in a compromised situation, where he could have contracted the virus. So BRAVO to you! This too will pass. I know it seems like the most painful thing in your life right now...., but, take it from a 54-year old lady, who waited 45 years to find the man of her dreams. I would NOT do anything different in my life, because I can close my eyes now, knowing, my husband loves me deeply. And, whether we live 10 more years or 10 more minutes. He is my one-of-a-kind, custom made Prince Charming. So, don't try to make something work that is not suppose to - IF this man rejects you. I am sending you the biggest hug possible. Nancy

I am so sorry honey. Yep. The "Big H" is a viral infection. So, it makes us more susceptible to infections. Please hang in there. And, most of all, thank you for your service to our country.

Morning Elle, Please don't get discouraged. More people than you know have it. I've had it for 10 years. At first, I felt like you, in the beginning. I stayed with the partner, who gave it to me, because I thought no one else would want me. But, as days grew into weeks and months, I got so ANGRY with him, that I dumped him. I never looked back. I found dating Herpes sights to avoid having "The Big Talk". The sights were cool. I met some nice men. However, I didn't want to limit my opportunities of meeting the "Right Man". So, I got to the point where I started dating with no sex, so that I could see the character of the person. Within 2 weeks, I would tell them. Granted, I got dumped a lot. Actually, the last person to dumped me, hurt me so bad, that I went into a deep depression, and wound up telling my parents that I might not ever be married again. My parents were SO COOL. They both told me that if they could talk the virus from me, they would gladly trade places, and that they love me and think no less of me. God is good! However, I also have cousins (married), whom also have it. They told me that "Love" is unconditional. And, the men who dumped me wouldn't have worked anyway. Then, I met my husband, 8 years ago. He is a minister. I really like him. I told him on the first date, over drinks. To my surprise, he told me that his mother had it, and that she was an amazing woman. So, if she could have it, he was not oppose to falling in love with someone who had it also. Long story short, we have been married 7 years. Now on to the outbreak nightmare. I get outbreaks about twice a year - when I'm lucky. Mine are definitely caused by stress. My oldest son, 31 years old, just had his 2nd heart transplant. Thankfully, he is doing well. But, as you can see, I deal with a high level of stress. However, the outbreaks do not have to be LONG and PAINFUL. Did you know there are anti-viral meds that get rid of it faster than Valtrex or some of the meds, like Lysine? My last outbreak lasted from August 2018 to September of last week! So, my husband and I couldn't have sex during that time frame- like at all! I had sores all over my vaginal area. My lymph nodes, on both sides of my groin, were so swollen, I could hardly walk. And, I had off and on chills and fever. It felt like I had a never-ending flu episode. Then, I got so desperate that I was willing to try anything. I found something that worked in 3 days! The sores closed in 24 hours. The lymph node swelling reduced the second day and I could walk again, without looking like I just got off a horse. And, by the 3rd day, I no longer had any signs. I'm not sure if I will get booted off the site for sharing the product I used, because it is not legal in all states, and I'm not trying to sell you anything. But, what I used worked. I threw out the Valtrex bottles. It always took at least 7 days for my outbreaks to clear up. And, I think my body developed an immunity to them. Not to mention, Big Pharma has made enough money off of me anyway. Inbox me if you want to try something beside what you are using now. If I can give you a ray of hope with my story, it was worth it. Hugs, Nancy