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My_dog_is_hungry

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  1. I started a new job during our lock down. I felt forced to take it due to covid and the possibility that jobs would be hard to come by. I've had to completely change my lifestyle to accommodate the hours and I sit there doing nothing which is extremely hard for me. 

    I've pretty much been having an outbreak since (3 months now). Does this sound stress related? I felt calm about covid (and live in a mostly safe country) for a while but it's just so unknown what's going to happen. I feel trapped at my job by covid so I don't know how to, like, get over this issue and maybe stop having this blimmin outbreak. 

    I'm already on anti anxiety meds. 

    Any suggestions welcome. 

  2. 4 minutes ago, 100918 said:

    It's VERY possible that you got HPV from the vaccine itself and no one else gave it to you. There have been girls who have been diagnosed with HPV but were virgins and had never had any type of sexual interactions before...young girls who were clearly not sexually active. But they had the vaccine.

    Please don't beat yourself up. I don't have the exact percentage, but if I recall correctly, something like over 95% of HPV cases resolve themselves eventually.

     

    That's nonsense. The vaccine will not give you hpv. But it doesn't cover all strains so you may have caught a strain that hasn't been immunised against. 

  3. Yikes! You're head is in a bad spot. 

    First things first, don't wish you had cancerous hpv. This could literally kill you, and your male partners may not visibly catch it, but they WILL pass it on to future partners, which in turn could kill them. There are enough things killing our mothers, daughters, sisters etc without people wishing cancerous hpv on them! 

    Secondly, you're not a dirty sex pest and you're most certainly not the first person to have caught both irritatingly common stds. In fact if you look deep into this forum you will find lots of lovely people with both out there living their best lives with great partners and a gaggle of beautiful kids. 

    I know it's difficult, but you can't change it, and you're you no matter what happens to you. If someone leaves you because of this, then realise it's not actually about you, it's about their own fear. Don't settle for anyone that judges you for this.

    You are special and unique and your worth has not changed. Don't let anyone question your worth, including yourself. 

    Much love and peace to you. This is a challenging time for you, but you will get through it. 

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  4. Thanks for your reply @mr_hopp. I only take it when I feel an outbreak coming on. I have had herpes for 15 years so I don't feel bad about it. But I've only started having outbreaks in the last 2 years so haven't much experience with the meds. Just finding when I take them it I am getting grumpy and tired. But there may be no correlation 😂

  5. I read this re a herpes self help group, thought it was pretty cool:

    ”We do a self-esteem exercise with a crumpled $20 bill, where I ask clients to go around the room and beat it, write on it, and stomp on it, while still keeping it intact,” Wood said. “Then I ask them how much it’s worth. Still $20, they’ll say.’”

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  6. Heya, I’ve had it for about 15 years. I had the initial outbreak back then and then nothing until a year ago! Boooo! I was so mad. I HATE telling my husband that I’m having another outbreak (particularly because I caught it while we were on a break 🤦‍♀️) but he never reacts badly.

    It’s not a fun time when you first get diagnosed and if you’re like me, you will know fundamentally that you are not any less but you will have moments of self doubt. That’s just life though, we always have these moments in our lives when something is dragging us down, whether it’s a serious illness, a minor illness (like herpes, for most of us) or a bad hair day.

    I feel like you’re going to be ok. You have a great foundation with the knowledge you have from your friend and sister. This sucky time will pass for you x

  7. Hi,

    These forums can definitely be dire. I am one of those folk who is completely fine with my diagnosis but I think that’s because I had to tell 2 sexual partners about it straight away and they were both totally chill which made me reflect on my initial horror lol. I like to come on here because it’s not one of those things that you can just talk about in general conversation so it’s a safe place to chat. I am also interested in other people’s experiences. 
     

    I’ve definitely taken breaks from forums though. If I feel myself getting frustrated with other people’s anger/sadness/bitterness I know it’s time for a break.

    Stay positive and do what feels right for you ❤️

  8. On 1/6/2020 at 8:53 PM, Kymberly said:

    My 17 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with genital herpes she is still a virgin and  does not get oral cold sores.  My husband and I suffer with oral herpes but not genital herpes how could this have happened?  so confused:classic_angry:

    Hi Kymberly, it is unlikely that your oral herpes has anything to do with your daughter. I would say she has caught it through some kind of sexual contact, whether that’s through oral sex or touching. She might not be straight up with you because you’re her parents. Don’t worry about where it came from, just be there to listen if she needs it.

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  9. Hey guys just remember that your donor may not even realize they have herpes so don't feel too much anger without knowing the full story.

    I caught it from someone who never had any symptoms so there's no way he would have known he had it. And besides I took the risk by having sex so it doesn't actually matter how I got it.

    Dramatic reactions like cutting people out of your life are actually because of your misconceptions about STDs. ANYONE who has sexual contact can contract an STD so there's no point stigmatising them.

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