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Everything posted by My_dog_is_hungry

  1. Everyone is different. I had my first ob 15 years ago, then nothing for well over a decade. Then I start getting them sporadic like 4 times a year for 2-3 years. I just finished a 3 month period of it coming on and off short obs followed by short breaks. I quit a crap job and now I haven't had a twinge in 8 weeks.
  2. I don't personally subscribe to the "meant to be" thing. You're right, he's young, he may not get it. This relationship might not work out and that will be awful. It may have failed without this thing and then you might have nothing to blame. Life is hard, here's an extra hard bit for you. I can tell you that this is a blip unless you fixate on it. If you want to chat, I'm here for you, or I can suggest some good motivational Instagram pages to follow. Don't let the negativity poison your mind-and I'm a pessimist ๐Ÿ˜‚ You have not changed. You are important. You are special. You are worthy. Xx
  3. @VA2121 you are idealising a relationship you once had. It's easy to do when you're not happy. For all you know, this person used your herpes as an out. You are in a bad place, I appreciate that, but you must stop spreading this negativity. Herpes is not the end of your life as you know it. Just Stop.
  4. You don't know what the future holds. I broke up with my partner and started dating someone else, came crawling back to my ex, with herpes. He took me back, with herpes. Decent people who care about you, as opposed to just your sex organs, will accept you the way you come.
  5. Wow, I feel for your wife. If you don't love her, cut her loose so that she can find someone who will. You don't need to settle because you have herpes. Ridiculous.
  6. That's not accurate about your virus location. I have outbreaks in different areas. My first was internal and my latest have been booty area. I don't know much about shedding but I do know that you might have different outbreak locations.
  7. Sounds like maybe you have some anxiety and this is how it's manifesting itself? Best of luck with your treatment. 2020 has been a ghastly year xx
  8. Blood tests aren't that common for herpes in my country. You can have one after diagnosis to determine type. I'm not sure about the reliability of the blood test. I probably wouldn't worry about it without another outbreak. That gyno sounds shite.
  9. If multiple doctors have told you the same thing and you can't accept it, maybe you might need a bit of therapy. Not being mean or anything, it's just that your catastrophising something that a. You have tested negatively for and b. Isn't actually a big problem for most. I feel like it's having more impact on your life then it would if you had been diagnosed. Most of us on here have it so we're ill equipped to help someone get over their negative status ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‚
  10. It's not permanent, don't panic. Mine lasted for a year but it went away after that.
  11. There is definitely a possibility he had it first. You can carry the disease for years without knowing you have it. It makes me mad that he's laying the blame at your feet. I broke up with my partner and dated someone else. 2 weeks after sleeping with my new partner I developed an outbreak. We broke up and I got back together with my ex. Even he, in his situation, is wise enough to realise that we can't fully know where it came from. And actually, does it matter. That's the thing, you've got it, he's got it. Laying blame achieves nothing, which is why myself and my now husband don't even talk about the source, or concern ourselves with it.
  12. I had zero outbreaks for nearly 15 years and bam now I have them frequently. I think it's hormonal changes as I age and stress. I've never altered my diet - it's always been a bit haphazard ๐Ÿ˜‚
  13. I'm with @JackDaniels. You need to move on mate. Just sounds like you got a bit of an injury. If it happens again, go back to doc.
  14. Defo doesn't sound hsv related. The infection might have been slightly stronger than the antibiotics so resurfaced after you stopped taking them, then your immune system could tackle this bit on its own ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ just a theory.
  15. Definitely don't pop them! Keep them dry and maybe try a different antiviral? I hear lemon balm works and if you're in the US Femiclear have released a good product that is helping a lot of people with their symptoms.
  16. Either one of you could have had it without outbreaks so she can't lay the blame on you yet, but if your former sex partners had it, chances are you do too. Where I'm from, you can only get swabs on sores and then if you test positive you can get a blood test to determine type (I didn't bother) but I'm not sure about the reliability of the blood test. What the heck is "massive sex"?
  17. If you're in the US apparently femiclear have released a product that's really helping people out.
  18. 2 weeks after I quit my job of 4 months, my outbreak of 3.5 months went away ๐Ÿ˜‚ coincidence ๐Ÿค” I doubt it.
  19. Do you still get periods? When you get an outbreak is it near your period? Or do you have other hormonal things going on? I've found when my hormones are causing problems I get outbreaks. Just wondering if it's hormones causing both the outbreaks and the bad feelings.
  20. The fact this is happening every 10 days is weird. Doesn't sound herpeish.
  21. My husband does workplace drug testing and he told me it was staggering how many people were on medication for anxiety and depression. So I asked my doctor about it. I asked if we were over medicated and if I should be trying harder to not be on meds. She told me that there may be some over medicating in there to a small degree, but that we live in a world where we have a lot to worry about. Climate change, war, political unrest, terrorism, not to mention all the individual pressure we have to achieve and do the right things. And we also know all of this because we have all the information about it at the tips of our fingers (phones). Now we have a pandemic that has had world wide implications for health and economics. That's a lot to be worried about, so I would imagine there's a lot more anxiety out there. I'm in New Zealand, in a barely hit city, but its still touched a lot of people here. I guess my message is, don't let the anxiety win, but don't feel bad for having it. It doesn't make you weak to have mental illness. But it does make you strong to be able to acknowledge it. โค๏ธ
  22. Hiya, Anxiety is a tricky little bitch. Herpes doesn't cause anxiety but I'll bet your brain is using at against you. I have anxiety and sometimes I think something specific is causing, but when I remove that something, the anxiety remains. I believe that sometimes our minds reach for tangible causes for our mental illness and this can be true. But in the case of herpes, I don't think so.
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