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Kacey last won the day on October 7 2019

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  1. You are welcome dear. I haven't seen my gynae in a long while. You know what really helps. Exercising, managjng stress through a coping skill, eating lots of fruits and veges, taking vitamin c, herpes meds and probiotics. You can also take multivitamins. Oh yes DRINK A WHOLE LOT OF WATER. SLEEP WELL. Focus on Goals...Honestly once i have started doing this overtime i havent had an outbreak. Initially those steps were taken to show myself that i am still going to take "care of me" and "love me" despite herpes. Turns out it had lot more benefits. Note: I do have relapses from time to time. I will cry or vent on the forum. So I started seeing a pyschologist to help me with the mental "symptoms" that comes with hsv but physically i am fine.
  2. I agree with you. I think this support group has helped me alot. May I add that i was once negative too but overtime i started gaining confidence.
  3. Honestly for me, I am not ashamed when guy's say they dont date people with herpes because before i contracted it I was one of them who feared STDS. Remember it is highly stigmatized. Spend some time becoming more knowledgeable about the illness and NEVER disclose too early. Stay positive but be smart as well.
  4. That's just not true about your dating life coming to an end because if herpes
  5. I told my psychologist that i joined an online support group for herpes. I told her how much i liked it and listed the benefits. However she said , sometimes online support groups cause one to be more depressed or anxious because of others strong opinions. Especially if you already suffering mentally because of this illness. She shared a powerful article too. Read this everyone: "How herpes became the sexual boogeyman" She also said. The illness itself is not what most people fear but it's the stigma attached to it that has caused the fear shame and guilt. For those who struggle with disclosure: She also said we should find courage in our vulnerability. I asked another psychiatrist why people do those evil things? (this is specifically who were victims of sexual predators like myself. The guy purposely gave it to me. ) Her response was that its human nature to be selfish and sometimes other people are battling their own demons. It's just sad that they drag innocent people in their own battles. She also said (this is the most important part) ‼you never know what people are capable of doing as such it's your responsibility to protect yourself against the unseen. ‼
  6. I have huge problem. Before contracting herpes when i shave or was i use to get terible ingrows and itching when the hair was growing back. Now after ciontracting herpes , i didny shave for a year. Now after i shave recently, the bumps arent like the pripr ingrowns but rather small. My vagina is very itchy and red bunps come where the hair follicle is. Its not fill with pus. Could shaving trigger OB?
  7. I wrote my story in an article(anonymously) of how my ex who was a sexual predator will8ng transferred the virus to me without my consent even though he knew i was a virgin. This incidebt triggered an mental illness trait that is genetically predisposed. I have learnt that my ex is still with his next victim but the way i see it, she doesnt care that he willingly gave her the virus. I recieved alot of sympathy and even follow up replies that people are keeping me in their prayers. Ofc, there were backlash and others ridiculed my situation. I honestly wish my ex will get serious punishment in life. I tell myself everyday that i will kill him. A rapist and predator deserves to die. ( please do not call the cyber unit lol) Even though i am not as pretty as I was before, i have gained alot of belly fat and acne prone face after the herpes and also mental illness trigger.Nonetheless I am still attractive plus I have hip and big booty , so naturally I attract alot of men. So far i have been flirting with all the men i meet, going out on dates, knowing i have no intention to be with most of them. It's as if i am using them to feel good about myself sexually. Ever since my diagnosis , i have learnt aloooot , from reading redflags to adding tax to my worth. I am not applying this knowledge fully to my life though. Anyway, there is this one guy that stood out. I honestly want to be with this guy but i dont want to give him herpes nor do i want to disclose but that would make me a predator like my ex , seeing its highly contagious. He hardly ever mention my physical attributes, he is more focused on my personality and personal development and he always surprise me with gifts. Take me out on dates and is still patiently waiting on me but i feel like to leave him alone. This is third good guy i am giving up because i have herpes. Sigh, i just keep flirting with some other guys that i already flagged but as i said earlier i am afraid to have sex with a next man. My first experience in relationship ruined me. Should I tell him or leave him to be? I wish there was a cure. I deserve a second chance, my second chance would allow me to choose better men.
  8. I dont want have a victim mentality mindset but i really wonder why i couldnt have been the lucky few that caught a curable STD, even syphillis is better than herpes. Herpes cant be cured and you have to deal with annnoying outbreaks plus stigma. I wonder how people with HIV/AIDS keep up. I dont want to be negative nancy but lets face it, Its sad. I was a freaking virgin when i caught the STD and now i have to let all the good men pass me by. Fantasising about a cure for herpes, meeting a man that loves me despite herpes and also meeting my standards, having to worry if my vagina still look sexually appealimg or smells good if i do choose to have sex again. I honestly feel like going out there and hurting guys the same way i was hurt especially the ones who act as if they are walking on gold diamond or glass.... i have given up, not going to give anyone the choice to be with me, i am going to have sex,hide my condtion and take my meds. I sound like a bitch but i really want a boy friend, i cant deal.with the sexual fustration.its getting to me. I am sad. I was all positive about herpes but it was only cover i put but truly deep down inside,I AM HURT
  9. How do you know when you have asymptomatic shedding? What is it like? What is this tingy feeling yall talk about? I only get bumps once in a good while. I wonder if its herpes bumps or just regular vaginal pimples. I have never experienced an outbreak like my first. There were two instances where i had two tough lumps on my vagina. I was wondering if it was herpes or hpv. Sigh. Someone explain please the symptoms and how to recognize an outbreak or shedding.
  10. You know that where i live hsv1 is not a big problem people call it night fever because even babies have it. They dont call it herpes when its oral even though it is but the genital herpes you will get slashed for.
  11. DONT DO IT. Thats a terrible idea. Screen this man properly first
  12. Wow. I would suggest that you try to adopt a new lifestyle. This includes eating healthy, more vegetables and taking vitamin supplements. Try to exercise daily and limit stress and depression. The stringer the immune system, the bettet. When I feel depress or stress , I start watching motivational videos, movies and i have developed a routine that keeps me busy. It Helps me to not focus too much on my status. If you want sexual release, there is always masturbation ( thats if you dont have a problem doing it).
  13. We all make mistakes , its just unfortunate that some mistakes have permanent consequences but the moment you start accepting it, the better. You are probably srressing so the outbreaks are frequent
  14. We are so similiar. Hi. I am only meds for depression as a result from schizophreniform. I had nightmares too and i had suicidal ideations as well but i had to think about how my family would feel if i killed myself. I realised also that alot of persons have herpes. Alot of people have type 1 though. I get antidepressants too but i dont get outbreaks. Havent had an outbreak since my first. The suicidal thoughts will go away after a while. Just try to remain positive , i know its hard but still try. You can inbox me. Currently I dont feel suicidal but i feel numb. I believe we can help each other.
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