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@dancer- yes def worth it. I know the feeling!! All through highschool i would use rubbing alcohol. Ouch!! @Ra- thats good that it didnt get very big! Good thing you caught it early :-) When i got them in highschool they would be horrible!! Really big and clusters of blisters. I'd beg my mom to let me stay home from school lol They have since calmed down but they're still painful :-/ Good luck to you. I hope it goes away soon. <3

Yeah understandable. Since I have it handy I'm definitely going to use it though! I'm going to look into that ammonium alum. Heard a lot of ppl talk about it.

@ra.. 4 weeks? Ouch!!. Without meds? @wcs. I've also had hsv- 1 oral since i was young. Nobody ever said i could take meds for em. I def wouldve! But thanks good to know :) thanks!!!

Hi guys!! Sorry I've been m.I.a the last few weeks :( theyve have been rough. From a sick kid, to a sick dog, being sick myself, long busy days at work and a lovely neighbor bringing bugs to the whole building... ive been pretty busy. That being said I knew the stress was going to cause an outbreak. I haven't been eating as well or exercising as often and ive been stressing, so I just knew it was coming. Sunday I decided I was going to get my shit together and stop worrying about things out of my control. Went for a 10 mile run, got my meal plan for the week and I was feeling pretty good... Well too late lol today I got that tingle. You know the one.. look in the mirror... damn it! Two cold sores. Go figure. At least its not the Australian cold sores, right ;) (yet anyway) My question is...two actually.. could this mean I might have an ob in my lady parts soon too? Also I have my acyclovir script since I don't take it as a suppressive (I'd rather let my body learn how) and was wondering if it would help hsv1-oral? I took two ! Just incase. :)

AWE ! Herry doesn't have a "chip" herry himself has been my biggest supporter, friend, confidant, tough love giver, and one of the most positive people I've ever met! Not only with herpes but at this point he is my friend! Even with life complications in general. He always offers an ear, a joke, a witty comeback and the truth! Sometimes the things he says are hard to hear bc theyre true, BUT I can assure you he meant no harm. :)

YA!!! i knew it was going to work out for you! I love when i can say "told ya so" :-P hehe

@victoria... off topic totally (I know herry won't mind lol) but I admire your strength for over coming those things. I lost my dad to an addiction and to hear youre recovering and inspiring others while doing so makes my heart smile so big. ♡ As for the soap box.. nobody does it like you herry... well besides dancer lol... but I totally agree. In a world full of diagnosis that we have no choice over... (cancer, heart disease, infertility etc) I believe (in my opinion) a person should have the RIGHT to choose to stay and be precautious OR have the choice not to. I will always give the choice to another. I'd rather have his respect and be single then have him angry or resentful. I look at it like this... if i couldnt have children and was with a man who wanted kids badly, but i never told him for fear of rejection.. (say i didnt give him an STD )and took away HIS CHOICE to maybe find someone who could. So you see its not about "judging or calling ppl monsters" its just about being human . With humans... we all screw up, but the beauty of it is tomorrow is another day to find yourself & be who you want to be. Someone others can admire. Everyday is a chance for change and love :) I always tell myself "Do to others as you would have done to you." Be kind to each other bc love beats hate everytime♡ *drops microphone* Goodnight yall :)

We are all here if you want to talk privately. We all genuinely care about one another. And I just want to say that if at any time you felt I was saying anything out of anger... I was not (its hard to decipher tone through reading a strangers words) I just want to be straight forward and honest with you. Right now I'm more concerned with your "swallow a bottle of pills" issues. So please reach out anytime you have those kind of moments

FIRST suicide is not the answer and I'm really concerned for you. If I was given the choice I couldve opted for condoms...pushed for drugs. I had neither for my protection. I truly cared for him & I know in my heart weither it was my ex or my present I wouldve got informed... made sure I was protected and TRIED to make it work. Thats all I can say is that I wouldve tried. Now for a hook up or one night stand...or someone i wasnt really into.. just killing time with or whatever then. no thanks. That I can say

And how did it go? Bc hate breeds hate.. not just for herpes but in general. You ARE better then the person who took away your choice. Dont go to the selfdegrating shameful place. And I say that with love

Bc if you don't tell them and they get it... and you still break up... not only do they have it but they were lied to and feel resentment towards you bc you stole the choice from them. My body my choice... not someone else's.

You'd rather live with yourself as a lIar then as having herpes? I'm js.. I'd rather just have herps. Nobody is trying to scare you. Were just voicing thoughts and opinions just like you are

Not knowing and passing it on isn't the same as lying to someone. You don't understand that, really? Or is that what you tell yourself to help yourself feel liberated by what you're saying? Doont you wish you had the choice? I know I do I

Well strawberry.. good luck to you. @victoria.. agreed.

To havr kids you can't use condoms. Would you disclose when you got to that point? Again... just a question. Dont cuss me out

@thisisgoingtobeok... he's a jerk. Plain and simple. Like i said earlier..... If you ever want to chat. All things moral or not .. lol totally kidding (its a bit stuffy on here ) just shoot me a msg!

@strawberry.. I'm just sayimg how I'd react. I'd consider it as a lie. But you may find someone understanding. I hope that for you. @thisisgoingtobeok..I know you are not attacking and if you have any other questions you can feel free to PM me. we are together still and I do know how lucky I am but I was mentally prepared for him to leaveand I knew at that point if he left left and I ever want to be with someone again I would have to tell them.I am very big on do to others as you would have them do to you and I know I would have wanted someone to tell me ..but the day I found out I did have to tell my boyfriend someone I already love and took the risk of him leaving instead of me keeping it to myself. . It was difficult and I cried for a long time trying to muster up the courage so I do kind of understandthe difficulty of having to tell ..I am truly very sorry that the guy you were with wouldn't accept it. I just know I wouldn't take the 2 percent chance of passing it on every time someone without giving them the choice right owrong or indifferent that is my opinion

Last thing ill say here. Since you dont want to hear my thoughts anyway... if I was with someone for years.. loved them shared a life with them only to find out they were lying to me. I'd leave. Herpes or not. A lie is a lie. Its a moral battle. That would hurt more then rejection of the first few months of knowing a person but Clearly your mind is made up and I wish you the best.

woah woah woah now. pipe down lady. I was just ASKING you a question. I wasnt being judgement. Just wondering how you would handle it IF you ended up passing it on to someone you were sleeping with. Youre the only one being judgemental here.

Well Im glad you have it all figured out :-)

Dont take this as a bash or an attack b/c i am asking these questions in a serious manner as someone who was not told. Just trying to see the other side of the playground here and understand your thoughts.. So you dont care if you give someone else herpes? b/c although condoms and valtrex LOWER the percentage it doesnt take it away completely. If it never happens.. thats super awesome and that is possible but if that 1% chance (everytime you have sex) gets to your partner within the first few months... what is your plan of action when they have their OB?

I honestly love you guys LOL I am going to look up tantric sex as well.. HMM!?!?

IMO this post is going way off course. at the end of the day we all need to find strength to overcome the HSV stigma. Talking about it without feeling "yucky" is the first step in that direction. In this case @stuckinarut needs to find strength to be able to tell this guy that she has herpes and that now he needs to be tested (in 3 months) . It would've been easier to do this before becoming intimate with him. That is all we are saying... everyone here has an opinion and that is... not disclosing to someone is the wrong thing to do. The nicest way to say it is "hey you really shouldn't have done that" comes in all different ways, and its hard to tell "tone" in an email but i am sure there is not one person in this forum who is saying anything in a mean, or rude mannor. At this point the guy needs to be told so he can take proper precautions. bc herpes is the gift that keeps on giving. So how about you ask this guy out for coffee or maybe a drink and just tell him "look i feel terrible for not telling you sooner, but I have herpes. Do you know anything about it?" if he says No.. use that chance to educate him. He will be angry and shocked, so mentally prepare yourself for that, but im sure he will respect the fact that at least youre telling him now.. and not in 6 months. better then late then never (or even later)

Amen sister!

Agreed with Herry 110% He is not telling her shes a horrible person, but what he is saying is correct. I wish the person who gave this to me would've given me a choice. Right wrong or indifferent everyone here wishes we could go back and MAKE THIS DECISION FOR OURSELVES. If someone discloses and you chose to get into that relationship knowing the info and then you got herpes well you took a risk and here you are. for the rest of us we had to just wake up one day with a bunch of bumps and wonder WTH happened here? If you dont know and pass this .. well how can anyone be angry with you? If you know, as we all do, it is our repsponsibility to suck it up and be mature enough to deal with it, and not put this upon anyone else without giving them the information and resources they deserve to be able to make an informed decision about their body.