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Awe <3 You have kept me sane many of nights & I am honored to call you my friend! Thanks for always reminding me that there is more to life then blisters. XoXoXo

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA omg where do i sign my bf up for this!?!?!

Yeah I know. I remember those feelings all too well. I literally spent that week in my shower in the fetal position. Its too easy to let it get you down. What you need to do is dig down deep and find your inner strength and rise above the crap the stigma puts in your head. b/c it really is going to be ok. There are many veterans here that can attest to that. Not saying you wont have moments of "ew i hate myself" i just had one the other day, but you have to find a way to love yourself again. Bumps and all :-/ If he really does care about you though he isn't going to run for the hills. Esp if he has it too. What would be the point in that? :-) You can PM me anytime if you want! xo

Hey lady!! IDK about the blood vs OB/non OB results? But I know its hard sitting there hoping for something and having to wait and wait, but try to look at it like this... YOUVE COME SO FAR in this with us. If it comes back postitive you just pick up where you left off. No shocker right? If i comes back negative.... (high fives all around ) you can go on with your life and your man... (and maybe come back and say hi to us from time to time :-)) BUT take everything you learned here and educate ignorance. Even as a H- person.. Youre going back out there stronger, more informed and you have a second chance. Either way there is a silver lining!! Keep me posted when you get your results. Fingers crossed for you!! <3

The day i told him he didnt know yet. He called his Dr and asked if they had his results yet. They didn't and the Dr said he would check on them and call him back. The next day he got the call and thats when he found out that he was pos too. SO we dont know who gave it to who.

You are def not alone! There are good days and bad days and worse days lol but you are not alone in any of those feelings :-) Well i thought i had a really bad yeast infection so when I made my appt i told him that i was going to get tested and i wanted him to do the same. I sorta felt like something wasn't right. So he went a few days after me. Knowing he was going to get his results anyway i almost thought about letting him tell me first. Eventually i couldn't handle looking in his face everyday knowing what i knew and not telling him. Thats as bad as a lie (at this point i was on antibiotics for BV. - double whammy, so we werent having sex, so thats how i rationalized not telling him right away) One day i was just like "I got my results back. Everything else was negative, but it came back positive for herpes. Did you get yours back yet?" I just blurted it out. I was such a coward for so long (that week and some odd days felt like an ENTERITY) that was the only way i could do it without "um i have to tell you something... "um dont be mad at me ok?.. "um your not going to be happy about this but... So i just said it straight forward. I prepared myself mentally for him to leave if his test was negative, but before he even knew his results he said he wasnt going anywhere. Relief washed over me... and at that moment i started feeling better. Did my research, found this site, and slowly been climbing up out of the hole i fell into a few months ago. Im sure there are better ways then just "hey i have herpes" lol but for me i just wanted to say it... be done with it. regardless of the outcome. ya know?

Hey Mel! Welcome :-) Our situations are pretty similar as far as finding out about H after already being in a committed relationship. So let me say from experience... the longer you wait to tell him, the more you will feel guilty and the worse you are going to feel about yourself. I spent the week while waiting for my results, and then about 3 or 4 days after the Dr called and told me my diagnosis before telling me BF. I cried the entire time mainly b/c i thought for sure he was going to get angry and leave. However; he was totally supportive and said he wasn't going anywhere and that we'd get through it together. We slept together for 4 months with NO signs or symptoms, so it was a total shock for us both. We both have it (he got the blood test done) Although we dont talk about it at all anymore we've both agreed to stand by each other and deal with it together. So maybe you should just tell him. Its a hard pill to swallow and really hard to say out loud, but once you do his reaction might be exactly what you need to start feeling better and accepting this. Hopefully he will support and stick by you and thats the first step to heal... not to mention you'll have someone to go through the journey with you. :-)

Wow! If this was me I'd def be saying "go figure" lol and the wrong persons results?!? what a story! I can't imagine what that felt like. I mean I've accepted it for what it is but if the powers that be were like "syke jus playin'" (in my will smith voice) I'd def do a happy dance. Haha. And although you ended up getting herpes anyway... the way you talk about it... sounds to me like your still pretty badass :) and just goes to show how common it really is. Hopefully you can get your old attitude back. :) welcome ! And if ya ever wanna chat I'm all ears!

google images for herpes are the WORST!

It was a long two weeks to say the least. But i had all the classic yeast infection symptoms (atleast what i read online and was told. I've never had any issues down south prior to this. so i just took a friends words for it when i explained the symptoms to her and got OTC meds) The bumps didnt show up until i finished the OTC treatment. So im not sure if i did infact have a yeast infection first which brought it on or if it was just all part of my first OB.

When i went to my GYN my original Dr was out, so i saw a colleague of hers (after treating myself for what i thought was a yeast infection that wouldn't go away and needed a RX) She asked if i was in a new relationship and i said yes. She asked if i would like to be tested since i was already there... of course i said yes. SO she swabbed me & took my blood (at this time i still didnt think i had herpes. I read online that severe yeast infections could cause blisters or cuts again google = crap) She told me that I had BV (which i did) and I sat up. "so what all am i getting tested for?" she responded "all the usual suspects, Chlamydia, Ghonneria, syphillis, and HIV" "what about Herpes and HPV? " well your last Pap came back fine so we arent worried about HPV (mind you i had high grade cancer cells 5 years ago and had part of my cervix removed, so you would think she'd be more willing to not blow me off here) and we dont test for herpes unless you have symptoms. At this point i was so mad, i said well i know i have a few bumps down there. Why dontcha take a look at em! the entire time she was sabbing me, she didnt even SEE them! Once I brought it to her attention she swabbed then and also took another vile of blood. She said "oh yeah it does look like you have herepes. Heres a prescription. Take these twice a day and ill call you as soon as i can verify with your test results. IF its not herpes these pills wont hurt you" Needless to say, from now on, i will wait for MY Dr.

I have no idea! lol I have HSV2 and it came from one of two people. If #1- i went 6-8 months before having an outbreak. We broke up in March and I had my OB in november if #2- (my current relationship) it took 4 months before i knew it. we started dating in july. not so much as an itch for 4 months, then BOOM! Either way there is no exact science to it. Although i wish there was. Even being in an accepting relationship already, sometimes i just wish i knew. Either way. But it is what it is at this point.

Well first it does not mean he cheated on you. If you were diagnosed with HSV1 It is someting he could've had orally since childhood. I have HSV1 oral and I can't remember the last time I had a cold sore. Its been atleast 4 or 5 years. So yes it is possible that during oral sex he transmitted HSV1 to you genitally unknowingly. I do believe that if you got it from him than he already has the anitbodies for it and you wont transmit it back to him (but ill let one of the more informed members here confirm that?) From what i've read HSV1 tends to prefer the northern regions of the body so in time your OBs should become less frequent and less severe. The only way to know for sure if by his test results. But you've come to the right place. Everyone here is absolutely wonderful. Welcome :-)

I am amazed by your strength and positivity. YOU GO GIRL! The week after i found out (yes the entire week) I was in the fetal postition crying in my shower. lol Although i can laugh about it now b/c its so silly in the grand scheme of things i truly felt disgusting and defeated. For others who are new to this I am sure some probably feel the same way. Anyway before i get carried away lol everything you said is SO true, and someone else reading this who is newly diagnosed will hopefully find some relief and comfort in your words. Welcome to our little H family. Its the absolute bestest!!! <3

Oh snap. Guess ill start saving money for a plane ticket!

Amen ! & totes magots. I know what I'm being for "H"alloween this year anybody else?? Lol @wcs.. you should look into a career in marketing. Lol

"Himple cream. For the pimples on your dimples down there" I am in tears. bahaha

I am here and i am laughing my ass off literally!!!! I would totally be all over a guy with a blue face in a kilt who smelt like BBQ, bacon, a tree and motor oil. JS!!!! lolololol Herry I <3 you for real! hahahah

@victoriaxxx- from someone who used to smoke a pack a day... Quitting was the BEST thing i've ever done. March will be 3 years! even now sometimes when i drink ill get the urge.. take one or two puffs and im like "icky" LOL If you can make it past the first week it gets easier, just keep going!!!! :-)

YAY!!!!!! Beautiful lady super proud of you. I'd give you a huge hug right now if i could xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

And by not contagious.. I meant to those I'm not getting naked with of course LOL

@klopz. You were the first person I talked to on here and whenever your ready to put a pic or tell a friend in your life..lmk. we can stand tall together ... unashamed and strong. Xo @herry if I find "my pair" under a kilt.. I have bigger fish to fry. Lol but yes its a bitter sweet feeling. Its liberating for sure but I can't help letting that stigma get in my brain. "Picture on the internet lasts forever" however; I suppose forever is a word I need to learn to love ;) @wcsdancer- haha that poor sleepy little town. Throw in a little wine and ill paint my face & walk witcha! As for your coming out story.. BRAVO! I am not that brave yet. Tho I hope to be able to say" I have herpes, I'm not contagious, but if you don't like me F you!" Maybe someday! ;) @victoria. Thank you so much! ♡

Never thought i'd say that! and its not the closet i always thought of when i heard others say it, but a closet none-the-less! And even now just added a face to my name its the errie, nervous feeling. silly, right?! lol The only person i have told about my new friend is the person i was dating at the time i got my test results and although he had nothing but positive things to say to me, I still feel as though i have to "hide" it. I have come to terms with it for the most part but i still can't ever see me having a conversation (with anyone, not just a potential sex partner) and saying "hi, how are you?! Im well thanks! I have herpes. Have a good day!" But a part of me just wants to own it and move on with my life. So i have decided to peak out of the crack of the closet door and add a photo on here. Where i feel safe and non-judged just for starters. Maybe it'll kick start me into growing a pair to be able to tell others in my life what i've experienced and learned on this journey i've been on so far. Where i can love MYSELF shamelessly!!! and even though this is such a tiny little step on my way to fully accepting myself I sorta feel like Mel Gibson in "Braveheart" Face painted blue yelling "H will never take our freedom" haha horrible joke! ps. You guys are all super amazing :) This forum is totally awesome! "You are confined only by the walls you build around yourself. " "On the other side of fear is freedom. " <3

I dont know you well, but this has enraged me as if we were besties! What a bitch! I'd use another word, but i wont be entirely inappropriate as i dont know how young the ages go on here. ( But im sure you can figure it out ;-) ) Clearly she is a selfish, inconsiderate person and although you had to meet our friend H to see that about her i think you should count your blessings that you didnt end up being with her. (you could've been the boyfriend she cheated on next month and then ran away to some romantic place with.) Lets throw around the word derserve..... There is nothing you could've done to "DESERVE" to get herpes no more then those kids on the St Judes commercials "DESERVE" to have cancer. You DO DESERVE to find a nice girl (and she isnt it). If you wouldn't have gotten herpes from her you could've went on with your life and left her alone with her boyfriend, but you would've been leaving her while caring about her and wondering "what if" about this person you thought you knew. maybe comparing the next woman to her and putting her on some type of pedestal. (just going from what you said about not being something you usually get involved in) without seeing this cold hearted side of her .. Which i think speaks volumes about her lack of compassion, selfishness and poor charecter as a human being. Thank you Herpes for showing us the true colors of this woman. Let her go be with him. Clearly she doesnt "DESERVE" you!

Idk about blood test results but for a culture (and I'm diggin back in my memory bank from a bio-technology class I took 10 years ago so it may have changed) but the swab would need to be sent to the lab and then they rub the swab into a dish which then sits to let it "grow". cultures usually take time before they grow enough be seen under a microscope.