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Proud of you :) We do ourselves a HUGE favor when we are able to let go for better.

Well they need to seriously make progress. I know there have been plenty who've tried, but I don't know what to believe when it comes to hearing how the trials failed or were shut down.... being in this forum helped me to realize how common this is and how much more it's becoming... The number of new diagnosis a year is pretty significant and can't be ignored. It's not the physical symptoms that's so much of the problem than it is the emotional distress caused by the stigma. Can't wait to see the outcomes... I'm keeping a positive attitude. *writing from an android ugh so annoying lol

@PaullPaul, Thanks for sharing. I'm going to do some research on it.

@Paullpaul If those girls told you that then they aren't for you. Don't take it personal... It is fair for them to make that decision... and they may have did you a big favor. BUT first think about yourself so YOU CAN MOVE ON. Get tested and go from there. You don't even know if you have it or not and you are creating your own hysteria. You can do this... with everything is a lesson to learn. Either way this should make you more careful.

Approach it calmly and in a concerned, but not frightened manner. I would approach as an even playing field because again you don't know who contracted it from who, but it is mostly likely you did from him by what you stated above. IF I WAS YOU, I'D SAY SOMETHING LIKE THIS TO THE NEW GUY AFTER TESTING: After we had sex I noticed this, this and that. I have never experienced , nor have I ever had an STI. It shocked me so I went to the doctor to get tested and this was the result. I have not been on the dating seen in quite a well so this is very new to me. There is no real way to pin point how this came about so I am trying to be reasonable. Have you ever experienced this or tested positive for this? It will be best for the both of us that you get tested so that we can better figure things out. I would approach as an even playing field because again you don't know who contracted it from who, but by what you stated above it is mostly likely you did from him... only my personal opinion. I hope this helps..

Hi Beclizzy and welcome. I think you shouldn't worry so much until you get a confirmation from the dr... Just try to prepare yourself for the news, but worrying in between time won't help. Yes, it sucks because you can rarely tell who you may have contracted it from and when. I think you should hold off on anymore sex until you get get news back from the doctor then decide when you are going to disclose it.... SOON after. And yes, bc you don't know if it came from your new guy he should be tested too. Who knows? He may have given it to you. You can never tell so maybe you should probably ask your previous partner. Some guys just don't disclose, and some don't even know they have it. Dating is never easy... well it wasn't for me even when I was a virgin a little over two years ago... but having this can make you more careful to be certain if someone is right for you. It takes time... but don't worry about this... The doctor's confirmation is first.

@Confused1988, Glad it has for you... It has made me really realize that not matter what happens to us in life (unless it's death), it is only meant to bring personal growth and improvement. Something so drastic in our minds, but so minor to life (non-life threatening), can bring you to a better place with yourself and with others if you allow it... It can for any and everyone.

Oh wow! Are you sure?? That is too unfortunate to believe... I don't see how it could happen like that. I'm believing it's sever diaper rash. Please hope for the better until the swab confirms... I AM.

WOW a ((herpes)) fairytale ending. I hope I have mine. ugh. I am so glad you shared this. And congratulations!

Hi PaullPaul, Welcome. Sorry to hear that you are under emotional distress... MANY of us have gone through what you are going through but you need to keep calm because you have not been diagnosed. You may not even have it. You should not worry about such until you get a diagnosis. And even after then, you should try to keep your worries at a minimal for it solves nothing. I hope that you do not in fact have it... but if it happens to be so IT IS STILL NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. I would have never believed that until now... I contracted in Nov and diagnosed in Dec... Between those weeks I did not worry much and tried to divert my attention to other things... I figured I'd get tested for everything and go from there. Is it scary yes, but this condition is not the worst and it's so common. I just hold faith to the fact that I will get passed this first accepting myself (mistakes and all) then finding someone who is accepting. Please RELAX before you make a mistake you can not turn back from. IT WILL BE OKAY. PROMISE :)

Will do... Once I get the strength to go lol. I don't know if I can take anymore news at the moment since I am still adjusting to this. And that's if the website is correct about the herpes on cervix relationship with cancer. It JUST increases your chances from what it says. And I know a woman who has 4 children and one on the way.... She has herpes and never had any complications... they are just possibilities but SMALL ones.. as long as you share with your doctor you have herpes and want to do what you can to prevent possible transmission during labor you will be fine. No OB during labor time and you can have a regular canal delivery. And same to you :)

Hey @justine1984 1.Does any of you have herpes on the cervix? I am going to get checked further to find out whether or not I do. You can't find reliable information about herpes on the cervix online (mainly I found something on blogs or discussion boards... no thank you), but I did stumble upon one some time ago and it said that herpes on the cervix can increase chances of cervical cancer. It did not elaborate or go into detail about anything else concerning this. (I tried to search for the website again. I will try again for myself as well and send the link to you.) I think that just watching for cervical cancer by getting check ups when you are due or when you are experiencing something abnormal will be enough to prevent this complication. 2. Why does it elect location there rather than "outside"? It generally and most often elects to breakout where ever the virus first entered the body. 3. Is there any risk for fertility and child birth? There is a risk to a newborn contracting H... the most prevalent one can be prevented with taking caution... the others are rare, but unavoidable. Here is the link to the information I found: http://www.nytimes.com/health/guides/disease/herpes-simplex/possible-complications.html 4. What do outbreaks feel like/look like, and how do you care for them? Outbreaks vary in look... because I have never notice and blisters then scabbing/crusting (which is the typical OB), I am not sure. But I learned about blisters, clusters/overlay of tiny bumps, even simple tiny pimple looking forms (single or numbered), or just even cuts/tears in the skin. I don't know anything to suggests for care, because I've mainly experience mild itching. Anti-virals, pain relievers, topical anti-virals may be effective, anti itch creams. There are others that are more on the home remedy side. AND yes, if it is not confirmed as hsv on the cervix. It could be hpv causing genital warts. I guess be clear to get the right test/examination to confirm. Get blood work.

Thanks for sharing the information on Hidradenitis... After you mentioned it I actually looked it up myself. I hope that one day the Netherlands will began to provide the proper treatment for it... for everyone who deals with it. Yes, I was thinking that it could possibly be the eczema TYPE thing, which is why I messages that to you.) I am glad that the doctor was able to get a successful swab. It would be more logical if it is HSV type 2. I hope that very soon you can get your situation under control. I know it's tough, but it seems like you are on top of things! P.S. Knowing which type of herpes matters when it comes to knowing the possible transmission rate to a potential partner :)

If you catch one before the other usually HSV1 then HSV2 then it can help provide combat which will weaken the occurrence and duration of outbreaks. Others will chime in... I am bored, and I love to be helpful so nice to meet you again lol

Oh wow! I've learned that you can get more reliable answers here than from the doctor. They are NOT exactly the same they look the same just about under the microscope. But they behave differently depending on the site (heads or tails haha). Oral HSV 1 is the most common... usually passed during childhood. It is becoming common to have genital HSV1 too... 50% of new cases are this due to oral sex. HSV2 is usually genital... and Oral HSV2 is RARE.. only about 1% of HSV2 infections. Here is a handout that sums it up pretty well http://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-diagnosis-handout.pdf

Oh, and you can order it online as well. :)

It's cool. lol. And between $18 to $22... I don't know exactly and I guess it depends on the drugstore. I know some have the little discount cards as well

Abreva is over the counter from what I know, and effective.

Hello again neverjaded lol. I responded to your last post. I do not have HSV1, but my little sister does and when she has an OB she drowns it in abreva then when it looks like it's starting to heal a bit she uses organic coconut oil. I hope this works for you!

Firstly, you articulated yourself very well. I understood :) Secondly, SORRY this has been very challenging for you to find information and get down the bottom of what's going on with you. :( BUT I am glad you found this forum :) I don't understand why the doctor did not AT LEAST swab the blister site(s) for confirmation. How can the two of you be sure it is HSV2 if not?? That's ridiculous! You said you and your partner have HSV1? (Although there is no testing there for it.) IF you two had oral sex than he could have been shedding and passed it to you lady part. That's a possibility... although I heard that if you have the same hvs virus in one place then it is hard to later get it in the other. The autoimmune disease MAY make this possible. AND you said she was sure IT WAS NOT herpes... well if so, another possibility is that it is not herpes, but another condition or infection that is causing it because you said you developed blisters and sores on other parts of your body. If it is herpes, maybe the two conditions are clashing because you said they were in the same site where you normally get a Hidradenitis outbreak... never heard of Herpes spreading like that but again, this is the first time I've heard of Hidraenitis. You said it is an autoimmune disease so I can imagine that it is making the herpes very difficult to suppress. I can also imagine it may be the initial outbreak since it is so bad. If it is herpes and you were recently exposed then your body has to learn to combat the condition, which is maybe why it is reoccurring in conjunction with your other condition. You need to find out if it is HSV2 and since they don't test for HSV1 (then you MAY be able to assume it is that). I feel for you. PLEASE BE STRONG! Come back if you have more questions.

Hi @victoriaxxx. This broke my heart. I am sorry to hear that this happened to you. The thought of it happening to anyone is upsetting. He could have save you the hurt feelings. That was rude and he knew he wasn't 100% sure from the start. Don't take it personal. Just forgive him. Show him how strong you are by forgiving him. I personally would want little to nothing to do with him again, but I'd at least do that. When something similar happens to him, he will reflect on this one day and feel like a jerk. Be strong. The one for you will come. This just builds patience. Much love

As time goes on, you will be better and began to look at this differently. Trust me, I do much more so now then I did before. And after a while, you will learn how to handle dating.... disclosure and all. This will just teach you how to be more certain. It is okay to date. Don't deny yourself that privilege. For now, try not to worry about that so much. You have to first accept yourself, even this aspect of you before another will be able to. Ms. WCSDancer2010 gave you all the information you'll need to get acquainted with the condition and how to prevent transmission to a potential partner. This is such a common condition and it is becoming even more common. This can help you get acquainted with H. It sums it up pretty well.. http://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-diagnosis-handout.pdf BE STRONG and cheer up :)

Awww... I know that is may be difficult right now, but don't be down. Many of us felt that way initially. I was diagnosed in December and it can be a tough process to learning and accepting this BUT the more you research here the better you will feel. This forum is filled with many supportive people are who or have gone through what you are going through now. Always feel free to talk to me and I will help as much as I can. I have my days where I feel like you do, but it has only gotten better. You will get through this. It's not as devastating as you think. There are plenty of people willing to accept this condition so you will find someone, and with this it will confirm who is really for you. much love (:

@onelovegirl Also, I would have him get tested for everything to. It is just as much about you being protected as it is him. It is good if both of you know y'all status. Idk if yours is genital, oral, hsv 1 or 2... And it is still a possibility that he could even have one, and even so possible that he could have oral hsv 1 since it is commonly contracted during childhood.

Aww... I think you should tell him everything you just told us... "I really dont want to keep going and let him keep thinking everything is ok with me when its not. Im putting myself in his shoes and I would like to know" Wait for when the floor opens up. (When the setting is right, that is.) AND also, be very careful of what language you use when talking to him... This condition isn't nowhere as big of a deal as society may make it out to be. Plus, there are many who don't see it as a big deal... and accept it. Don't assume before hand what response he'll give you and act on it. Sometimes we are wrong and unnecessarily set ourselves up (as if we just know we'll be turned down). Give him AS MUCH time as he needs to decide on his own. When disclosing sound warm and not afraid or uncertain. (Do cry either lol. That can be scary). Let him see that the condition isn't something to be afraid of, but something to be cautious about. I'd wait until I get things straight so I will be on top of things and appear that way... As long as you know which type you have and the preventative measures to take for you two, y'all will be a-okay. And when appropriate after disclosure, I would even ask him would he like to be educated on it. There are plenty of useful forms on here about disclosure and transmission. Just don't rush or overthink when the time is appropriate... let it flow. However, I can't tell you when as far as time wise what's right. Every possible disclosure situation (and potential partner) is different... :) Hope I helped. I hope things go well! And if not, H is acting as your wing man by weeding out those who aren't truly accepting of all aspects of you.