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I loved this... I almost cried. I have been too trusting all around, but I've learned. Gotta find the balance.

oh wow. @new_at_this I got what looked like herpes in my nose when I had strep, and it FREAKED me out (but that was before I contracted the H).... but I got it again in the same nostril a couple days ago after experiencing stuffy and runny nose two days before. I don't think they are related. I think it comes from having an irritated nose an contaminating it with bacteria on our hands.

Give it time. But love him enough to respect his choice. Some times the things we don't see as favorable are the better things for us. You want someone that will accept all aspects of you. And this is new to you as well as to him. You are probably bombarding him with information.

Here is a post you can look at about the chances of transmitting the condition: http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/1981/im-wondering-about-percentages-of-passing-herpes- and http://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout.pdf

Hmm, that's what I thought it was before I was diagnosed. Try not to focus on "living with it forever"... it only adds more to the emotional stress. (Plus, there is always hope that someone discovers the cure, or at least something that completely reduces/ends transmission!) This condition just seems dreadful because of the social stigma due to misinformation, but in reality it's only a non life threatening virus that like prefers the "moisten" parts of our body (mouth and privates). If your ex is properly educated then he'll will continue to be fine with it. Take you-alls time. Just use protection and continue to take the anti-virals to reduce the risk. Don't let your anxiety rub off on him... He loves you, let him decide the choice he wants to make :-)

To clarify *it's tough emotionally ... other than that it's nothing you can't deal with... which I would have NEVER believe that until I was exposed to it... just have to be more careful and more attentive to your body and live as happy as you did before you knew.

@confused1988 it's really hard news at first but just relax... wait until the blood test comes back for possible confirmation. We are here for you. You don't have to deal with this alone. Before I was diagnosed, I was really misinformed about the condition but now I realize that even though it's tough it's nowhere near as bad as I thought. You can live through this... just gather your strength. If you ever need to talk/vent feel free to inbox me. :-) You will be okay...

Aww... Well I believe that's what happened in your case.... I have a friend that broke out really bad from after a wax.. I don't think they clean and dispose of the wax and tools like they are instructed to do. And really? Wow I am going to google that. Thanks.

Sorry to hear that.. never used those product. Maybe try abreva and organic coconut oil.. coconut oil works miracles because of it healing properties. I've used it on burn cuts scrapes and they healed in no time.

Hmm... well you know the answer you are most likely going to get is no. BUT in my opinion I believe the virus can last a little while outside the body and possibly infect someone else. (They should do a study to find out how long it can survive outside the body.) It could be possible that happened to you, but unlikely (Well... depending on just how long after the other person did you go.) Another possibility may be that you had it but did not show signs until the waxing irritated you. The thing about this condition is that condoms don't fully protect someone against this so you could have been affected and not even know you were at risk which is why you may not be able to pin where it came from :/ I'm sure someone may give you a different answer.

Well... That makes sense. So it's a good thing

Yes I know those days too well... & I know that quote too lol. Matthew 6:34... who could have said better than Jesus

@confused woohoo! I'm glad it worked out... and we need more like him haha.

Right now, I don't feel down, but I don't feel up. Tonight is the first time I've felt like this since being diagnosed. The feeling is weird... I think my mind has gotten tired of exerting the energy to beat myself up and this morning was the first time I officially decided I'd allow this condition to grow me into a better person. At the moment, I'm thinking about the usual: How I got here and how I could have avoided this... Usually I'll be down and crying but instead, I feel numb. I wonder what this feeling means.

I hope your move went well. It does not sound like an OB. You could be having an allegeric reatcion to something you ate or touched. This condition isn't like chicken pox althought they are related from what I learned. Ever had chicken pox btw? And lysine supplements help control outbreaks I know.

I know exactly how you feel and our story is similar. You just have to be strong and learn to accept it.. it is hard now but you have to give yourself time. Many people have this and I'm sure a lot of us have went through the stage of depression. I've had my days, but it gets exhausting on the body and mind so find someone you can talk/vent to. It will be okay...

I'm getting there. It's so much freedom coming out

hahaha. Thanks! Means a lot coming from you as well

Awhile ago, I found a picture online with a guy standing in the snow with his head down that read, "EVEN THOUGH IT STILL HURTS NOW, YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND REALIZE THAT IT CHANGED YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER". This photo gave me inspiration, so I made it my cellphone background to remind myself that although I still struggle with regret and the emotional pain of having this condition, that for whatever reason I have it, it HAS and WILL CONTINUE to bring about changes in my life for the better. I am allowing this condition to make me a better and stronger person. I have decided to love and treat myself better. And to those, like myself who are still getting acquainted with this condition. DON'T LET IT BREAK YOU... ALLOW IT TO MAKE YOU INTO A BETTER HUMAN BEING WITH MUCH TO GIVE TO YOURSELF AND THE WORLD. You are learning to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY :-)

Majority of people who don't have it is just ignorant of it, so to a degree you can't blame their insensitive statements. (They don't understand that one day it could easily be them or that it may be them already and they aren't aware of their status.) But there are plenty dating success stories out there... just believe that one day you'll have one :)

When I go up I want to be just like you ;D

Yeah, I learned to stop googling things like that too. It is so discouraging, but you still have to have faith.

The thing about this condition is that you can never tell, and that's what sucks. I don't know if I can answer your question correctly, but it can show up in odd places like the leg. You could have it swabbed. But since it doesn't bother you and you've already been diagnosed then the only thing I could say is to leave it alone and avoid contact with other parts of you body. Sorry this has happened. Try to relax. I was exposed in Nov.. diagnosed in Dec and I've been praying it doesn't make itself visible.

Hello Everyone! I was diagnosed late last year. I am definitely looking for a H buddy! I am a 24 year old female from Virginia. I'm a recent college graduate... planning to attend professional school next fall. I'm looking for a male or female around my age! Here for anyone who could use advice and encouragement! Oh, and I love to laugh, and have fun.