vanessayee

Wow!

That sounds just like what I had! Gets graphic yes but I too had a yeast infection as well and the tops would rip off :S

This is the same as me! Both got tested and had a safety talk but was unlucky and didn't know they don't test for it!!! He was asymptomatic, how was I suppose to know!?

This is beautifully written and you made some fantastic points that I really find to be true to help. Thankfully I have been doing most of these things. You're right this is just a part of life and everyone out there is at least dealing with some sort of disease.

Nice Job! So cool, it's a yes. How long was it before you disclosed? I disclosed once on the first night but it was too soon

WOW! What a great story!! Have fun girl!!!

@jessicarabbit89 Thank you for this post, it is a positive one and I have not read a positive post in a long time and it has made me feel better. I love that that guy still kissed you and made a joke about it. Sounds like there are still some good men out there who can be mature about this. Love your attitude and how you keep moving fwd. I need to start dating and disclosing and showing what I have to offer. :)

Hey thanks for the positive outlook. It was a good read and so true that it could be so much worse. Life throws us curveballs and compared to other problems this one is ain't a big deal

@WCSDancer2010. Thank you:)))

Hi there, someone I talked to yesterday said they have hsv1 orally and she told me that Lysine really works for her. I'm not sure which type, I think just regular Lysine. I use Super Lysine I got from a food health store or you can get it online, I use it for my GHSV2. Thank you for sharing your story and we are all here for you.

Omg that's wonderful, so will you guys be getting back together? That's very nice when someone reaches out to apologize esp the giver who realizes it. I'm glad peace is being made in your situation. :) Also seeing Hsv as a lifesaver is a nice perspective to take on. Who knows, maybe moving fwd you guys will pursue something serious together. Great post

Someone was telling me that they researched that the shingles/chicken pox vaccine might do the job to cure HSV. I don't know though and might ask my doctor what she thinks of that... If that were the case, I'd be pretty interested in getting that...

I have been on okcupid and just disclosed when private messaging to some guys after talking to them for a while, but I haven't put in up front on my profile, I was thinking if I should do that though. Haven't been brave enough to put it on my profile since I don't want ppl in my city who know me to find out, but I kinda like the idea because it would save time. I disclosed to 2 guys when it was relatively early but not too late but so far after I disclosed to them on there, I never heard back from them again. One guy said it was scary and didn't know enough about it and didn't bother to want to know more about it and then we stopped talking. Anyways, sometimes I throw a "like" on someones profile if I'm interested in them and then that guy usually messages me first. Usually I don't have to though and I'd get msgs initiated from guys, but I haven't had lasting success on there so far. Sometimes these sites have something where it shows who likes who and who is a match with who or you will see who has been checking out your profile then from there it should be easy to msg them. I think on some of these sites there might even be an std column that you can check or uncheck as well. I didn't see it on ok cupid, but I've heard somewhere that some generic dating sites have that option

I've had this for 2 years and still I am trying to adjust to it.

Hi, I'm a 26 year old female with hsv2 and since having this my social life has greatly changed. I just want to be alone most of the time and I hate talking about myself with others. I love my job right now but that seems to be all I'd ever talk about and even that's tiring to talk about because I want to socialize about other things besides work when I'm away from work. I only feel like socializing if it is in a setting where there is another activity or hobby involved so I can talk about that activity most of the time, something that takes the attention away from myself. That's when I feel free, but it feels impersonal still because ppl don't really get to know me as I'd rather just talk about that thing instead of myself. I also shut down when it comes to talking about our love lives, I will try to not say anything that would open the door to someone asking about my love life because it is pretty non-existing right now or just full of dates that didn't work out so I just don't want to get in to it and I act completely Vanilla and uninterested to talk about dating, guys and relationships. It makes girls night out difficult cuz I cannot relate to other girls anymore so I avoid going out on girls nights now. It makes me really uncomfortable. It sucks cuz all I mostly do is have small talk with others cuz that is all I can handle right now but it feels so unfulfilling and trivial. I like having deep meaningful conversations and I feel like I can't get in to that unless I mention I have H in the process cuz it has honestly shaped me differently now and affected almost every part of my life which is bad but it has. I try to talk generally so no one will figure out my secret but it just feels unfulfilling. I really enjoy being able to talk about anything with my friends and my most fulfilling relationships are the ones where I've told those friends, but I don't want to tell everyone. Therefore, I am not very fulfilled or interested in my other relationships cuz I can't talk openly and about life with them so I just have very few friends right now and a bunch of aquaintences. I mostly filter out many things too when talking to ppl now and it sucks that I can't just be open or socially free. Does anyone else struggle with this? If ppl do ask me if I'm dating right now I just make up an excuse like "Oh no, I'm just focusing on myself right now", but honestly I am interested and wanting to find someone and how long am I going to keep saying that excuse? It's hard to talk about details about why your previous dates didn't work out when you don't want to reveal why dating is so difficult for you. So how does everyone deal socially with this? I really miss having girl talk or talking about love and relationships and to some extent I still can, but it's very restricted now and I don't share much cuz I can't relate as much.