Thanks for sharing WD. I feel ya... I am dating on EH (in addition to on two H sites, PS and MpwH), so far I have had several EH dates but no reason for disclosure as of yet. One who I really thought it might get there with, but now he's not being so communicative... oh well, it would have been super long distance anyway. The others have been "mEH" dates at best, the H bomb has not been necessary :-/
It's all about the stigma. I am a fit, successful, reasonably attractive woman and I find myself really discombobulated about this situation.
Oh, by the way, just since you're on EH.... I just remembered something from one of those questions on EH, the question was "whether you would date someone with an STD." I, of course, answer "depends on which one." One of my "matches" answered "no; and wrote in that "you really should get that taken care of before you start dating," Shocking ignorance about basic factual info. This is evidence of the widespread confusion and ignorance that is out there amongst the civilian dating population.
I'll be going to the shelter tomorrow to adopt several more dogs, who needs dating (j/k). Call me the "crazy spinster dog lady"...