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Worrying about disclosing to people who don't think to ask?


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I have wondered why we as people with herpes worry so much about telling people who don't ask? Before I was diagnosed, I thought I was safe enough. Having a steady boyfriend and asking him about STD's and the last time he was tested was not embarrassing to me at all, I just wanted to be safe.

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Because we know what it's like to feel this way. Knowledge is power the knowledge I have comes with the power to disclose and give someone a choice. I didn't have a choice and I didn't ask...this is the hand I've been dealt and I'm alright with it. It's frustrating sometimes sure but me personally I could never be with someone without being totally honest with them. Herpes was a big wake up call to me to start being smart...it takes two to tango but someone's gotta take the lead and I choose to be that person. When I found out I felt dirty, cheap, and above all dumb. I am none of those things. I don't want to make someone else feel that way ever so I choose to disclose...it puts me in uncomfortable situations but it also makes me feel like a better person to disclose. I'm being safer now than I ever was and my partners are now being educated and made aware. I can't speak for everyone on this site this is just my opinion but yea...make sense?

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I asked ! He lied !!! I would never do that to someone ! and I would never not tell someone who didn't ask ! I couldn't live with thinking I had put someone through what I am going thorough right now :-(

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