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Newly diagnosed with herpes and devastated

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I just found out I was positive for HSV 2 by a blood test, I had a culture done when I first noticed a very sore and itchy bump and my culture was negative so you can imagine the rollercoaster I have been on the last 2 weeks. I am devastated and so unsure now what my future holds. My ex-husband cheated on me after 10 years so now I am a single mother, I am so worried that I will never marry again or find anyone who will want me with this virus. I really am in need to talk with others who are dealing with this because it has seriously been non stop crying since I received the news and the feeling of depression is just creeping in. I am trying to hold my head high but I am crushed and feel I have just lost my future...

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Ok my friend... first... BREATHE! It's going to be alright - I promise :)


I've had H1 since childhood, H2 since y first sexual encounter. I've been married 20 years, had 2 3-year relationships since. H was never a factor in the break-ups... life and differences in our needs was what brought each to the end. I've had 2 beautiful girls, I have a great career, and I am completely out of the H closet and I haven't lost a single friend (I am dealing with one family member who is not being on her best behavior but if it wan't H, it likely would be something else :( ).


There are tons of great stories of people on here who have found love - mostly with H- partners. You have found the best place to find support, love, and information.


(((HUGS))) my friend. Feel free to come on here to question, rant, and share your triumphs... we are here to help you every step of the way :)

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Awww... I know that is may be difficult right now, but don't be down. Many of us felt that way initially. I was diagnosed in December and it can be a tough process to learning and accepting this BUT the more you research here the better you will feel. This forum is filled with many supportive people are who or have gone through what you are going through now. Always feel free to talk to me and I will help as much as I can. I have my days where I feel like you do, but it has only gotten better.


You will get through this. It's not as devastating as you think. There are plenty of people willing to accept this condition so you will find someone, and with this it will confirm who is really for you. much love (:

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You are not a "fraud". There are sooo many great disclosure stories on here with people who have H meeting and falling in love with a H- partner. I'll post some links below.


One thing H is great for is that it will act as your Wing-man - it will help to make you slow down and really get to know someone before you open yourself up to them about your H status. (See http://herpeslife.com/using-herpes-as-your-wing-man/ ).


Go out with this guy - get to know him. Take your time. We women tend to feel we must give in to the pressure for sex in order to keep a guys interest. The stories below will show you that when you slow things down and only tell them when they DESERVE to become intimate with you, you have a better chance of finding a real winner ;)










http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2390/update-on-my-for-my-h-opp-peeps nic4897


http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2445/my-success-story simplyme24

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2495/a-coming-out-story- DanieM

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2544/disclosure silentstandoff

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/1644/having-the-herpes-talk-with-a-new-partner Daisy

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2689/first-time-disclosing-herpes-and-very-very-nervous paleogardenerkika


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As time goes on, you will be better and began to look at this differently. Trust me, I do much more so now then I did before. And after a while, you will learn how to handle dating.... disclosure and all. This will just teach you how to be more certain. It is okay to date. Don't deny yourself that privilege. For now, try not to worry about that so much. You have to first accept yourself, even this aspect of you before another will be able to. Ms. WCSDancer2010 gave you all the information you'll need to get acquainted with the condition and how to prevent transmission to a potential partner. This is such a common condition and it is becoming even more common.


This can help you get acquainted with H. It sums it up pretty well..




BE STRONG and cheer up :)

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Dear L&C - we're sisters, sistah! The same darn thing is going on with me. Hearts to you. Strength to you. You will find someone... and if not, we have a consolation prize, H and each other. Laugh a little, live a little. Do things that you love, which you stopped doing when you were married. Cook a delish meal and eat on the good china. Flirt a little, dress up, All is not lost. You still are a great mom! A force of nature. You are invincible - a little virus can't kick your butt, you kick it back to where it belongs. Love, hugs, kisses dear one, PM me!!! X~me

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