I had the herpes talk and feel so relieved!!!!

[Whit_girl]

So I just met this guy through a dating app and we've been talking for a couple weeks and been on a couple dates. He's great, really sweet and honest and straight forward with his feelings for me which in turn made me WANT to disclose to him, crazy huh? Never thought I'd see that coming! We talk all day and night over the phone and he's been nothing but polite and respectful from start to finish. I started questioning myself like is this too soon to tell somebody something that personal about myself? But there really is no timeline. When chemistry is there, it's there and I could feel both of ourselves growing attached to one another and quickly. And to top it off we haven't even kissed yet!!! To feel on such an intimate level with someone without physical strings attached yet is so uplifting. Thank you wingman ;)

 

So this is how the conversation went:

I know I've already told you how much I appreciate your honesty, and I want to do the same with you and i feel safe being vulnerable with you.

 

His response: That's good:) and thanks. I want you to feel safe with me

 

Me: Ya know how ppl often get cold sores (herpes simplex virus type 1)? Well I have it, but I've gotten it below the waist. so many people get cold sores and don't realize how easily they can be passed on even through oral sex and that's what happened to me last year. It's not a major issue, it's literally a skin condition but I have to be honest with you bc it's obviously transferable if things between us were ever to get that far.

 

Remember how you asked me about having any regrets? To me this isn't one of them, I could have something far worse like cancer or leukemia but I don't and I'm thankful for that. This has opened my eyes to growing into a more compassionate adult, I used to be one of those judgmental people who would have said oh you have what? You must be promiscuous or a slut. But that really isn't the case for a lot of people. It's one of those lessons in life but I've grown and I've learned a lot about myself and others from it. It doesn't define me or make me who I am. I am who I am regardless of it.

 

His response: No worries beautiful, I don't judge people, i dont think less of you as a person and it doesn't change anything between us.

 

Unfortunately I had to tell him over the phone bc he's in the military and out in the field. But I felt we needed to have this talk ASAP bc how quickly we've grown attached. I feel so liberated and like a weight has been lifted and really hope this is a great start to something even better. Thank you all for all your support! I wanted to share this with all of you so some would have hope like I did when I first discovered this site. Ya'll are amazing!!! Xoxoxo

[WCSDancer2010]

@Whit_girl

 

YOU GO GIRL!!! So happy and proud for you!!!! And what a beautiful statement about what it taught you!

 

Keep us posted!!!

[Whit_girl]

Thank you so much @WCSDancer2010 for your wisdom!!! It has proven invaluable to me! I will definitely keep ya'll posted!

[Athena]

Wow this was amazing to read! Sooooo happy for you!!! :D

[mr_hopp]

So, so awesome. Good job. Really good job. Integrity and honesty at its finest. And a man who can see it and recognize it as valuable. Nice.