I know what I WANT&DESERVE damn it!!!!!!!

[Bambina3]

Trust me, we have all had our lashings, none of this is easy. I also went thru something many years ago, and I don't think I have been the same person since.

There are good people out there, I am confident someday you will find what you want

Hugs!!

[Thumper]

I wanted to listen to the audio about rejection that I got in my e mail and I enter my password it still won't accept me

[Sil88]

Girl, we all are humans and respond from emotion at times.

 

In every other thread, it's "Men are cowardly shit heads." Now we're all humans? Come on, play fair :P

 

 

[2Legit2Quit]

@sil88 I call SOME men that and I'm referring to the ones who cheat and lie. This is know where similar to a situation like that. It's not my fault so many men are lying to women and they're coming on here devastated. It's me empathizing w them.

 

Anyeho, I am not going to take away from thumpers post. Sorry if my post's trigger you.

[Thumper]

I'm not sure I understand what @ sil88 is upset about. I'm only voicing what has happened to me re. Recent rejection due to this disease, and I guess weeding out the "ASSHOLES"!!!:( who when they seem interested in me, when I'm telling them no sex before marriage, I don't even hear from them again. If some gal has shit on you and you wanna share... BY ALLLLL MEANS DO!

[Thumper]

2Legit2Quit: I'm not saying I don't want friends on here, I just don't feel the need to spend my time on the weekends having lunch with people who have this, when it's not a discussion group, like this only in person. I don't need to worry about being rejected anymore because sex is out of the equation :) Mabey I'll meet a Jew who has it eh?

[Bambina3]

@Thumper I have to give you a smile, you definitely know what you want and are not settling for less...that does show great strength! I'm thinking you are only interested in a man of Jewish faith because of your religious beliefs....My grandfather was Jewish, met my grandmother who was Catholic, they feel in love...back then he was disowned by his family for marrying a Catholic woman....they were married over 40 years and had 5 beautiful daughters.

I understand you don't have a need to spend time with people who have this disease....I can also be a loner, or a very social bug, I have also been in and out of counseling...just from where I sit, it is refreshing to talk to people who have this disease and have traveled the road I have begun to travel....like you, my time is busy and extremely limited....we have to set our needs and standards and take care of ourselves, because no one else will....I was alone and single for many years raising my children alone holding down jobs...my friends, both real life and net based were actually my sanity at times.

I'm just sharing, not sure I'm helping....but many challenges you face, you are not alone.

Hugs!!!

[Bambina3]

@Sill88

I understand where that comment is coming from too because of the opionation of some that post....like 2legit said, it was in reference to men who cheat and lie and helping those woman effected by it cope.

However, that doesn't mean there are not women that cheat and lie also....I have done that in the past...I feel I'm human, I make mistakes, I have needs, wants, desires....doesn't excuse anything but it's both men and women who cheat...I just think on this forum you see more of the women effected by it than men.

[Thumper]

stillmebutwiser thank you for your compliments and encouragement :)in the last 6 months from studying Judism it has woken up many things in my life about the way I feel and do things. My whole life when I met a Man I always thought" we like each other, let's see where it goes". Never thinking about their goals, values, how motivated they are, what is their emotional baggage, can they hold a job etc. the 3 stooges that I was with were NOT men!! They deliberately put themselves first and watched me work like a slave... It wasn't that they wanted to step up to the plate. I was hopeful snd thought they would change. I know better now. The latter 2 traded s marriage w no sex due to my disease for being able t sit on their ass.

I appreciate what you said about your grandparents :). I have made compromises and settled for less my whole life. I feel that I have integrity, and much to offer... So... I'd rather have exactly what I want and need for my well being, OR if I cannot have that then I'm better off alone. It is important for me to be with s Jewish man whom is Torah observant . It's s lifestyle.

[2Legit2Quit]

@thumper , he wasn't directing that towards you, he was directing that at me. He thinks I'm sexist... Lol..

 

I was only mentioning the friend thing, because you said you weren't looking for friends. Your posts seem to be hurried at times, so it can be hard to read in-between the lines w you and what you meant to say, vs how it reads.

 

Are you Jewish or just feeling like you are Ed to get more in touch w your spiritual side?

[Thumper]

I am not Jewish but my whole life I have been spiritual, hopeful,open... One day in high school my mom came home from work and I had 2 elders stilling on the couch lol. She was furious:) they were Mormons. I was curious.. I had jshova witness friends young life friends(Christian)...Abraham Hicks laws of attraction... I'm not an atheist. The first 5 books of the bible r the Old Testament. Also u won't find Jews asking for money, I think part of the reason for anti Semitic behavior is people r jelouse of the Jews, hue disciplined and successful they are. The book of Tanya teaches how to become a better human being... I will probably convert someday, IF I can find time to study. Forget about finding a bashert( soul mate ) wen I don't even have time to do my leisure stuff . I will wait for Hashem(G-d) to guide the right person to me IF it's supposed to happen. I will be going to Israel this summer for 2 weeks. I have met s group of wonderful ladies at my synegogue whom I can talk to about Jewish studies , the lifestyle and traditions, disciplines etc... I can forget about my disease because I'm upfront about pre marital sex. Usually if they can't handle that then I don't need to divulge any further. They say that non Jews who relate to Judeism r lost souls and were at Mt Saini...

[2Legit2Quit]

Hey, I think you should follow your heart and do whatever provides the most peace and healing for you. I think it's great.