Dread

[Healingneeded]

I have been married for 7 years and have been with my husband for 16 years.  The doctor just confirmed I have HSV1 but in my genital area? I haven’t slept, I told my husband and immediately felt the disgust.  My happy life has been flipped upside down in a span of a week. We are going to meet just us two in about an hour and I have this dreaded feeling that it’s over!  He has no cold sore or ever has had a cold sore so I can only imagine where his thoughts take him because mine are everywhere.  Besides him this forum is my only space of release.  Please send a prayer out for me and my family. We have a 24 year old,  13 yr old, 15 year old and a grandbaby. 

I feel so helpless! I feel contagious!  Literally crying at work.

[Avalon1]

He needs to get tested because he in all likelihood gave it to you. It doesn’t matter if he’s never had a symptom — lots of people don’t. There is no reason to end a marriage over something as tiny as hsv-1, which 65% of people have. Don’t accept his disgust. Praying for you. 

[My_dog_is_hungry]

Sorry to hear of your situation.

I have had my first OB this month since I contracted 11 years ago. It was only pure chance that I got diagnosed and for ages I was annoyed that I had been diagnosed but had no symptoms so thought I could've happily gone on being oblivious like so many.

I said to my hubby "isn't it good that I was diagnosed because you might be suspicious when I suddenly have an OB 10 years in to our marriage?" He disagreed and said that he trusted me. He has been learnt a lot about herpes from me including that his cold sores are also herpes!

Make him go to the doctor with you so you learn about it together.

[My_dog_is_hungry]

3 minutes ago, Avalon1 said:

He needs to get tested because he in all likelihood gave it to you. It doesn’t matter if he’s never had a symptom — lots of people don’t. There is no reason to end a marriage over something as tiny as hsv-1, which 65% of people have. Don’t accept his disgust. Praying for you. 

Exactly, it's so incidental! And it's not disgusting, it's just a skin condition!

[Healingneeded]

Thank you! It was the total opposite of what I expected.  He told me he is here for me and just asked that I let him know when I feel an ob coming on.   Thank GOD and thank you for your prayers.  This forum is everything right now.   I don’t know any of you personally but feel such a positive connection with all of you.

[My_dog_is_hungry]

Yay! Good man 🙂