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Honestly given how common this is it’s likely you have been exposed already just by being sexually actively . If you are interested in polyamory of course that likelihood is MUCH higher unless you regularly test every partner - which doesn’t seem realistic . Use protection try to be as safe as possible ( if your partner won’t take meds then you have the right to refuse the relationship ) and move on .
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@PinkTiger can you share the link to that article please?
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I've had two doctors now suggest that disclosure is not required if I engage in casual sex with precautions . How do people feel about this ?
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3 hours ago, _a_rayofsunshine_ said:
Usually the pattern of an OB is itchiness, bump forming, pain, then it burstsamd starts healing.
Start taking vitamins. I was diagnosed in April. Had maybe 2-3 outbreaks with july being the last one and that’s when i started taking l-lysine, vitamin c, vitamin d3, echinacea & goldenseal extract (only during that outbreak & when i felt any sickness coming out), & liquid chlorophyll. I take it daily. It’s been 3 months and ive had no issues or signs of any but i am still shedding or contagious because a new partner said he got it 2 weeks after being w/ me.
@_a_rayofsunshine_ are you in suporessives? Did you and your partner use protection ? How did you disclose ? Just curious as I think transmission is what everyone worries about most . Thx:)
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@Jane M everything you have expressed is exactly how I have been feeling . I too feel out in an unfair position to put this on display , educate the masses , and face judgement ignorance and rejection . I've been having all kinds of emotions as the guy who I thought gave it to me is much more sexually active and not as educated or responsible in these things as me. It set me back several weeks - I was feeling more confident about approaching this in disclosure and not making it a big deal because I don't think it is . I too speak about it matter of factly but the stigma of others makes me emotional .
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@Loyalloulou my heart breaks to hear you feeling this way. Please reach out to someone if you are feeling suicidal 1-800-273-8255 and need to talk .
plrase do not let H and your fears convince you your life is not worth living . It is ! You just need to come to terms with a few things and find support to help you .
inunderstand where you are I was there too honestly - lost weight couldn't focus work was not going well.... but somehow I have managed to start feeling like myself again slowly . It takes baby steps - what can you do in THIS moment to love yourself ? Is it a bath ? A cup of tea? A deep breath? Or reminding yourself you are NOT alone? Whatever it is DO IT!!!!! You are worth it .
And you may not agree but I do not think God punishes us . Shit happens . We punish ourselves with what we tell ourselves about the shit that happens . Pray for self forgiveness and the courage to move forward - God will meet you there
Much love and blessings
im cheering you and myself on at the same time
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@Nervous i understand your panic but let's think of a few things first .
1) have you been tested before? There is a high likelihood you could already have been exposed - it is very common especially in women
2) it's not inevitable that he passed it you . If he's on medication the chance is low - somewhere around 5% per year not per encounter
3) he was open enough to tell you and yes you should have used condoms but with him being on antivirals you've lowered the risk vs someone who doesn't know they have it or doesn't take any precaution
4) he is clearly living a full life as are many with HSV2. You still found him intriguing attractive etc. Why would you think it would be different if the tables were turned ???
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@happyman_adventurous would love to hear more about your empowered perspectives
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Most of the world has HSV1. Likely you have it orally and it doesnt change anything ....
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Over 40 club here too. Still very new to all this and not sure how I will approach disclosure . All this gives me hope and faith :)
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Thank you @IASIHH for the update . You are very lucky to have found a doctor that can put this into perspective for your partner . I feel that is so much miscommunication in the medical field and overblown stigma that sometimes it dies more harm than good to talk to a doctor . Your story is inspiring . Please continue to update us . It helps.
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@annalove im sorry to hear things didnt work out 😞 but you seem to have some perspective with it which is great . Please continue to share your future successes with those of us still feeling blue about things !
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@Amos_0503 would love to see how you and things are going?
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@Sunshine75 i would love to connect if you're open to it 💕
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@sixpillows where in Canada are you? You should def get in daily meds for yourself and also to decrease transmission to your partner may help his anxiety
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I find this fascinating but I think it would make people feel invincible . Condoms can only do so much even with the gel.
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@Kads how are you going? Your posts echo every thought I have in my head . Let's connect
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Omg these stories make me so sad and lose hope
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@browneyes886 how are you going ? Have you thought about dating/sex? I just keep having panic attacks or going numb . I don't want to live like this. My spirit feels broken .
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Reading through the posts on here and these stories are VERY depressing . It seems everyone is getting rejected or waiting to be. This is my biggest fear - that the fear of rejection will take over my life . Please tell me this is not the case and dating and acceptance is possible. ( I've read the success stories but now they seem to be more the exception )
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@hwomanntexas7 do you have an update ?
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It seems in the US the conversations are going better .... any experiences from other countries? I'm in Canada
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Antidepressants are safe and effective life saving drugs . Please talk tonyour doctor and get something to help with depression and anxiety - I currently went back on cipralex to help deal with diagnosis . It doesn't have to be forever but help yourself .
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Im concerned because at 44 I feel like I'm on the wrong side of hope here. I'm already struggling with dating at this age ( never had the chance to experience marriage or kids ) and have only had fleeting little encounters for the last many years . I'm cautious with protection too and feel like I have been unfairly given a burden to carry with this . I honestly don't know how I will go about finding something meaningful with this thrown into the already difficult mix of trying to find love at my age.
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