Kaande05

From what I understand their still looking for candidates to test on.... So yes it's true that it could take a long time! But I just hope within my lifetime it will happen!

Normal guy... I just got out of a relationship. I had herpes and he didnt. I stayed for so long because I was fearful of future rejection. What I have come to realize is how silly it is to have the hurt or fear from possible future rejection be the glue that keeps a shitty relationship together.

Thanks so much for your response! I've been working out and trying to eat better. Lately I've had to force myself to eat because I'm so sick to my ago Ach over this whole ordeal! I'm sucking things up today so my son can see his dad. I'll be supervising their visits until he decides to take me to court! I think it's ok since I'm past wanting to punch him.... Haha. Things are getting easier by the day and slowly things are already falling into place. Thanks again!

Happening to me too. It's annoying but luckily I can still post!

This december will be the 4 year anniversary of when I found out I has hsv2. I just seperated with my boyfriend of 3.5 years and we have a 2 year old son. Anyways i just feel like I have so much going in right now and it's hard to cope with any of it. I feel like because I met my ex 2 months after my diagnosis I didn't have the time to fully accept myself with herpes. And now it's all coming up because I am alone. We had a good relationship for about the first 11 months and then it all went down hill and I know now I stayed because I didnt want to be alone with herpes and because of my son. I let him tear me down to a point where I was so desperate to be with him even when he was verbally and emotionally abusive. He would call me names and tell me he hated me and even told me he wasn't attracted to me and just couldn't have sex with me.... Because of my weight, not herpes! (so yet another thing to be self conscious about) which was ok I guess but we were supposed to love each other no matter what and I felt so hurt by the way he said this. I found myself going down a life path I didn't want! I even went to school for a profession I absolutely hated because anything else was lesser to him. I found out he was cheating on me and althought I don't think it was physically I'm completely a believer in emotional cheating. Anyways now with school, being a full time mom who had no where to go, dealing with ex drama and custody, and dealing with all these self esteem issues like weight and herpes it's really difficult to see a positive future lately. So I guess I'm wondering if any of you have advice for getting over a breakup and thru stress and I wonder if every time I break up with someone this herpes deal is going to keep bringing me down to where emotionally I feel like I'm back at the day I found out I was diagnosed! Sorry this is do lengthy but this is the best herpes support forum I have come across. Thanks!

Wish I could come! Only this is my lil man is all I have right now so i won't be able to! I hope this is a tremendous success and it can start to open the doors for more acceptance and more seminars like this around the country! I live in MN so maybe someday it will happen!

Almost 4 years ago I was diagnosed with HSV2. I was irresponsible and slept with this guy from work and 4 days later I could hardly sit from the pain of what I now know was an outbreak. At first I just thought it was pain or a tear from sex because it was only my second time. Matter of fact I even met with a dr who examined me and said that's all it is and to not worry. Gave me instructions to put ointment on and I'd be fine. 2 days later I slept with him again. Told him to be gentle because it hurt so bad and what the dr and I though caused it and he said he was sorry for hurting me.a couple days passed and by this time we were hanging out and going on dates and he was introducing me to friends. I went back to the dr since there was still no relief and this one looks and said, "I'm pretty sure this is herpes!" I was shocked and was just bewildered that this happened and couldn't believe he never warned me! I called him shaking on my way to picking up my way-more-expensive-than-I-could-afford Valtrex! He said no and he was just tested for things. He said everything would be ok and we were still going to be together. I went over that night and cooked dinner while he kissed and consoled me. About a week later he comes up to me at work and said his test came back negative. I couldn't believe him because I wouldn't know how else I got it and my dr said because of the timing it was most likely him. I also worked with the other guy whom I slept with and lost my virginity to... Yes yes I guess that makes me the "home depot whore" .... And he said he was clean and I urged him to get tested again which he claims he did and it was still negative. Both of the guys were very sorry for me and both said they were negative.... So obviously someone lied and then I was "dumped" by who I think was my giver. I thought my life was over... No kids, love, or sex in my future. I told everyone I knew that was close to me... Guys and girls and they were all shocked and sympathetic. I was so angry because out of all my friends I would be the last one anyone would think would have a chance of getting herpes. (Seriously, the summer before my girlfriends had a contest of who could make out with the most guys.... Some reached 30 even and I said to them.... It's more of a race to who will get herpes first, they laughed and went on anyways, and still have no consequences). It's odd how snide remarks like that hurt like hell! And I never fully have gotten over this! I was seeing one guy and he dumped me once he found out. Then a month later I found a guy that I spent 3.5 years with who did not care and we even have a 2 year old son! I know it isnt a life ending thing but it feels like that lately! I'll write my current situation soon but I wanted you guys to know about me since I'm new to this forum! Thanks!!

I just got out if a relationship 3 days ago with the father of my child. I stayed for my son but also because he accepted that I had H! I knew it was bad for awhile and new I wasn't happy but the thought of being alone or possibly rejected time after time made me stay. I'm really working now on making life changes! I have to finish school, have about 100 pounds to lose and want to get my confidence and spirit back. Finding this forum is really keeping me sane!

I was with someone for 3.5 years and took acyclovir daily! We have a beautiful 2 year old and hey ex is herpes free! We only used condoms about 50% of the time so I know you can be safe about it. Do u guys think that fact may be something I can/ should disclose when talking to my next love interest?!

Wow what you said about how your dr handled it really made me happy! This won't kill me, I know that but for you to explain how your dr put it is just another eye opener to me! Thanks for sharing

I don't so much have a problem with the word. I have disclosed 2x.... Besides to the person who gave it to me and I was regected by him and the first person I disclosed to. Then I met a guy and the night he told me he loved me I said will you still love me if I have herpes??? And we were together over 3.5 years and have a two year old. Like I said I dont have a problem with the word.... Only the social stigma behind it! I get angry when it's made to be to be the butt of the joke or the deal breaker in movies or tv shows!

Adrial you are so positive I really hope that one day I will be as optimistic as you when it comes to this! I have been using the deal breaker term a lot lately. Hopefully my involvement in this community will change my mind!

This is exactly what I needed to find today! I've had hsv for almost 4 years and just ended things with my boyfriend/ father of my child of over 3.5 years. I thought finding love would be impossible and then I found him and then I forgot about coping with the herpes because I found someone who did not care. But now I'm single and the stress and depression from it is really coming on hard and need someone to talk to. I'm from Mn and would like a male and female buddy.