Kaande05

Yay Adrial!!!

Wow this b**** is crazy and its actually sad the misunderstanding she has about herpes... I didn't read thru everyone's posts so maybe this was already said but isn't there something that an be done legally to someone who knowingly passed this on without telling?! I know in some states they can do that with HIV.

I dated the father of my son for 3.5 years and now have been seeing someone else for the last month who I made aware if my situation from the beginning. I assure you, people can look past it. And you will be ok

Me too! Thanks

Update***** went to the doctor and she said its a bacterial infection and that its very rare if not impossible to spread it somewhere else..... I know I've read differently and ears differently but she insisted and did not do a swab or anything like that..... The 2 blisters are not open.... Maybe that is why. But yea she put me in an antibiotic. I still can't help but feel really paranoid however..... I do t know maybe I should get a second opinion, but this was my primary who has been my dr my entire life, and I should trust her knowledge. I just wish for my own sanity she would have done a swab.... I don't want to pass this to my son and with diaper changes and baths it could be very easy..... Ahhh I'm so torn

Yea... I know I dread the answer tho too.... It hasn't gotten any worse and hasn't popped open or is oozing or itching.... Just pain. But your right.... I should go and see. Thanks

It's my non dominant hand too so I don't use it for any kind of self care per poses... Haha so I dunno how it could be there but it hurts so bad!

Thanks

Sorry I have been MIA everyone a lot has gone on this last month and a half.... Some good that ill probably talk about later some bad that I don't want to talk about and 1 thing that i'm confused about that is H related. So if u all remember I have had h2 for 4 years. And haven't gotten an ob in awhile.... Usually I get 1 a year. Well yesterday I woke up with what felt like in ingrown nail or infected finger from having my nail cut really short.... Then later in the day I got 2 bumps on the side of that finger.... Near the second joint. My finger is burning and painful to the touch..... What my q is.... Is this a whitlow or just unrelated blister or warts!! It's driving me nuts! To me this is worse then my genital h because this can easily be passed to my son. I just am devistated and in so much pain. I don't understand how my genital hsv is now popping up somewhere else now. If anyone has any insight please respond

Awe so glad it's going so great!!! Next seminar in MN please!!! :-)

Carlos I was thinking the exact thing today when it comes to psoriasis! I can't believe it's the first time that popped into my head but it really made me feel great to think of it in that way!!! And Angler.... Lovin the joe dear-tay reference!

Ha thanks lelani

Personally I wouldn't hook up with him or even let him have the decency of knowing something so personal about me if I didn't see myself having a future and a relationship with him. For me if its clearly jut for sex then they arnt worthy of knowing something so intimate ad private. However if you are ok sharing something with someone you may not have a connection with other then a physical one... Then go for it.

Yep I had anxiety really bad. To the point where I'd either have a panic attack or start crying in public. It will get better. I've had it for almost 4 years! A's podcasts really calmed me down thru everything. I'm still pretty new to this group but after a breakup with my long term boyfriend and father of my son and I was in a really dark place! His voice and reassurance calmed me down. I listened to it while laying in bed trying to sleep and it really worked for me! Make sure you fill our your shameless profile and join/help us get this accomplished. Staying active in this community as well as other support groups will help tremendously! Good luck to you

Heard back from 1 of the admins and as I thought they did say NO! So should I do something from here on out?! Write everyone individually? Leave it alone? Ugh I

Ok! I have read the admins of these groups personal messages. I'm getting a little frustrated that I have to do that first. Because they state in their membership agreements that the pages are not used to promote other sites, groups, or memberships. One is a cure research page and one is called national HELP. I think both are headed up by the same group of people because their rules seem to read the same. My letters went something like this...... Hi I'm a member of one of your fb groups. ( inswrt group name)I'm contacting you in regards to something I would like your group to know about. There is another support forum which as if right now is not a Facebook forum. It is from herpeslife.com. I don't know if you have ever had time to look into it, maybe your already a member but I just want to explain what we are trying to accomplish. The group was created by Adrial Dale. He has done some radio interviews, has YouTube videos and I tunes podcasts on herpes and coping with it. Anyways we are in the beginning stages of creating something amazing that will hopefully shatter the stigma if herpes. Our plan is to make profiles of ourselves and how herpes and the stigma we faced has affected us and what we can achieve if those barriers are broken. The profile pics will be blurred until a certain number is reached. we are so far deciding on 10,000. once it is reached the pictures will be unsmudged and everyone will be able to see them. This will be eventually going world wide and we will be talking about how to promote this " stepping out of the shadow of shame" idea that we have, starting in November. The idea behind this is basically strength in numbers and to show the world how prevelant this is and how we are not alone. I think it will bring everyone closer and we will really be able to make a difference in the minds of those H- people who don't understand what we go thru. This is NOT something that we are trying to profit off of. No one has to pay or donate to anything. I just wanted to know whether or not I can post something on your Facebook page about this. If you would like I can send you a copy of the link so you can look for yourself or I can get you in contact with our groups creator. Once again this is not some kind of scam thing. No one has to commit to anything. I can also try and answer any questions or concerns you may have! Thanks for taking the time to read thru this! Anyways Hopefully I even explained our mission correctly And I included everything correctly on things A has done.... I'm hoping to hear back from them soon. It's just frustrating that these groups are hiding themselves within their groups! They don't want to expose people to other support groups, seems counterproductive if you ask me... ! I'm starting to feel like this may be more difficult then i anticipated! I also think that we need to come up with something to forward to sites... Something that people will stop to read that doesn't come across as spam!!!

Right.... I think it's very important to be very very comfortable with yourself before disclosing. This is true for anything tho! You need to love yourself first before having a successful relationship. If you don't do this 1 of 2 things will happen.... I know from personal experience.... Either you will be accepted and if your eventually break up, the whole silly idea of herpes being bad and all the stigmatized ideas will come back to you in time of heartbreak, or you will be rejected and the idea that herpes is what caused it will be very tough to handle. Work on improving yourself and being the best version of you can be. When your ready to disclose the ones you care about will look at heroes as just a small thing they would have to risk and with all your other positive attributes it will be well worth the risk. I was in a miserable place a month ago, staying active in this community has been my life saver!!! Good luck to you

Ahh ok!!!

I had a child the good ole fashion way and did not pass it to him. As long as your not pregnant when you contract H and you don't have an active ob when you are giving birth then your child will more then likely be ok. If you take antivirals and things to minimize shedding there is a very low chance you will give this to a baby. Babies born to mothers with preexisting herpes also pass temporary immunity to their kids. There is always a chance but it is very small. I had one child vaginally and I wil choose to have my others by c section. For the first 6 months of my sons life I had panic attacks whenever he has a rash, I can not go thru that again. When you and your mate are ready to have kids just arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible!

:-(. The beginning is the hardest. As with most things, it will get better with time. First what you need to realize is that heroes does not define you. It is not an automatic sentence of pain and lonliness for the rest of your life, unless you want it to be. Adrial talks a lot about self fufilling proficies and if you hide yourself because your afraid of being alone and rejected well then you will be alone. If you haven't had time to read thru posts and read te e-book I really suggest you do so. It's an eye opener and really helped me to get my positive outlook back.

Anyone else have problems getting into the Facebook page?!

Haha Kristen you sound totally awesome! Love how positive you are!! A. I am in. As I have stated many times. I was wondering when we can start directing people to the profile site? I am already a part of a secret fb page for people with herpes, and I can link the site on the fb page if you are ready... I know things are for now being done manually and I don't want to bumbard you with profiles if your not ready yet! I too would love a high number to strive for. I definitely will feel more comfortable with more people but I also wouldn't want to wait 2 years+ to get the number. I don't know anything about computer programs to help with design or editing of profiles or whatever you wanna call it so I can't help there, but if you ever need/want someone to stand beside you an be another "face of herpes" and do interviews and such then ill definitely offer to help!! I'll be sending a request for the fb group now!!!

Mock up good! Manifesto stuff great! Gosh can't it just be November yet?! I wanna get started haha

I think 10,000 is a good number. If we utilize other support forums and dating sites to get people on board to sign up, then I think it will be easy to have that number to be reached!!! Someone had also suggested the AIDS foundations being involved.... Would that just be to get the word out and sign H+ people up for this or is it to have this whole thing be a STD/STI "coming out" movement?! Like having HIV and herpes be the focus of the whole thing?! Personally I would just like to stick to herpes.... Personally because I think it is the most stigmatized and used as the butt of jokes EVERYWHERE. I think if we add all STI's into it, it won't have as positive effect on changing the idea about herpes. Just my thoughts :-)

Thanks!!!