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Hi hun. I was there once too as a "newbie" it is all normal. Vent all you want. I'll be a year in this month and I'm at a place I never thought I would be because everyone would say the same thing and I was like no way I won't be the same are you crazy? But sad part is people lose themselves because we are who we've had always been. Get it all out the sooner your in touch with those feelings the quicker it will die down at your own pace of course. And the obs will get fewer and less intense. Just listen to your body more than before. And the stigma is whats worse sadly we were there too we got the shit end of the stick yes I myself get sucked into it reading comments and jokes about it everytime sex is brought up, but im learning people will be shitty as always and will always have opinions especially if they themselves are unhappy. but were proof that we got this and that we are alive well and best of all us. Time will heal all.

Totally. Thank you @Carlos. And why aren't cold sores an STD too tho? Yes we get it by smooches, but some get it from oral sex as well. And it tends to be the not big deal less traumatizing package.

So I was just thinking do you guys think if stds didn't exist people wouldn't go on about how sex is so wrong immoral blah blah blah and wouldn't be so taboo and such? Just sex frenzys everywhere. Or What if all stds weren't so easy to go would herpes still get a harsh stigma? Or what if herpes was the other way around and easily curable as the others? Is it the actual symptoms or the lifelong thing? What if all the other curable diseases were lifelong and herpes was just a shot away from eradicating the body? Hmmmm

but here is the actual story I read let everybody has at least 10 viruses and I was worried that I had all these viruses right now http://www.cbsnews.com/news/virscan-blood-test-patient-detecting-virus-history/

http://news.yahoo.com/herpes-virus-gives-man-blistery-finger-infection-145438816.html and then I see this and the comments ugh not a day goes by

You guys Just read about a blood rest that will be able to tell every vrus you have been exposed to. Imagine that.

Oh that's good to hear yes!! But I hear some have very few obs then they come raging outta nowhere too so that's freaking me out. Then I go to my fb see a picture of Jessica Alba and well I see so much herpes comments from dbags back to back so that don't help one bit it makes it harder to be OK with it I just want to not care about it and at times I dont and I'm one not to give a damn what others think either so I dunno why I let this bother me because once you get over it is you deal with it's not a big freaking deal but the shaming is tough

@ihaveittoo1975 my bad I know there's cases where some get it more and it sucks it really sucks but it sucks for all of us I mean I think about it daily it sucks to go bathroom now wondering if there's gonna be a sting or a sensation whatever this thing does. I miss being able to pee freely. And it happened. Thank you for trying to get me out the shitty mood. It could be worse but sometimes it feels like it couldn't. But as for your issue have you tried to see what else is going on your immune system or overall health. Cuz I dunno about for guys but for us well you know our anatomy and its pretty painful. Maybe it's trying to tell you something?

Nvmnd just broke down....maybe it's because I'm like I gave this to myself who does that? I haven't heard that yet. My own body failed on me after reading that I had antibodies but it didn't help me.

Welp it came back for a visit not even a year yet darnit but I didn't freak out like I thought I would...well so far guys. Maybe I'm just too tired to bother right now or Maybe I dunno about tomorrow but now knowing it's a base for melanoma cure makes it no so bad no more. This shit is here for a reason when I personally questioned why why was it put here to shame people?! Well not since I heard that it's here to fight bigger battles n as sucky as it is to live with it hopefully that's only the beginning rest easy all.

This pesky irritating stigmatized virus isn't so useless after all. this could be the it happens for a reason I was looking for!!! I know people will still say something as always but my HSV can save a life what can you do?! Ba bam!!! May this be the beginning

You go girl!! We have our moments but it's all in due time. It gets smaller and smaller I bet that's a huge start to a breathe of fresh air. As you know most of us did not intend to have this virus, I'm ffreakin 30 and did not know I could get it from a damn cold sore those no big deal cold sores hmm my cold sore to be exact huh!! Shows how little people know to this day And those who know about this virus and took a risk is because there are people out there that actually look past this!!! It's soooo nice to see the change and it it's not be because we love it but it's so tiny sometimes that we overthink and dread it until our bodies are tired and run down. And you know the stats so it's something lots deal with and those darn cold sores hurt just as much oh boy when you try to get that chip with dip lets just say a paper cut in the fingerweb is a tickle. Life is all about ups and downs so there will still be lots of those but you know we enjoy life too were all just human with trials and tribulations. We're stigmatized yes but so are other things out there still ass well

Hey there girl. Definately what @wcsdancer said she is the shizz and is the big shoulder to cry on just like all the others on here. Your not the first at all we were all once of the sti shame crew little do we know half of them had it now but didn't realize. There's a lot to learn young lady this is only the beginning. And I also thought it was a big punishment sent my way. But you know what it's not!!! Ok and you will learn that in this beautiful struggle all in your time. You know Ive been reading comments whenever theres a herpes topic and see so many ignorant and rude comments it was really taking a toll for a minute but as far as the world it's not just herpes they pick on, especially on the net where there's no faces behind the technology, but in every damn topic. Everyone has opinions and that's ok. There were trolls speaking on the choice Jayden Smith(will smiths son) choice of suit for his prom. A white batman suit. People in their 19s to 50s were commenting on how childish and spoiled and all these mean remarks that were unecessary for them to be writing. It's like tf fuck off people wtf is he doing to you or what had he done to you to make you take the time and wrote that bs. I don't think anyone knew him personally. So you know what it starts with us and time. No one wants to hear those words but we're living proof that eventually we'll be ok. And you have your parents with you 100% and that's a big help. Remember you just found out pay attention and keep loving your body this makes you no more disgusting than anyone else.

Gotcha Dancer so basically 100% of the population has HSV some way another. With all the other types. Go figure.

@Herpetologist is right. Don't know the guy but H has that way of outing character real quick. I mean 80% of humanity has HSV1 whether they know it or not so he's bound to run into someone else with it. Good riddance likd Green Day. And it ain't going nowhere. And welcome to the forum

I meant to say tho first yaaassss!!! Everyone is amazingggg if it wasn't for anyone here we wouldn't know all that we do!!!! A round of applause for you all and taking the time out of your lives to build eachother up!!! Thank yall. I hope to do that sometime out myself cuz it isn't a big deal like we once thought but it's easier said than done for me. It's just harder to open others eyes. That question was the second part because for some reason I didn't think about that before

You guys so I dunno if its been asked before but since I been in here I haven't seen it so up to 90% of the population has hsv1 so that could be oral or genital/oral&genital huh?

That's awesome!!! She sure did it. And that's totally right @Fitgirl those 3 of course. And everyone that has paved a way in one way or another we need to live for us not anyone else. People need to lighten up this black pit. Brighten it up.

And I always thought he was the prettiest out of all those people anyway lol

I sure do dancer. She definately did her thing. She is a pretty popular blogger with the youngsters. Check it out girl. http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2015/04/16/meet-the-woman-who-tells-everyone-i-have-genital-herpes/

At the end of the day we all have souls and that's what matters because everything else is temporary

So just wanted to give much props for Ella coming out with being H posi and I'm finishing up Bruce Jenner's story dunno how others feel but it's sooo enlightening and brave and heart warming hopefully like Sam Cooke a change is gonna come im might be jumping too far but little by little the taboo can overcome it.

It really does cuz that's something you don't know how to react to something you don't think is real or would happen to us like everyone else once thought. Stigma does really play a big part but there is always a stigma for everything in this world and it gets old. But thank you tons again WCS thank you and I hear that she's already growing before my eyes and that alone makes me tear up I don't want her too but that's something I can't help either. :( you have a great day

Yaaaayyyyyyyyyy how exciting congrats on your expectancy I remember you coming on here a little after I did and we've made such progress life is about good and bad days for all so that's not new I did before I know I would after. Can't believe its been that long. Youll have such a preoccupied mind after babygirl gets here you'll forget all about H. I know my doll has this little tornado of mine. I personally will let her know when the time is right so she is aware herself from an experienced individual and will lack no info of it. Hopefully we won't have that discussion until she's 65 lol. But girl you do what's best for you and your little bundle of joy aaaah how i would relive her birth over and over. And definately enjoy the last moments and try to relax as much as you can while she's still playing in there. You've got this. Stay strong

So I've been waiting for the right moment to post again. So I can flow with my keyboard and come straight from the dome. Months ago (almost a year ago)everyone was saying it was gonna be ok you'll be fine and blah blah. I was like what kind of bs is that theres just no way that'll happen. But people this really is NO BIG DEAL, so why does everyone from Drs teachers and society make it one like the plague. Yes we know we don't sign up for it on the spot like shit yea gimme that shit but it's something that is hard to not pass on like germs if you don't know the precautions and it sucks so bad that it takes a diagnose to see that. You know I was hard on myself for that thinking of it like death but it's just the not knowing even when you do have it but show no trace of H. I just always thought omg if I ever heard those words I'd die just go straight ape shit on em. Like will I be able to wear this talk like this joke like that. But I so can its up to us to change this perspective one by one little by little. I know I'm not the only one obviously because as humans I guess we all think we have this super invincibility. As the diagnose let's take it one day at a time to get rid of this disease something we don't have a control of like the cold, allergies, migraines. It's something that will be on this Earth for who knows how long so those recently diagnosed know there is nothing to fear yes obs suck major but there's things now to help zap em quicker too. I mean there's support groups for everyone and everything out there so we know we're not all invincible to anything and we're not alone in lots of aspects. I mean we would of never known awesome people like WSC dancer or Adrial or any of theincredible sexy people that have helped me and the rest of the gang open up. I mean its also annoying when people post things about stds especially one like herpes so nonchalantly and ignorantly on FB Twitter and such. Like when Madonna kissed Drake on Coachella some douche was like oh you know he got herpes blah blah blah and it makes my stomach turn because it's like your ass has it not knowing but your sad ass wants to put someone on blast ok. But sometimes I dunno if it worth if saying things to aside other people loling and commenting it's just too much. And in comedy it made me sink in a little bit comedics leave not one thing out I mean that's what comedy is letting all the taboo in and bringing out laughs so im slowly laughing along with it because if we make it a big deal then everyone will and not everyone agrees but I for one will not take it personal. But herpes is something that happens and we weren't the first and suckily( I guess I just made that up hehe) won't be the last. One thing I need to let go is the past I need help on that because when I see pics and dates and shows from last year before I was diagnosed I always think damn I wish I could go back or why can't I go back to before this that part gets me a lot but not only because of herpes, but because my baby was so tiny n miss her being so wittle lol. But yea I just need to get over that fact because when I got dismissed with oral h I made no fuss and those crop of suckers suck just as bad ouch. And we can change unexpectedly for the good you think clearer and brighter. Rome was not built in one day. Not only H is for life but everything that happens is for life. Take it easy out there folk. We got this