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Why? Why do you feel like a fraud? Just for simply moving on? Having herpes doesn't mean you dont deserve to be happy. I mean I def understand the feeling but just think of it this way. You have to meet ppl, get to know them to see if you guys even fit eachother before disclosing and letting them know. I get that feelinh sometimes too then i remind myself that I'm overreacting.

I realize this post doesn't relate to everyone and thats actually a good thing but my original thought of the post was aimed more towards actually speaking not typing.....but @Robyn_ Im happy you could relate...i think about this post and i laugh again just reading it like "why the heck am i scared of a word?"

I loves reading this and I want to say thank you and I'm happy you learned from this! :)

Ok cool I've had herpes for years so that shouldn't bey problem I just need to find a very experienced peircer (im still looking) and make an appointment with my Ob/gyn :) thanks for your response

Omg that is so funny!!!! Lol I'm so happy for you though!!!

Ok so I want to get my clitoral hood pierced (not the actual clitoris) and I was wondering if this would be a bad idea due to the fact that I have herpes (obviously because I'm on this cite right? Lol :). I'm thinking I should be ok because when I do have outbreaks they aren't anywhere close to my clitoris so it shouldn't affect anything ...but I'm not sure and idk anybody who has this piercing and has genital herpes...

Are the meds bad? I was thinking of using.... I've never taken any medication...where would I get neem from? Also what are the side effects of meds?

I have to admit I was definitely on the verge of tears a min ago and not saying that this article fixed evrything ik its up to me to change the way i feel about myslef but reading it def makes me feel a little better and it makes a lot of good points so thank you :) @wcsdancer2010 ...

I did not mean to post that three times my phone is stupid... Sorry

I really can't give you any advice I'm in the same stage as you I did my first disclosure about 2weeks ago and I just want you to know that I was rejected to so ik and understand how you feel so if you need someone to talk to I'm here :) ...it makes me feel really bad too and a lot of time all I wanna do is sleep now I dont have energy for absolutely anything anymore but what usually helps me is talking about it with ppl on here and also forcing myself out of the house and doing some yoga ...also some days are worse than others not everyday is gonna be a bad day but time will heal it (as cliche as that sounds ..its true)

I really can't give you any advice I'm in the same stage as you I did my first disclosure about 2weeks ago and I just want you to know that I was rejected to so ik and understand how you feel so if you need someone to talk to I'm here :) ...it makes me feel really bad too and a lot of time all I wanna do is sleep now I dont have energy for absolutely anything anymore but what usually helps me is talking about it with ppl on here and also forcing myself out of the house and doing some yoga ...also some days are worse than others not everyday is gonna be a bad day but time will heal it (as cliche as that sounds ..its true)

@lot250 I love harry potter and I love your reference to voldemort <3 ...but I agree with seeker saying it more and more seems to help me

Lets just call it what it is ...Herpes! Let's all just say it ...I feel like calling it "h" is just letting us avoid the problem a little longer... We have herpes and you know what ?I realized that I'm actually scared to say the word ...I hardly ever say it out loud and I've disclosed to 3ppl I wrote it down every time ...I actually have been practicing saying it out loud to my self and I can't help but whisper it lol its actually funny now that I think about it because me avoiding the word is not going to make it less prominent ....So yea I have herpes but I'm also beautiful and smart and I have a freaking AMAZING personality and whose not gonna love me for that?...excuse my rambling but I feel a breakthrough coming on ...you know I've been hiding this for 5years and trying to hide it from myslef too but enough it enough... People are still gonna love me and people are still gonna love you so if your reading this I hope that if you haven't that you can accept yourself for who you are and see that you are not herpes and herpes is not you ...we still deserve to be happy and idk about you but I'm ready to go out and get it ...it's not gonna come us you know

Just did a little yoga and I have to say u missed it much I used to do it everyday.... I have to get back to that place :)

I'm happy I read this because I have been falling back into a really bad depression but this is very inspirational and makes me realize that I'm responsible for my mental state and can do things to help myself feel better ....maybe I dont need a guy to do that for me...so thank you :)

I wear lots of yoga pants and no undies when I have an outbreak ...it really helps and is also very comfortable

I'm 20 years old and female ....the only things that's I can't think of that changed was work and school but those two ddnt start until September and the outbreaks started in July so idk

So I just want some feed back I know everyones body is different but is it normal for someone who has had herpes as long as I have to have a outbreak every month?!?! Ok so this is driving me crazy I've had herpes for 5years and no I'm not taking any meds yet (its a long story but I have an appointment set up to see a doctors soon) but I read that after a couple years you hardly ever get outbreaks ...ive had a outbreak every month since July (and ik cuz I write them down) and I feel like they are lasting extremely long so long that sometimes as soon as one heals a couple days later another starts...is anybody else having outbreaks this bad?

I really hope you don't hold on to this as long as I have . ....5yrs is a terribly long time and I was extremely depressed...

I got it five years ago when I lost my virginity and no my partner of the the time did not disclose to me and honestly I think he gave it to me on purpose so believe me I understand how you feel and I was in denial a really long time about it and I even had sex with somebody else but I don't think hanging on to this anger is the right thing to do its hurting you more than anybody else and also think about the way you feel right now do you really want other people to feel that way? People who honestly have nothing to do with the reason you have herpes? Thinking about this is how o accepted it and I now know that I would never ever want to have sex with anybody again with out telling them first. Even though we both have had partners who were assholes because they ddnt tell us we still have to accept responsibility for our actions you can't blame it all on them nobody forced us yo have sex (unprotected sex in my case) therefore Parr of the responsibility belongs to us....but belive me it gets better....I actually just did my first disclosure (kinda) about 2days ago and its a relief to not have to hide it

I am so happy I found this cite everybody is so helpful and supportive *happy tears* :')

Thanks everyone!!!! Well he msged me back later that day and all he said was " how was your day" ...I said ok and we talked for a little while but nothing about herpes he nvr brought it up ...I think he may still be letting it settle in...idk

Thanks! You respond so fast I love it !!!!! *hugs!!!!!!!*

Ok so today he brought up the letter and he really wanted it and wasn't really talking no for an answer. He said he wants to read it and we can talk about what ever it is after he reads it so after a while I gave in and gave him the letter. That was at about 11am today and I still haven't heard anything from him...should I reach out to him maybe text him or something? I mean I don't want to rush him or anything and I want him to take as much time as he needs but I'm going crazy here lol ...I really like him and wanna know what he has to say or is it safe to assume he no longer wants to talk to me?

Ok so I have been talking to this guy I really like but was terrified to tell him to his face that I have herpes....so a week or two ago I wrote a letter explaining that I have it, how I got it, etc but I changed my mind about giving him the letter because most of the advice I got from everyone was to tell him in person so that was my plan. But today he brought up the letter and he really wanted it and wasn't really talking no for an answer. He said he wants to read it and we can talk about what ever it is after he reads it so after a while I gave it and gave him the letter. That was at about 11am today and I still haven't heard anything from him...should I reach out to him maybe text him or something? I mean I don't want to rush him or anything and I want him to take as much time as he needs but I'm going crazy here lol ...I really like him and wanna know what he has to say or is it safe to assume he no longer wants to talk to me?