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Uhm that's scary then. Hsv2 is more contagious than hsv1. I shouldn't be using those numbers than when i disclose.

@mr_hopp Yes that makes sense, thank you. But theres something i don't understand. If i shed the virus more often doesn't that mean I'm more contagious?

I see everywhere that you keep saying its 50/50, which is totally false. There is always a chance but its NOT 50/50 everytime. I don't like sugar coating either but I think your pushing it.

Well if your still with her after 30 years does it still matter of you catch it?

Just read somewhere on the forum that people can shed between 5 to 45% of the time so how is it 4%? Doesn't seem like those numbers are for everybody.

45% ?!?!?!?!?!

I'm in exactly the same situation as you. I can't seem to find answer anywhere but I believe it does make us somewhat more contagious.

After maybe 1 week exposure.

I'm glad i found this group. I only saw one or two stories of people not transmitting to their h - partner. I'm hsv 1 and 2 + and I struggle to keep my ob under control. I've had these two viruses for about 2 years and a half now. And if i stop to take valacyclovir i get an ob almost immediately. I still feel like I'm having constant prodome too so i started taking lysine everyday. I'm looking into what other supplements i could take. I know my main trigger is stress, anxiety and lack of sleep. I didn't mind that much before but now that I'm looking to getting sexual active again it stressed me the f* out. I just wanna know if other people had positive outcome in not transmitting to your male partner and what precautions you took and how long have you been sexual active with them. I'm looking for my ever lasting love but would feel completely awful if i transmitted it to someone i care for. So @Lstgryl i understand your concern. I don't think i have it orally so i have given head with no condoms in hope that its okay. I'm a little scared about this because i did give oral to my ex while he had an ob. We didn't know he had hsv.

Only way to find out would be by swab. Don't worry too much about it though. Maybe get him to get tested in a couple of weeks? And again in 2 months to make sure he had time to build enough antibodies to be detectable. Thats IF he even caught anything. Anyways i know you would feel awful but he took the chance and knew what he was getting himself into.

https://www.everydayhealth.com/genital-herpes/guide/ Proof.

In theory yes but if the vaginal fluid comes in contact with the infected skin the virus will be in the fluid. The fluid that went through the underwear for sure passed by the shedding skin. Which is why im worried because without thinking i touched his face near his eyes couple of seconds after blocking him and touching my underwear where it was wet, where i get my usual ob's. Just trying to figure out if anybody in a discordant relationship have been in that position before. I'm not sure if i should be worrying

Phase 2 is not over. Part 1 of phase 2 is complete but they are currently looking for participants for their phase 2. Phase 2 is suppose to be completed by October 2019. But because it was fast tracked it might not need to go through phase 3.

This forum is fucking useless

Could i have given him eye herpes by touching near his face after touching over my wet underwear?!?!?!?! I'm freaking out!

@justagirl72 im just curious. You said you were in a relationship with a guy for 3 years and would abstain from sex if you felt anything down there. Has it had happen that he would touch your underwear while they were wet during those times? I'm just overly worrying and want to know what people do if they aren't sure the virus is shedding. Not sure if i put him at risk. You know just touching a bit before i could push his hand away.

I cannot seem to find a clear answer to this. First i have hsv 1 and 2. I THINK i am having prodome at the moment. Unusual vaginal discharge, feeling of pinch maybe a little red and swollen labia (i get it on my labia) but no sores and not really any pain when touching the area, no tingling. I have been very exhausted though. I'm on daily suppressive therapy. So the guy i am dating touched my wet underwear and then proceed to touch his face and etc. On the spot it is not always obvious to worry about it. But now im overly worrying myself. Can he transmit the virus to parts of his body by touching my underwear knowing it was wet so the liquid most likely came into contact of the area i was having prodome. His hand might of been moist by fluid. What are the chances here? To transmit to his face or penis by touching those parts afterwards. Anyone PLEASE answer.

@boldaslove thank u very much for ur answer! I understand the risk are there, hopefully he will be okay. Atleast the risk arent as high as i was imagining. yes its very frustrating having questions and worries but nobody to talk to. I cant even talk to doctors because they don't even know much about herpes!

@20plus Its holiday week, give people a change to post, you just posted yesterday. :) When ur freaking out 1 day is an eternity! Sorry

Okkaayy well thank u for nothing. This site was pretty useless.

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I just want to know if these are enough for transmitting the virus genital to hand to genital when sores are present. And really quick slight touch sores and penis? Or more rubbing is needed? Because when i gave him oral i did rub his penis with my hand that i slightly touch my vagina with....

Is it enough for transmission if the penish slightly touch a herpes sore or some rubbing is needed? His penis touched where i usually get my sores for a couple of second. I blockes him afterwards with my hand so his penis wouldnt touch. Would this be enough? Thing is i didnt know i was having an outbreak. Barely any symptoms that i didnt recognize. I only saw it the next day because it started hurting a little more, constipation, lower stomach pain and vaginal discharge. And i really had to look closely to find them. So im not sure if they were already there or if i was having prodome at that time. He also fingered me and probably touched his penid afterwards would that also be enough for transmission? And i also used the same hand that i slightly touched myself when i blocked his penis from touching to give him a hand job. Im scared i might of put him in high rate of transmittion without knowing....im freaking out.