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@mstanya1234 If a person has autoimmune diseases, yes. You, no. Me at some point I will deal with it and it scares the shit outta me - but I have a major autoimmune disease that is killing my bile duct and will eventually kill my liver and beyond. Steroids and Immunosuppressant drugs and H are NOT a good combo. Keep that in mind if you ever have to take steroids. Just how it is. The point of my post is that H is not worth your life especially since you have kids... as hard as it is to realize that your diagnosis could be one hella lot worse. You will in time come to terms and move on - it will take hard work....and it will be up to you for your kids at the very least to do so.

I would suggest going on suppressives. I find that irritation is more common with H even though visually all looks normal. The only way they'd ever know differently is if they did a biopsy. Stress and freaking out is pretty normal.... but the bigger picture is moving on and realizing you still have LIFE. I know.... but it's Truth. I found out I had HSV2, HPV high risk and cervical dysplasia and another rare and incurable disease called PSC in less than 2 months time. Add in my incurable Rosacea disease and I now have 4... yep 4! INCURABLE diseases and one will try to kill me my entire life - PSC and if I live to get a new liver one day, all the immunosuppressants and steroids make for a play day for virus' like H and HPV. They actually suggest going off immunosuppressants as H can go rogue and turn cancerous on all organs in the pelvic region. The point... Your life is far from over. I can relate... but at the same time, gift or curse, H has nothing on the bigger health issues that can really End your Life. No suicide necessary. Get support and keep talking.... and keep moving and doing Life. Time does heal.

Rock Star and your therapist is right on.... everything in life is what we make it. And to allow others the same option is pure beauty. Well done and congrats!!!!! Goosebumps for you :)

HPV and Herpes are two completely different animals aside from both are incurable. Even HPV can cause issues.... I found out I have a high risk type and in less than 2 years my cervix cells started to go rogue. Disclose disclose disclose. The only way we got H was because somebody else did not or just didn't know. We all have moments of wanting to Avoid the Talk.... but a talk is better than the fact you Know you did a person Very Wrong. Best of luck and be glad you are not dating your friend... those little white lies apply to many areas of dating.... seriously messed up, self serving thinking.

53 here and back out there. Met a guy and although turns out he too is H2 positive, I'm finding that although I'm glad we had sex sooner - had to see if I could!!! and I can!!! again - but there are some quirks coming up 5 weeks in and only 4 dates in. That said, I'm with @LoveTheMountains - it's kinda interesting to wait on having sex. There was a man in my life for years and I just broke it off with him yesterday. Don't know if he gave me H or not but things have been so off and on that I finally was like, who cares - I'm Out and moving on as he isn't ready for more. All good and well, one more H talk avoided. Don't know - just gotta keep putting it out there and see what bites... and hopefully in a sweet fine way ifn' ya know what I mean. :)

If your immune system is compromised, H will always win. I had to take high doses of valtrex to move on and stabilize and now take it twice a day. Took my 5 months to get here of consistent and sometimes rather high med dose. Suppressive won't hinder, only support your immune system. It's worth it... then after 6-12 months maybe try going off and see what happens. Taking daily pills suck and I hated adding two more - but such is my path!

Get tested again and get a final diagnosis. If not, you'll drive yourself mad with What Ifs. I had sex in June 2017 - didn't test blood positive until January 2018. Didn't break out until November after blood test negative in Oct and Nov 2017. Culture/swab test came back positive. Point is, I have no clear answer either and no man I slept with thus far is admitting to having HSV2. It took my 4 months of hell to get ahead of my first break out even though it was never super crazy. But even getting myself off gave me a break out. It took loads of meds and different meds. No natural therapies worked, only made it worse. I am currently on suppressives, had sex twice, gotten off about 5 times and so far... back in business. Keep in mind however I'm 5 months out. I find that once the initial break out passes, it's easier. KNOWING my truth also mattered so I could mentally move on. Knowledge is Power, do not run from it, embrace it and Move On. Time will heal. Take care and stay in the game and stay Real and Present!

Candida Diet - it's not easy but not only will you feel great, in time... give it 3 months and moan and groan the first 6 weeks all you wish! You will always lose excess weight and balance out in so many areas. BirdsandButterflies has good suggestions too. It's Work however.... always a catch - but worth a try. What's 3 months?

It's normal. I hadn't had sex since June 2017. Was tested for all STD's October and November and negative on all but HPV. No break outs or anything. Had my first baby lesion in November and tested blood positive in January. Not One Doc can explain how I can be negative that long after last sex (with a person I've had sex with many times) and not be positive in my blood. I did have my annual pap smear 14 days before first break out but they say - couldn't be it. Part of me is like, so where did I get it?

Fungal, Candida, Immune, Gut - all go hand in had. For fungal I'd get it checked and get on some drugs. My sister got something and she is on fluconozale for 45 days to kill it. It has now killed the tonail fungus she has has for decades in one toe. Arm issue is slowly responding but it's more settled in so to speak. Valtrex made me feel very weird too in high doses, but it did work. There are 3 options out there. One other that starts with an F you might check out. Research Research Research! Hang in there!

That's right Girl.... We Come First... pun intended too ;) Hang in there... lots of tasty fish in the sea still lol

@Jjj21 I take the same on Valtrex. I don't know if maybe you were more contagious at that moment or not. However, if she is fine in 2-14 days. Most likely she is fine. I'd still get tested in 6-8 weeks just for Peace of Mind. I'd be curious how long you've had unprotected sex and how often and what you base doing so on. Informational only - as I feel great now... finally!... and wonder if I could do the same if a person was in agreement. Thanks!

@BlueBerry08 HORMONES - ugh. But it seems pretty common too. As I wrote above, I took very high doses of Valtrex and then slowly weaned myself off when I started to feel more normal. Yes, I didn't like how I felt on high dose, but it worked. I actually had gentle sex a couple weeks ago and so far so good.... got myself off only once... and again, so far so good. But I'm moving forward slowly and carefully. Also on 2x per/day valtrex suppressive. Maybe look into immune system support too? I wrote in another post where another person is going on like 3 years of bad OB - what I take to support my immune system in hopes it helps me fight due to my autoimmune disease - that H tends to enjoy... opportunistic fuck H is :) Hang in there... and change meds and hit it HARD - it's worth the side effects of getting better. And maybe bulk up a few days prior to period to nip it in the bud. I'm lucky my doc now allows me to do what I need based on how I'm feeling. Less is better but I'll be damned if I'm not very vigilant as the meds are not threatening to my body. Just supportive.

Sending Hugs... I have a disclosure coming up in a very similar situation. Here for you and glad today is better! It can only get better now. He made a decision and in some ways a blessing so you know exactly what you need to do. Take care of and love You. You got this!

I had it going on for 4 months - I'm so sorry!!! It took me being on valtrex, 3,000 mg a day for almost 14 days. Then for 5 days I went to 2,000 mg/day, then 5 days at 1500mg per day and now at suppressive at 1000 mg / day. Pills are 500mg. I also take 1,000 mg lysine a day even though it's not known to matter much with HSV2. I tried the others and to no avail. I also found the more I left it alone, the better. I tried other natural therapies and they seemed to make things worse for me. I'd say you've got some immune issues. I have a rare autoimmune disease I found out about in Jan 2018 so I think this fully explains my bodies inability to fight the HSV2 virus on it's own and why I needed such high doses to back it down. Research how to test and build up your immune system and also research working on your Gut Health better. I take Stamets7, Livrotrit, Tumeric, Omegas, B and C in foods to support my immune system. I just started having sex again - once with another and once by myself... lol... and so far, no irritation. You need to get ahead of it buy knocking it on it's Ass. That's what worked for me. Valtrex at that those made me all head fog and fuzzy and feel weird (posted on it), but damn, it finally worked. Take care... and send lotsa love to your body. It needs you more than ever to take good care of it!

I don't see why rough sex would matter for her. The fact you broke out, I'd think, is most likely due to the friction and it and being on suppressive I'd say chances are she is going to be fine. Condoms matter and her health matters of course. I had sex with an H positive asymptomatic person who had never had a breakout. Been positive for over 10 years. We had gentle sex, as I was not sure I could yet handle the friction, and HE broke out for his very first time. Combo of stress I'm sure was additive for him, but it was kinda odd. I tell you this as the same thing happened to another male who though not on suppressive still had his first ever BO with gentler sex - as we were worried about me. If you continue to worry or wonder, have her get tested in 6-8 weeks max.

Just got the news and no one can explain why I tested negative for so long then positive after no sex for a long time. Then I got cervical cancer on top of a PSC diagnosis. So my H just loved th stress and I BO for over 4 months. Met a guy who is also H positive and the one time we have sex... my test run to see if I can have friction without issue...., he says he is having his first ever BO in over 10 years. WTF? Here I'm ready for more! loll But so it goes. He is being so very casual about it - so, bonus. And yes, we will meet up again when he is more ready or we just do a fun dinner and cuddle night. One thing about H., it stops the fuckfest right quick and other activities come into play....no pun intended. Thanks for asking and the support @LoveTheMoutains! xx

I would't continue to sleep with a person not willing to be tested first if not already positive. Why be the one they place eventual blame on should they test positive, hell now, ain't no scratching post :) Keep em' on board ladies.... and we will do our part to keep em' informed. But That.s It!

@DoHope35 Thank you :) I was hoping I didn't have to as we've not been together sexually but twice in two years. You know, life thing. But he is wanting to give things a try again and we've known each other over 5 years... and in my 53 years.... he is the Lover my body adores. Damn pheromones - but damn fine pheromones lol And, I've loved him forever - lover, friend, support, confidant. So, I was hoping to avoid the talk due to the hurt he may feel knowing full on I slept with others and then of course the rejection of H on top of his being hurt. Not to say he didn't also have company over those two years... either way, gonna be interesting! Good news, time heals and we all move on - this much I've learned. Take care and look forward to hearing how everything turns out

OK - I over thought this yesterday. Of course I'm not responsible.... duh! Herpes is an opportunistic fuck (my definition;) and well, guess the combo of factors in his life added up to a first BO if he is telling the truth. I feel better as it was like damn, I kinda was looking forward to this weeks play time lol

So.... I FINALLY have sex, since June 2017!, with another HSV2 positive man who said he is positive, but never has had a BO, in over 10 years. This was like my trial run to see if I could have any kind of friction yet to not activate me. I'm 4.5 months in and been feeling good for about 2-3 weeks on supressants. Shy two days later he said he has a sore he thinks. We did not use protection as he is clean besides HsV2 as am I (I have HPV but he does not care as most don't). We both have not had sex for almost a year. I don't feel at all like I'm that contagious and it seems odd that of all the years he has been doing it with HsV positives and negatives he has never had a breakout until maybe "me". Could be his life right now as it's pretty stressful, but still... Thoughts? First time and this.... really puts a damper things if I can make an asymptomatic veteran break out.... when I feel normal.

@mog Hey there - felt good to see an upswing in your writing! I still have great, bad and sideways days on things going on 5 months, but in time it just starts to blend with a way of life. Now that my BO has quieted and I can have a little friction, I'm feeling more confident. Continue to take care and check back with how things are going as you feel!

@DoHope35 I'm with you. I am coming close to having the talk with a man I love even though we've spent time apart. I may have gotten from him last June (the last time I had sex) but if not, then I don't have a clue. That said, I appreciate your writing as you are doing it so fine and right and being so alive and real about it. Well done. Fingers crossed for us both!

@nat87 I'm in the same boat. And we probably are great catches.... but yes, we do have our secret. Going out with a guy with H now, but I know it's not long term. Another guy is interested and I him, but I need to have the talk. Ugh as this is all still so new. However, all we can do is get back on that horse... or as the saying goes, save a horse, ride a cowboy! lol

Thank you. Most feel HSV2 is just nothing, but it is a Big Something when mixed with immunosuppressants. I read this as I have PSC where immunosuppressants are a very high probability in my future. HSV2 is not something to sneeze at for the small few. "Herpes simplex virus (HSV) HSV-1 and -2 are members of the Herpesviridae family. Primary infection with HSV in immunocompetent individuals usually causes an asymptomatic or mild self-limited oral–labial (generally HSV-1) or genital (generally HSV-2) infection, followed by HSV persistence (latency) in nerve ganglia.117,118 HSV reactivation in immunocompromised patients can lead to disseminated disease including encephalitis, meningitis, esophagitis, colitis, and hepatitis.119–121 Anti-TNF therapy is associated with increased risk of HSV reactivation and dissemination.122,123 HSV colitis can mimic certain chronic inflammatory conditions such as acute exacerbation of IBD and has been associated with higher risk of colectomy.124 The gold standard method for diagnosing the infection is to detect the virus using PCR from infected tissues or body fluid.125 Acyclovir, valacyclovir, and famciclovir can be used for the treatment of acute or recurrent HSV infection. It is not recommended to use anti-TNF agents during the acute phase of HSV infection due to the increased risk of dissemination. Interruption of immunosuppression is recommended in patients with severe HSV infection.86"