To disclose or not...

[MMissouri]

Online register? I think that would cause more harm than good. I could think of many ways that would be abused.

[WCSDancer2010]

Instead of assuming everyone is clean. I disclose, unprompted, but I'd be in favor of a disclosure that works like this: don't bring it up if the other person doesn't ask and if they do ask then you tell them. This way you still disclose and it makes everyone more responsible for knowing the facts instead of living in a bubble.

 

The thing is people are not being properly educated. But YOU are educated and thus YOU have the responsibility of "Adulting" (as my kids put it) and doing the mature and right thing.

 

Online? Oh hell no. People would never go for testing. As it is in many states do have mandatory registration for certain STD's (not available to the public) and many won't test for that reason ... and I agree with @MMisouri - it would easily be abused.

 

Exactly, people are playing Russian roulette every time they have unprotected sex with a person who they don't know the STI status of. At least those of us who know we are infected are playing safe, which those who are unaware are not.

 

Did you ready the study I posted that shows that those of us who KNOW we have H are FAR less likely to pass it on than the 80% of those who have no clue that they harbor the virus??? Simply because we monitor our bodies, and *at least most* will disclose. So we give our partner CHOICE, and we take responsibility for doing out best to not pass it on. In a funny, weird way, *we* are safer to have sex with than someone who *believes* they have been tested, or who do insist on keeping their head in the sand who won't get tested

 

http://projectaccept.org/who-gets-hsv/

 

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2014/02/dating-with-a-std.html

Raw and unapologetic truths about dating with herpes

 

http://supporttruthanddialog.com/rejection_its-all-about-perspective/ (my blog)

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/4699/first-real-disclosure-first-real-rejection Rejection as your teacher…..

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection

 

 

http://m.jid.oxfordjournals.org/content/194/1/42.long Knowledge of Partners’ Genital Herpes Protects against Herpes Simplex Virus Type 2 Acquisition