[Are you still with your giver?]

@lifeisarollercoaster omg i'm in a 4 years relationship too and discovering this after all this years it's kinda hard because (in my experience) I'm full of doubts about everything... only my bf and my mom know about it and with my mom i don't talk about it because I don't want to worry her or make her think bad about me (wich I know she don't), and when I talk to my bf he doesn't say anything than "what can I do?, I didn't know", bla bla... Sometimes I feel soooo alone 😪

 

If ANYONE wanna talk about anything i'm here for you.

[Are you still with your giver?]

@Kells omggg! Reading you was like hearing myself! Trust me I understand you. I had my first ob 4 months ago but in my case I was visually diagnosed 😐 i haven't had any blood or culture tests so idk which strain I have or if it is a new infection (despite I had flu like symptoms so I think it was) and Idk if I make some blood tests 6 months after that I will be able to know if it's a recent infection or not (don't think so btw 😭) ... so the only thing I knew was that my bf gave it to me (bc he's the only one i have been with) so I felt the same way... angry at him, at me, at the dr, at the fucking stigma, at thinking that if I end the relationship with him I have to disclose and maybe rejection, thinking about if someone knows it will tell everybody and so... fucking sucks 😪 

 

And I can't understand why one of the most stigmatized "STD's" isn't included in the routine tests (I know it is bc it isn't life threatening, but the stigma...)I mean there's something wrong...

 

I wanna cry rn 😭😭😭

[Are you still with your giver?]

1 hour ago, Uklad said:

My giver left me for her ex that gave her it lol how ironic 

Wtf 😐 i'm sure you are better without her. So, her loss... 😉

[Are you still with your giver?]

2 hours ago, Kells said:

Yes, were together 1yr in Aug when I got HSV 1. He didn't know and never had an outbreak. I am glad I have the closure of knowing who gave me this, he said he doesn't have that luxury (??). I feel initially we got a bit closer because we had to have tough talks, but now I feel we are becoming distant and I may be clinging because I don't think I will find anyone else 

2 hours ago, Kells said:

Yes, were together 1yr in Aug when I got HSV 1. He didn't know and never had an outbreak. I am glad I have the closure of knowing who gave me this, he said he doesn't have that luxury (??). I feel initially we got a bit closer because we had to have tough talks, but now I feel we are becoming distant and I may be clinging because I don't think I will find anyone else :(.

 

I totally feel you. I'm kinda in the same boat. Did he reacted good or bad? 

[Are you still with your giver?]

@_a_rayofsunshine_Did he tell you that he had an ob and didn't tell you? Wtf

[IGG levels through time]

How does it work? The longer you have had it the higher the numbers? Or it is possible to have high numbers at first and then (lets say 10 years after) have low numbers or be negative (if it's possible)?

[Itchy every day but no visible symptoms]

Have you tried taking b complex to nourish the nerves? I took that bc I lost the urge to pee (idk is that's post herpetic neuralgia?) after my first ob and I think it got better.

[Are you still with your giver?]

@_a_rayofsunshine_ oh and it was a surprise for you both or do you suspect that he knew and didn't disclose?

[HELP!!!]

I've read that it's ok to masturbate while you have an outbreak (best using some latex gloves or wash your hands immediately after touching the area with the sores) but have to be very careful to not touch areas/genitals of your bodies.

[Are you still with your giver?]

@_a_rayofsunshine_ really? Kinda personal but,did you spoke with him about this and he didn't wanna talk or get tested? 

[Partner doesn't have outbreaks]

Thank you so much Armando!

Seriously it will get better? I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel... having (milder than the first one) OB's kinda frecuently (at least each month when period comes) it's like non ending cycle 😢 like some day's I'm up but when I feel an ob coming everything goes down again... I can't remember the last day that I felt normal 😞 And I hate that my partner looks nonchalant bc he doesn't have outbreaks i'm jealous 😫

[Are you still with your giver?]

36 minutes ago, MarieH said:

hell no. If he was a bad enough person not to give the right to consent to risk he is not a good enough person to date or speak to 

Totally agree. 

[Are you still with your giver?]

@sweetlove884 oh! And did you knew before you were with him and disclose or it was a surprise while you were with your partner? Sorry if it's too personal, i totally get if you wanna be reserved.

[Partner doesn't have outbreaks]

How "normal" it is that my partner H+ (known bc we had an ob at the same time but haven't get tested) doesn't have recurrent outbreaks and I do? What does it mean? That his body has the virus under control and mine doesn't maybe bc it's a new infection? Does that mean that he has hsv1? I know that the only way to tell the strain it's to get tested but I'm very confussed 😟

[HSV 1]

On 11/1/2018 at 2:22 PM, Michgirl73 said:

I seen her Terri Warren post about that. I’m actually someone that got hsv1 gential to gential. I was surprised.

@Michgirl73 did your partner had an active outbreak or did he perform oral sex? I'm curious about if it's possible to contract ghsv1 genital to genital.

[HSV 1]

6 minutes ago, MarieH said:

nope

just shedding. bad luck. he lied about his history and was NOT on meds to reduce shedding or any other measure for that matter. 

And did he got a cold sore after having sex? 🤔

[Are you still with your giver?]

@cantgetoverthis @Michgirl73 thats so fucked up :S what an asshole! But hey! You are better without them! 😎

[Are you still with your giver?]

@100918 Oh! Imagine that you discover that any of you have H during your relationship. Would you still be with your partner? (Besides any reason you are not longer with him) 

[HSV 1]

On 11/4/2018 at 10:22 AM, MarieH said:

me too. with condom use

 

 

Your partner was having an active outbreak? 

[Are you still with your giver?]

Is anyone still in a relationship with the person who gave you H? If so, how it's your relationship going? Going stronger or was a dealbreaker? 

[How hard it is to find a couple?]

How hard it is to find a couple that doesn't care about H? I live in México and here it's very stigmatized all about std's...

 

I'll appreciate your stories and advices.

 

 

[Want your opinion]

@100918 thank you so much! When I was diagnosed my GYNOB didn't do any blood or swab test it was just visual diagnose so I don't know either which strain we have. So I think i'm gonna do an IGG test. Do you think that it's accurate to test after 6 months since my diagnose? I mean I should have lower numbers than him right?

[Want your opinion]

@sweetlove884I never had anything like this and I dk if he had in the past 

[Want your opinion]

If you were in a lets say 5 years relationship with the only partner you have been with (but he/she had partners before) and suddenly you have an OB like 4 years into the relationship, what would you think? That your parner cheated or that maybe it was asymptomatic carrier? And the cherry on the pie will be that you had an OB at the same time.

[First exposure illness]

My OBGYN told me that my body at some point should cope with the virus by itself, when she diagnosed me she gave me acyclovir 2 pills 3 times a day for 5 days and after that 1 pill for 25 days (to suppres) but even then when I had my first period I was in the suppresive therapy and I had a mild OB during my period so I thought there's nothing I could do even if I take the pills...

 

I think it's a good idea to go to the urgent care and get check your immune system, maybe you should take multivitamin to boost it and then feel better.

 

Def I wanna start to meditate but I don't know how to do it 😞 any suggestions?

 

 Hope you get better soon!!