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I agree with @HikingGirl. Don’t beat yourself up if he decides to walk . Instead hold your head up high knowing you did the right thing by disclosing and move on. I also found out I had H2 a few months ago while having my annual physical and spontaneously asking for testing. The guy and I had already been intimate repeatedly and was talking long term including marriage. I found out I had H2 and was floored. Told him immediately and he left days later. We have not talked since. At first I was gutted but now I’m ok b/c obviously I wasn’t the one after all but my integrity is in tact and I’m moving on. I won’t reach out and beg him to do his research...for what?? I’m still the great person he said I was prior to this diagnosis. I don’t even know if he even went and got tested. Keep your head up honey!! If he wants you he will stay but if he doesn’t don’t beg him. “Man’s rejection is God’s protection” is also one of my favorite quotes and a reminder that what God had for me is for ME! I won’t have to beg or convince him if he’s the one. Be encouraged!

I say bring it up again the next time you see him. Ask him if he’s done his research and his thoughts on it. If he doesn’t want to talk about it tell him how you feel. You shouldn’t have to be left in limbo while he takes his time in researching and discussing with you. Just my opinion. Hope it turns out in your favor.

Yes I’m the same way and hope that it will change after some time. It’s only been 2 months for me so the slightest itch or twitch and I’m thinking it’s the virus!

Hi and welcome to the forum. This place is full of people that used to feel like you do now including me. I found out 2 months ago and went thru a range of emotions at first and had some dark days. I still have them but not often because I realized that life goes on. You will feel better just give it some time.

Yikes at unprotected sex! Even with your type and on AVs there’s still always that chance. I say tell him and suffer the consequences. He most likely will be upset but if he’s really feeling you he’ll take the time to process and hopefully y’all can continue. Good luck

Great story! Thanks for the update!

Hi there. I’m newly diagnosed with genital HSV2 and I’m a female. I found out only b/c I asked for STD testing and doc ordered full panel for the first time. My symptoms are mild and consist of itching and some tingling at times. Never had an OB like you may see online or in medical books. I’m ok but I’m aware that this virus affects people differently. 4 years ago I was hanging out with this guy as friends b/c he was coming out of a marriage and emotionally unstable at times. Well I guess he was catching feelings b/c one day he just blurted out that he had Herpes and started crying!! I was shocked that he’d share that information with me and like you had never had anyone tell me this before. Out of curiosity I did some internet search and was glad I didn’t have to go thru the pain that I’d read ladies went thru. He and I continued to hang as friends and TBH I couldn’t deal with emotional mess he was at times and could never see him as more than a friend. He’s attractive so I thought about casually sleeping with him but after he disclosed and I knew I wasn’t in it for more than friendship that’s what we have been and sex never happened. After being diagnosed 2 months ago you’d think I’d now want to consider my friend as long term potential since we are now in the same boat but I still don’t see him as someone I’d date long term. He doesn’t even know i have it yet b/c I think he will assume we can officially cross that line but I don’t see him like that and I’ve told him before. So my point is...if you really really like this guy and see a future with him then go for it. There’s chances in everything we do in life. But if you don’t see him long term then be honest and let him down easy. He cared enough of you to tell you before intimacy so that shows his character and integrity.

Wow, I’m sorry you’re going thru this. Your mom should be supportive and not so judgmental. This is EXACTLY why I haven’t told my mom...plus she’s a minister so I can imagine her comments. She’d try and have me at the alter on Sunday with oil slathered on my forehead...and I’m 42!! Don’t worry about your mom just don’t tell her anything else.

If he left just like that after calling you 'the one' he was full of shit the whole time. I agree and see that now but it’s been a tough couple of months emotionally.

Very sweet!! Congratulations on a successful disclosure!!

Hey all, I’m also newly diagnosed 2 months ago via blood work at annual physical. I asked fo STD test and doc said she would do full panel this time and here I am. No OBs but occasional itching down there. I told the guy that I was dating 30 mins after The nurse called and he said “wow, most people keep that type of stuff to themselves”. I thought was a strange comment to make but I was so shook and emotional I didn’t question him until he broke up with me via email 4 days later. The fact that he left like that bothers me more than this diagnosis. Prior to that he was calling me “the one”. I have good days and bad days but this diagnosis stays on my mind every single day. These forums help me get thru my tough days b/c I haven’t told anyone IRL.

Coconut oil mixed with tea tree oil is heaven for me.

Very interesting read! Thanks for sharing!