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25 y/o single male here. I Contracted HSV-2 about a month ago from someone who knew they had it and refused to disclose. The first few weeks were the worst. Feelings of guilt/shame/anxiety/depression and agony seemed to never leave my mind. I would be in conversation with someone and the intrusive thought "I have herpes" would surface, it was awful. Oh and not to mention my first outbreak was terrible. I guess it get's better with respect to time. I'm definitely not feeling as bad as I did during the first few weeks. I'm just mad that it's going to make dating that much harder, having to disclose to someone seems unbearable. Thinking of it as just a mild skin condition seems to help my conscious. I mean that's basically all it is. This website has helped a lot, there are a lot of supportive people on here. Welcome!

25 y/o male who recently contracted HSV-2. Whom I contracted it from knew they had it and refused to disclose. "Pay the price, pay for nothings fair. Sad but true". -James Hetfield Welcome to hell my friend.

25 y/o single male here recently contracted HSV-2 from someone who knew that hey it and refused to disclose. I haven't moved forward as far as dating and have tried and failed to stay positive. If someone were to tell me they had herpes I honestly wouldn't plan on continuing to see them unless I were really into them. With that being said I basically consider myself off the market. I'm still in a state of shock from the whole thing so my opinion may be biased. May the force be with you.

Damn, that was sad to read.

@Hikinggirl. I see you respond to a lot of new users here. I just wanted to let you know that I admire your dedication to helping others. Thank you !

@Lifegoesonn Why would you make such a post? This forum is for support, you're basically kicking someone when they're down. If the only thing you have so say is negative don't bother posting. That was very rude and immature of you.

From my personal experience I would say no. 48 hours after my exposure I had flu like symptoms, sore throat, swollen lymph nodes and lesions from hell. I'm no expert by any means, they say 80% of people never experience a breakout. From reading your post I would conclude that you don't have it. Lucky bastard. <3

Doctors want your money.

That's fucked up of your mom to say.

If he left just like that after calling you 'the one' he was full of shit the whole time.

My symptoms came about 48 hours after exposure. It felt like having the flu on steroids, sore throat, swollen lymph nodes and lesions from hell. Get tested!

25 y/o male here. First outbreak of HSV-2 was 3 weeks ago and lasted about two and a half. It was bad. Contracted it from a rare one night stand (I've only been with four women my entire life) I'm still overcoming the shock of it and the intrusive thoughts that come with. This describes how I feel on a daily basis. Metallica - Harvester of sorrow Best wishes and may the force be with you.

Damn that's hardcore (the motorcycle accident), props for enduring the pain without painkillers. If it makes you feel better I also feel like shit about myself. I walk around the house trying to fight mirrors, I can't stand what I look like. This has helped me recently. Metallica - Harvester of Sorrow May the force be with you.

I have also started waking up in the middle of the night. I don't know why either but I think it just stems from the initial mental shock of the virus.

25 y/o male here. There is a point in continuing. Here's a quote that has helped me in times of trouble. "You will either step forward into growth, or back into safety." How will you choose to live? May the force be with you.

Yeah, it is quite the burden to bear. I can't stop constantly reminding myself of it. Like today while in conversation with someone the intrusive thoughts had their way and left my mind blank. I don't know what else to say. Hey at least it's not HIV right?

I'm a 25 y/o male, have only been with four partners my entire life. Had a one night stand with protection some weeks ago and contracted HSV-2. The only advice I can think of right now is to just let it burn (not literally lol.) Embrace the pain and come to terms with it. I'm still in the process of all of this. Yes the stigma is terrible around it. I've learned to just look at it as a mild skin condition (although my first outbreak was fucking bad lol.) May the force be with you.

From what I've read you're better off without that girlfriend. She sounds toxic. Welcome to the website, I'm a 25 y/o male recently diagnosed and experiencing a lot of the same feelings you are. Loneliness/sorrow/depression/desperation. What I've learned in a nutshell from this site is that HSV is just a mild skin condition that a lot of people have but don't know. May the force be with you my friend.

The pain from my first outbreak was also unreal. The pain from the lesions were so severe I almost passed out in the shower and could barely walk afterwards. I hear the first outbreak is the worst which I'm kind of counting on. Wearing loose clothes helps a little I guess. Best of luck to you.

Hey Chispa welcome to the forums! I was diagnosed about two weeks ago. I'm 25 y/o male. She didn't know she had it. If it makes you feel better I am still going through the 'shock' process of it all. Not knowing what the future will hold. I guess trying to stay positive helps and knowing that it's just a mild skin condition takes a lot of the load off. Best of luck to you!

Good to know. Yeah I think my mental state will return to normal after the lesions go away and will try to stay positive in the mean time. Thanks for your input.

Okay cool, so I take it most girls don't see it as a big deal then? And yeah, the outbreak is slowly getting better but god damn that was fucked up. Like when I would go to pee I could literally smell the infection when I pulled my pants/underwear down. It is disgusting. And I like the silver lining part you being up. Before I was infected I was always into health and nutrition, I've been lifting for the past three years and keeping my diet clean. I've kind of fallen off the deep end these past two weeks due to the shock of being infected. I started smoking again, lost like 10 lbs, haven't seen the gym in two weeks and have been eating shittier (I guess my screen name proves true lol). It has definitely had an effect on my state of mind. That will all soon change. 7/8 is a pretty good ratio if I may say. Casual sex is cool and all but I'm more interested in a genuine connection. How has your dating/love life been since your diagnosis? ~Thanks

@Lifegoesonn I agree. I'm still enduring my first outbreak and it is absolutely terrible. The pain is unlike anything I've ever felt. The images are stuck in my head too!

@hippyherpy You're absolutely right. My bad for acting like a little self wallowing pussy, that was pathetic. I guess I'm just still new to the virus and everything surrounding it. I think severity of my first outbreak has freaked me out, the pain is like none I've ever felt. And for the record my case put anything I saw on google images to shame (lolol.) I just can't see myself transmitting this pain to someone else knowingly. I have read a lot and see a lot of cases where people have the virus and show no symptoms, which is relieving to read (lucky bastards). Seeing how successful you've been since your diagnosis has also been a ray of light. So when you disclose do you just straight up tell them "I have herpes" or what? I''m curious how you go about that. Also how has your dating life been, or are you just not interested in a relationship? ~Thanks

I'm right there with you man. Harvesting my sorrow constantly thinking about how in desiring a five second orgasm has plagued my life forever with an incurable virus. I'm only 25, no kids, no gf. My dating/sex life is basically over. You're not alone my friend. I find posting and staying active on these forums helps a little. I guess it makes me feel better to know that others are suffering the same ailment. Oh and blasting heavy metal helps too haha