Depressed

[Kware261]

Has anybody else went through a horrible depression. I’ve had hsv2 for 3 years now and i feel like it’s been hitting me hard for the past month. A therapist couldn’t help me , depression pills couldn’t help. It’s sad that I’m still in shock that this is my life. I literally have nobody in reality that can relate to me or has ever felt how i have felt . And a guy that i want I’m just so afraid . I feel so abnormal . I know it’s my emotions talking but it’s been hitting me really hard lately.

[Avalon1]

I’m so depressed I can hardly move. I also like someone and could never go for it because of this. 

[Kware261]

1 hour ago, Avalon1 said:

I’m so depressed I can hardly move. I also like someone and could never go for it because of this. 

I like somebody as well. And we were very close to having sex but i said no. I just couldn’t . Because i haven’t told him . And i wouldn’t know what to do with myself if i gave this to somebody.

[Avalon1]

I know, even if they don’t reject you I still wouldn’t want to give this to anyone. So neither rejection or transmission are good scenarios. I have strain 1. 

[hHelp]

3 hours ago, Avalon1 said:

I’m so depressed I can hardly move. I also like someone and could never go for it because of this. 

I am so so sorry you feel like this! I’m in the same boat, I was diagnosed 8 months ago and it has been hell I thought I wanted to take my life BUT don’t lose hope I am with a guy now who knows about it and loves me for me (mind you I had all shitty relationships BEFORE HSV) everything will fall into place as it should and we are all here for you!

[hHelp]

Also over 50 percent of the population have hsv-1 it’s so terrible that it has a stigma but please don’t lose hope! I’m here if you need to talk.

[mr_hopp]

54 minutes ago, hHelp said:

Also over 50 percent of the population have hsv-1 it’s so terrible that it has a stigma but please don’t lose hope! I’m here if you need to talk.

Closer to 80-90% actually! 🙂 

[hHelp]

truee!! i just rechecked my facts (which were all facts from you so thank you 🙂🙂!!!!! sorry about that 😉

[Freakingoutbad]

It sounds like you have had this for much longer than me, so I won't pretend to know what it's like to deal with it for years....but I do know what you mean about depression.  I've felt that too over the last month and I've had my share of tough parts in my life.  Here is what i'm telling myself:  It's happened.  I unfortunately have this and there is nothing I can do to change that.  So I need to move on and do the best that I can to minimize the impact is has on my life.  When I first found out I had it I thought I would rather have been told I have stage 5 lung cancer than that I'm HSV positive.  But that's ridiculous.  It's a harmless skin rash and nothing more.  It has a terrible stigma for sure.  But that means that you need to get really good at telling people that you have it in a way that sounds like you have your shit together.  Practice having that conversation over and over until it comes out in a clear and calm way without fear and sadness all over your face.  Be confident in who you are and that you are way more than what your HSV status is.  Everyone has some sort of problem or issue whether they admit it or not....you just have to accept yours.  They aren't perfect either.  You have HSV....just like millions of other people.  You didn't do anything to acquire it other than be unlucky.  But you are aware of it and your number one priority will be to make sure that you don't transmit it to your partner.  And if you avoid sex during outbreaks...take a daily anti-viral...and use condoms the chance of transmission from a woman to a man is about 1 percent in a YEAR of sex a couple times a week.  Meaning if 100  infected women had sex twice a week with their partner for a year, only 1 man out of the hundred would be infected. For comparison, they have a better chance of getting you pregnant having sex while using a condom than you do in giving them herpes (condoms are 98 percent effective).  Keep those sorts of facts in your mind and they will probably make you breath easier.  I think most of us are more worried about passing it on to someone than anything.  I feel like since I got it that it must be super easy to get but that's not true if you take precautions.  Anyway, try and stay positive....keep your head up.  You're going to be ok.  I will too.

[Kware261]

3 hours ago, Freakingoutbad said:

It sounds like you have had this for much longer than me, so I won't pretend to know what it's like to deal with it for years....but I do know what you mean about depression.  I've felt that too over the last month and I've had my share of tough parts in my life.  Here is what i'm telling myself:  It's happened.  I unfortunately have this and there is nothing I can do to change that.  So I need to move on and do the best that I can to minimize the impact is has on my life.  When I first found out I had it I thought I would rather have been told I have stage 5 lung cancer than that I'm HSV positive.  But that's ridiculous.  It's a harmless skin rash and nothing more.  It has a terrible stigma for sure.  But that means that you need to get really good at telling people that you have it in a way that sounds like you have your shit together.  Practice having that conversation over and over until it comes out in a clear and calm way without fear and sadness all over your face.  Be confident in who you are and that you are way more than what your HSV status is.  Everyone has some sort of problem or issue whether they admit it or not....you just have to accept yours.  They aren't perfect either.  You have HSV....just like millions of other people.  You didn't do anything to acquire it other than be unlucky.  But you are aware of it and your number one priority will be to make sure that you don't transmit it to your partner.  And if you avoid sex during outbreaks...take a daily anti-viral...and use condoms the chance of transmission from a woman to a man is about 1 percent in a YEAR of sex a couple times a week.  Meaning if 100  infected women had sex twice a week with their partner for a year, only 1 man out of the hundred would be infected. For comparison, they have a better chance of getting you pregnant having sex while using a condom than you do in giving them herpes (condoms are 98 percent effective).  Keep those sorts of facts in your mind and they will probably make you breath easier.  I think most of us are more worried about passing it on to someone than anything.  I feel like since I got it that it must be super easy to get but that's not true if you take precautions.  Anyway, try and stay positive....keep your head up.  You're going to be ok.  I will too.

Thank you so much, that made me feel better 

[Dallyd]

10 hours ago, Kware261 said:

Has anybody else went through a horrible depression. I’ve had hsv2 for 3 years now and i feel like it’s been hitting me hard for the past month. A therapist couldn’t help me , depression pills couldn’t help. It’s sad that I’m still in shock that this is my life. I literally have nobody in reality that can relate to me or has ever felt how i have felt . And a guy that i want I’m just so afraid . I feel so abnormal . I know it’s my emotions talking but it’s been hitting me really hard lately.

Hi, sweetie.  Getting diagnosed was, I believe, the root cause of my depression and anxiety.  Just feeling like everything good and fulfilling in my life had been ripped away...so, absolutely, I feel your pain.  I have been living with this diagnosis for almost 20 years, and, I have been through many different stages, including the 5 stages of grief...(*shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, *testing, acceptance).  How many times have I bargained with some unknown deity to have my freedom and 'old life' back again?  In reality, though, having this affliction can really help you to see things more clearly.  I was headed down a bad path, when I was diagnosed.  So, perhaps, it helped me redirect myself towards something more positive.  All I know is, everything happens for a reason...nothing is accidental.  I hold onto this mantra when times get tough.