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Danielle! Woo Hoo for you! Thanks for telling us your great story and best of luck with this guy. He sounds dreamy!

Hi Brenda, My name is Brenda too! I hope everything works out with Cain. I am envious of the position you are in right now. It sounds like life is falling into place beautifully. Keep us posted on your relationship.

Marie! I'm so happy for you! I really hope things work out with this guy! He sounds awesome!

I've been really bummed out lately because I started dating again after 9 years and when the issue of herpes came up in my head, I started to obsess. I have OCD pretty bad and I can get psychotic. Anyway, the guy I liked kept saying that we had to get together again and then poof, he closed out his account on the dating website that we met on. That was 2 weeks ago. I realized, after reading this thread, how strong I am. Even though I was almost devastated that I can't date right now, I have survived. So thank you for making me see that. Now, about the future. Never say "this is it". Life is what you make it. You have to put yourself out there. I get the whole thing about how hard it is to find someone. I've had trouble all of my life and I'm 54. But I still have hope that I can have a fabulous relationship some day. You should like a wonderful person, BetterinTime. You have to "see" good things happening and then they will happen. It's the Law of Attraction. If you think you will never be with anyone, that might happen. Have you ever seen or read "The Secret"? If not, please do. Go to the website and read all the wonderful stories of people finding love, jobs and anything else they want. And Adrial, I'm sorry to hear about your break-up. I'm glad that you two have so much love for each other and will continue to support each other. That's means tons. Give yourself some time to heal and then get yourself back out there! You are a good-looking guy with an amazing personality so you should have no problem finding a new girlfriend, when the time is right. I like your video diaries. I especially like the part about gratitude. That's something that I have to work on. I think sometimes I have a problem saying thank you because I don't feel deserving.

Great reading! I haven't really dated in years, until recently. I went out on one date and, truth be known, I was fantasizing about kissing and having sex. I remembered how lovely it was but I know now that I probably would have ended up in bed with someone too soon again. Of course, I was going to tell him about my herpes. I was hoping that he would tell me that he had it too. I have to learn to date slowly and make sure that they are deserving of my soul. Thanks Lelani!

Alone, I'm so happy for you! I haven't dated for years, not only because of herpes but because of alot of other hangups (I'm a terrible housekeeper, I'm overweight, etc.) and the fact that I just didn't seem to meet anyone when I did go out to bars or events. I visited my best friend one day who was sitting outside with her laptop. She was on Plenty of Fish, a free dating website. The next thing I knew, she put me on it! I had been thinking of starting to date again, despite my hangups. Within a week, I had a date. The date went really well and the guy kept saying that we had to get together again but that never happened and one day, he closed his account out of the blue. I was disappointed but this has gotten me feeling liking dating again for all the great feelings that go with it. I have been reading stories of people dating non-H people as well as just dating people with herpes. I'm not sure which avenue I'm going to take. But anyway, have fun dating and I hope you are feeling better soon!

Jim, keep hanging around here and you'll find out that there are lots of people with herpes who date and get married. There are dating websites for people with stds. I have joined one and met a friend already. He told me about some events that he's been to. He's opening my world. It will get better, you'll see. Maybe you can attend the retreat at the end of the month in North Carolina. I would love to go but I don't think it's feasible as I'm not working and my car is old. Keep the faith! We are all hoping for a cure some day!

Hang in there guys and stick around here. Adrial is awesome! You will find that you don't have to be alone. I just met a guy from another website and he just dates girls with herpes. It doesn't seem like he has trouble getting a date. I wish I could go to the retreat at the end of this month but I don't think it's feasible as I'm not working. You guys should go if you can. I'm sure there's lots to learn.

Hi. I am just here to say that I'm sorry that guy hurt you. There are lots of success stories on here. Read them. They will help.

Emily, I love your story too. Thanks for posting! It sounds like you have a beautiful future with this man.

What a refreshing post! I'm sorry to hear about your Hypoglycemea but at least you can now nip that in the bud. I had to be tested for diabetes recently because of some blood spots behind my eye. All was well. The blood spots went away. I love your attitude about your gift. You are definitely ahead of the game.

You sound like you have become very wise since finding out you have H. Kudos to you! I think I got H when I was 19. I didn't know it until I was 37. This is a great place to hang out. Adrial is awesome!

I like your hat! I just started taking Acyclovi about 3 weeks ago and noticed that the duration of my outbreaks is less. I just started to take Echinacea for my immune system and Olive Leaf Extract for herpes. I have heard alot about Lysine. I've been trying to eat foods rich in Lysine. Try to stay stress free too. Do some type of exercise like walking.

I'm 54 so I thought I would chime in. I got diagnosed with hsv2 in 1995. I got diagnosed with hsv1 in 1992. What fun. I hope you can figure out your mystery. I thought I got in from an ex-boyfriend in the 90's but looking back, I think I got it from my first boyfriend. There was an episode with some type of sores down there that were really bad. After that, I never knew I had it until I itched a sore down there in 1995. Now, suddenly, in the last few months, I've been having outbreaks left and right. It could be from stress. I lost my job in June. Just try to stay calm as you figure this out. I'm glad you found this website too. Adrial is a doll. Have you talked to him yet?

I am so happy for you smiles! Now, one question, does this guy have a brother who is 54 and single? Ha Ha! I'm really bummed today because this guy that I had a date with a month ago, who was talking to me almost every day on Plenty of Fish and who kept saying we had to get together again, closed his account yesterday. I feel like I lost a friend. He was the first guy who I have liked in many years. Thanks for sharing your awesome story!

While I have been down about H, I had to think that I am still alive. An old friend of an ex-boyfriend committed suicide on 9/10. It's so upsetting that he was that distraught that he would do that to himself. And now he leaves behind 2 young kids, parents and siblings, loads and loads of friends and co-workers to grieve. If only he had someone to talk to that could have made him feel better. We are so lucky to have each other here.

Adrial, thanks so much for reading my long post and responding to it! You are the best! Yes, we did talk about me having a burning sensation on my arm, leg and stomach and I was worried that I was contagious from those areas. I was worried because my other niece had touched my arm. I love my nieces dearly and would never do anything to harm them. With having OCD since I was 19, I have a tendency to get paranoid about germs. Like I said, I won't even kiss my nieces on the lips because of an outbreak 20 years ago. I still don't know what's going on with my face now. My whole forehead feels funny. There's a bit of a stinging sensation going on there. I researched a weakened immune system, since I've had so many outbreaks of hsv2 this summer. So far, I have cut down on caffeine, started drinking alot of water, started eating more fruits and vegetables, started taking Echinacea and Olive Leaf Extract, and am working on exercising daily. I am not working right now and do not have medical insurance or I would be going to a specialist. I haven't dated for 14 years and having just started, and then having these symptoms, is very distressing. I don't want to pass this on to anyone. I appreciate you saying that I probably did not pass this on to my niece. It is possible that she could have had a cold sore before she became a foster child but she's had a ton of colds and I think she would have had an outbreak during the last two years that I've known her. I also have remembered an incident from the mid-80's where I performed oral sex on a guy that I had a crush on for a long time. A few days later, I had a spot on my tongue. It was oval and flat. I believe I went to the doctor. I don't remember anything else so I'm assuming it was nothing or maybe he said it was a cold sore but now I'm wondering if I have hsv2 orally. I've really been obsessing over all of this. I take medicine for OCD and depression. I even take an anti-psychotic drug because I got really bad a few years ago worrying about MRSA because a friend's son had it and worrying about a disease caused by fleas that made my kitten so sick I had to put her down. I was frantic about that. Adrial, you give so much to this community. I don't think we can thank you enough. I am still thinking about the weekend retreat. I have a job interview today. Hopefully, I will be employed by the end of October and in a better position to drive to NC. Might have to get a rental car though. I hope you are right and I didn't pass this on to my little niece. Have a great day!

jp, I think you are a human who made a mistake. Humans do that. Have you told her yet? If so, how did it go?

Kaande05, I'm sorry you are going through so much. Try to concentrate on being a good mom, taking good care of yourself and your son, and finding the right career path for yourself. You have already started eating better and working out so kudos to you! Venting here is great therapy too!

Twenty years ago, I had a spot above my lip that wouldn't go away. It was not your typical cold sore at all. I went to the dermatologist and he treated me for a yeast infection. Incidentally, I went to my regular doctor during this time and he said he thought it was herpes. Back to the dermatologist I went and he tested me for herpes and I was told that I had it. I'm pretty sure it was hsv1. I don't remember being on medicine but the thing took forever to go away. I was working two jobs at the time and was probably worn down. Over the summer, I've had alot of hsv2 outbreaks. I get a burning on my skin before an outbreak and this has happened on my arm, leg and stomach. At some point within the last so many months, I had an itchy spot on my face on the same side as the outbreak twenty years ago, but in a different spot but not on my lips. I wondered if it was herpes but since I wasn't dating, therefore not kissing anyone on the lips, I didn't think more of it. The itchiness came back, with a burning feeling, about 10 days ago or more. There is no outbreak whatsoever. The skin looks totally normal. I'm upset because my niece touched my face and I immediately washed her hands but felt like a weirdo because there's nothing on my face for her to see. Later, she touched my face again. I felt like I would freak her out and make her cry if I made her wash her hands again so I didn't. I noticed she touched her mouth right afterwards. I have OCD and sometimes, I get paranoid about things. I tried to tell myself she would be okay. When I saw her on Friday, she had a cold sore in the corner of her mouth. I am feeling terrible. I never kiss my nieces on the lips because of the outbreak I had 20 years ago that never came back. I can't believe I didn't wash her hands. Do you think I am right when I think this is herpes on my face, even though there's no outbreak? I feel like a weirdo even saying it. There's nothing there. I'm pretty sure prodome is only supposed to last 2 or 3 days. This is ongoing. I guess I am hoping that someone will say this is not herpes on my face and that it's not my fault that my niece has a cold sore. I had just started dating again and was majorly obsessing about kissing this guy and ruining his sex life and now I feel like I have ruined my niece's life. She's only 5. Help!