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This is exactly what I seem to have. I have never had an outbreak, just went to the doctor for my annual and she said I have HSV 1. I constantly have aches and pains in my lower buttocks area and tingly itching around my bottom as well. This has been happening for a year now, but still have never had an outbreak. How do I get past this stage? I am terrified to be intimate with anyone because I don't want to irritate what ever is happening. I see no end to this in the foreseeable future?

I think @TeaWithTheQueen is saying she now doesn’t believe that her current bf gave her HSV1 and is wondering if she should inform him of her newly found news. My response is I believe you should. He may not currently be infected, if he isn’t the giver, so knowing you are he has the right to decide for himself on what to do next, especially if he isn’t infected. He has already chosen to stay with you, so chances are he still will but if he isn’t H+ let him have the chance to use protection and take precautions from getting H also.

I was diagnosed back in September 2017 with HSV1. My OBGYN told me it was genital, however I’ve never had an OB (genital or oral). Shortly after being told that I am H+ I started having tell tale symptoms both orally and genitally. I have done A LOT of reading about H since being diagnosed. Some say you can’t get HSV1 both orally and genitally, but others say you can. I’ve read if you have HSV2, you can’t get HSV1. So here’s my questions, can one have both oral and genital H? Does type 2 defend your body from type 1? (I do know that you can still get 2 if you have 1.)

Hi @BlueBerry08. I had the same symptoms, almost constantly, since I was told I’m H+. I’ve only known since early September. I’m not as knowledgeable as most here, but I can speak from my own experience. My symptoms have gotten better, not as frequent and annoying. I do get the occasional tingly, bug crawly feeling. And I don’t take any medications.

@RegularGuy I swear you give some of he most sound, down to earth advice. I long for the day that I can think as reasonably as you about being H+.

Being lied to about anything is never good. If she’s lied about something that could a huge life changer for a person, what else will she lie about? Did she fess up because she was drinking or was she going to tell you anyways? I agree that I don’t believe I’d be able to dismiss the fact that she lied. Precautions can be taken to prevent herpes, although nothing is 100%. You’re in a tough place because of being deceived, but in your heart you’ll know the right move to lake. Good luck!

It is possible that it’s oral HSV, but I’ve never had a cold sore either. My OBGYN made it sound like it was certainly GHSV1 though. And after being diagnosed I had many symptoms down below, but still no outbreak. I wish there was a way to know where the virus is, without the OB happening.

I found out early September I am HSV1 positive. I’ve never had an outbreak or symptoms, but quickly started to have major symptoms soon there after; still no OB. Once being diagnosed I started reading a lot online about the herpes virus and learned more than I had ever expected. Now to the point of this post... as a female I like to be very well groomed down below. Prior to diagnosis I was waxed monthly for about 6 years now. After diagnosis I was terrified to go back and get waxed. I didn’t want my “secret” to be known or have being waxed irritate the virus and make me miraculously have my first OB. Finally I had had enough of the botched, WTF am I doing shaving experience and decided to get waxed. Now after being waxed I feel amazing!! My creepy, crawly, itchy, tingly feelings are gone (could it have been caused by the annoying hair I wasn’t use to?). But most importantly my wax tech had no idea and I am no longer terrified to have her wax me monthly as I have always done! Feeling a touch more positive now than before.

@fonda I think that it’s rather rude and harsh of you to tell @FatalSorrow that he’s over reacting because of oral herpes. If it’s as bad of an OB and as painful as he’s saying it is, then I can completely understand where he’s coming from. Although I don’t know from experience of having any type of OB, oral or genital, I still am so lost and conflicted about having HSV1. I still don’t know if it’s oral or Genital, because without a lesion to swab you can’t tell. However, I do know I have been a mess since being diagnosed. It’s all I think about! First thing in the morning. Every shower. Every restroom break. Every step I take, I wonder, do people know? Can they tell? I know it’s crazy talk, but being taught the stigma Herpes carries, it literally runs through my mind, nonstop! @FatalSorrow I truly hope you are feeling better and that the pain and lesions have lessened, or better yet, gone away completely. Thinking of you!

@HikingGirl what about the “symptoms” down below? The itching, burning, pin pricking feeling?

Although I’m not married, but was for 10 years, and have always tested negative for everything during every exam, including prenatal exams. Back in September I went in for my annual, as I always do, and BAM I am HSV1 positive. I’ve never had an outbreak or any symptoms, but wishing a couple weeks of being told I am H+ I have constant burning and itching. I am completely in the same predicament as you, for when most part. I want to get a second opinion, but really don’t know where to go or who to speak with. Having someone who is a specialist is important to me at this point, but sadly in my small community there isn’t anyone. I am hoping someone will comment on this and help us both with some unanswered questions.

I have GHSV1, and have the same symptom. Almost constant unbearable itching. I’ve never had a breakout, and my doctor won’t give me anything because of that. I started using a daily vitamin. The itching has lessened, but hadn’t gone away entirely. This has been going on since September for me.

@hippyherpy with such a painful first experience of an oral ob, would it be a good idea to go on some sort of medicine to help him? I’ve never had an ob, just diagnosed with GHSV1, so it’s hard for me to give advice on any of that.

First, I’m sorry for everything you’re going through! I do hope things start looking up for you soon. Second, my ex had(has) warts. It didn’t phase me any. I always made him wear protection, and would never go down on him, but otherwise it truly didn’t bother me any. As for advice, I’m sorry I have none. I’m still trying to figure all this out and haven’t stopped stressing about being H+. I know many on these forums say say it’s no big deal, don’t worry about it, it’s just a skin condition, and so on, but I’m not there yet. I’m still sitting at HOLY F*, I HAVE HERPES!! The one STD that was and still is picked out as the most disgusting to have. Idk...(im)patiently waiting for the “eh it’s no big deal” feeling to begin!

Maybe call your OBGYN and see if they can blood test you. I don’t realky know much (close to nothing honestly) about being H+, but I do know when I went to my doctor and had blood drawn my tests came back telling me I’m HSV1. I’ve never had an outbreak or any signs of even having herpes, so I was completely taken back by the news. I still have never had an out break, 3 mths into knowing, but ever since finding out I’m H+ I get constant tingling, pin prickling, itching pain. Good luck!!

I can’t tell what to do, but I can tell you what I did. I didn’t share with my ex. I’ve decided that if he were to have an outbreak, he’d know he has something. I’ve never had an outbreak, just tested H+ positive at my annual doctor appt. The main thing that you said that prompts me to say I wouldn’t tell is that he wouldn’t keep it private. It isn’t something he should share with anyone. It’s your private information and if you want people to know, you will tell.

I can’t give any opinion on what it sounds like, since I truly don’t know much about herpes yet, however, I suggest not having any more unprotected sex. Seems that every time you do you get into a STD overload mode and by doing so trick your kind and body into all the symptoms. If you’re results are negative then sit back and relax. You’re fine! Breathe!!!!

@hippyherpy do you mind me asking how long you’ve been H+?

@fatalsorrow nothing is ever worth taking your own life. I know that is easier said than to just changed ones way of thinking. I just completely understand what your feeling. I have recently been diagnosed too and feel like what the fuck is going on. And seriously, no sex I’ve had was worth this. I am a freak about protection, so job to know that even with comdoms it can (and did) happen. I have officially been sex-free for over a year now, but was close to 11 months with no sex when I was diagnosed. I am still trying to wrap my head around it and make sense of the new life I have to live. Not thinking about being H+ every moment of every day is tough. Some days I think about it less, but every time I use the restroom I am reminded. It every time I see a hot guy I’m eeminded. I am (im)patiently waiting for the day to feel like others on here. Really hoping it comes sooner rather than later. I just wanted you to know, you’re not alone!! We are all there with you!! We have all felt, or still are feeling, the way you do. It gets better. You are worth life and never forget that!!

I’m wondering, was he not going to tell you? I mean, did he only disclose to you because you disclosed to him?

@ruiner I would just call you doctor and make the appt for a screening for all STD’s. Once there, tell your doctor personally what is going on. I don’t believe that is a convo I would want to have with the receptionist or whomever answers phones and does scheduling. But be sure to get the appt for ASAP!! And I truly hope you feel better soon and get some relief!

@ruiner your dad may be able to see you’ve gone to the doctors, but he certainly won’t know why, unless you inform him. HIPAA prevents anyone from being told anything, without your consent.

I don’t know any numbers or any tests, aside from blood drawn and a swab done during my annual. I will be calling tomorrow to find out the answers to those questions. As for symptoms, I’ve never had any until after my doctor told me I was positive. But the symptoms I have now are burning and itching. And also prickly pin like feelings. All in the southern region, which leads me to believe that it is Genital, not oral. All the symptoms are gone, except the occasional itch, however I don’t know if it’s a “symptom” or if it’s because I’m too scared to groom myself now (reading too much has freaked me out). I normally get waxed every 3 to 4 weeks, but just can’t bring myself to go back now. And also can’t bring myself to shave, in fear of causing an OB. Again, reading too much has freaked me the eff out!

@Ruiner I wish you the best of luck!!

@jack101 my doctor was not much use to me once she told me I was H+. To be honest, I had to call her back because I felt there were so many unanswered questions, and when I asked her things I felt she seemed annoyed that I was bothering her. Most likely will be finding a new OBGYN because of this, but am not ready to make that move quite yet. As for oral or genital HSV1, I am certain it is genital. Once she told me my results, I started doing research and STRESSING A LOT, I started have many symptoms down below, but still no noticeable OB. I am left to presume the oral HSV1 would have different symptoms than the genital HSV1, is that correct? Now for when I became H+, idk for sure, but being that I am a mom of 3, I have been tested all 3 times, and all those tests came back negative. So sadly I am left to feel that I was to have been infected within the last 7 years (how old my youngest is).