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@hermia87 I haven't tried anything experimental really. I have wondered what would be the outcome of increasing protein during during healing from an OB. That's generally what you would do for someone healing from decubitous ulcers and bed sores, but i don't know if it would work in the same way. Generally, most people don't have an issue getting enough protein. I've heard of some people fighting it by fasting. The thought behind this is that if your body isn't busy digesting, it can be busy healing. However, how can your body have the strength to fight it if it is hungry? I'd say, just eat right and take care of yourself. Those are the things you can control.

I was getting outbreaks many times when I shaved, and sometimes in new areas such as my bum. It got to be so annoying that I went on antivirals.

Nutritional Science student at your service! Multivitamins are fine, you may even go for Prenatal vitamins if you aren't on birth control. Anymore, we are reccomending that those who are of childbearing age be on prenatals. Find one that has everything you need, so you can stick to taking one or two vitamins as opposed to several. Echinacea doesn't do anything sadly enough, so do save your money. Sleep and stress are the biggies. Lack of sleep leads to stress which leads to a lowered immune system which leads to outbreaks. Caffeine depends on how you react to it. A cup or two or three of coffee per day won't do a whole lot if you do so normally. However, if you aren't tolerant of caffeine, it can cause anxiety and you get the cascade effect. Mess with it- trial and error! Bread- I can't see a reason why this would affect it, unless you have a gluten intolerance which could put stress on your system. Just make sure you choose whole wheat varieties with limited added sugar. Whole grains- choose whole grains, brown rice, quinoa, etc over white bread and white rice. Veggies- get plenty of fruits and veggies. Mentally divide your plate into half fruits and veggies, one quarter protein and one quarter grains. Essentially just eating healthy, exercising, getting plenty of sleep is the goal.

As dancer said, they are an option, and a great option for people who are looking to date after their diagnosis. It can be a great way to get your feet wet. The thing to remember, is that these sites aren't like an OKCupid or PlentyofFish. The profiles are anonymous (understandably so). I've heard them described another way that made sense, and they said that these sites can tend to make people who have STDs feel like lepers (the idea that we should only date each other), when we really aren't. It depends on your reasoning. If you believe in your heart that it would be easier to date someone else who has H, then my all means, go for it! You may have a really positive experience. However, don't go to one because you feel as if no one else will love you, because they will. It may not feel like it, but someone will be accepting and loving if you give them a chance to do so. :)

I don't think its wrong to want to keep appearances when it comes to exes. I understand that doing well is the best revenge and all that cliched stuff. Its not wrong that I want to make sure I look good in the event I run into my ex, which is more of a possibility now that he lives so damn close. Its a definite ego thing I know but I can't let it go. I'm sure eventually I will forget he lives super close anyways. I really am trying to get over him for good, it just seems like no mater how busy I am I always have time to think about him- both about sex with him, and about how we left things. I do think about other guys and i let myself be busy but he is always in the background. I know the solution is to get out and have new experiences but those opportunities aren't plentiful right now

It's not necessarily that I care a ton what he thinks, its just that usually I run to the store in whatever I'm wearing around the house because I don't really know anyone. Now, the person I could run into, is him. I just don't want to look disheveled if I see him. I don't want to give him any reason to think I am doing worse than I really am. I am still interested in other guys. I have one prospect I just haven't seen around in a while. I've got my eye on him though.....he turn's me into a 5 year old when he's around haha. Guys are a bit hard to come by, I'm a student without a job, a full schedule at school, and required volunteer work to boost my resume for when I apply for internships next year, and daily workouts. Basically, I am busy as hell with no money in a female dominated major. I try to keep my eyes open, but there just aren't many opportunities.

I'm still in that weird phase where he irritates me, yet I still find him physically attractive, so I look at his profile for new pictures and to see what he's up to. If I ever run into him I won't approach. The most I would do is shake my head. Its just like, this is my territory. My area. My Domain. Now I know I gotta look good or at least decent when I go to the grocery store because i might see him, or eating at restaurants that I like to go to with my friends or potential dates.

So I snooped a bit and found out he moved within 4 miles of me. Damn it. At least before he lived 15 miles away and our likelyhood of running into each other was small. Crap crap crap. He freakin knows I live over this way....why did he choose this part of town!? He has all of Los Angeles!

Yeah and if he doesn't have it then I don't get the satisfaction that he is going through it as well.

I had figured why would I want someone who would treat me that way to talk to me? Does this change things?

Definitely. Still not asking him or anything. I've gone through the therapy when i was first diagnosed so I could see myself more clearly, as well as navigate him getting tested and all that mess. I always try to tell myself that even if he didn't give it to me, how he reacted was the thing that stood out the most. When I broke it off 5 months ago, I did so in an email and told him why I was doing what I was doing and explained briefly that he wasn't there, that he disappointed me and let me down, etc. I told him to never contact me.

I think this gives us all a lot of hope, thank you for sharing! Thrilled for you!

True, they don't need to know my past. I'm big on not sharing too many details of my sexual history unless its STD related. A part of me figured it sounds more put together saying who I think it came from as opposed to it being a "maybe but maybe not" kind of thing- but that could be my own deal. That and with what you said, I could still say that I believe it was him. I'm still not sure what is pushing me to ask, as I've thought about it many times. I wonder if he has it, I wonder if he's had to disclose. I wonder if he's had an outbreak. I wonder if he is embarrassed or sorry about what happened, if he knows that I have to be on antivirals I've moved out of the depression stage a long time ago. I know I will find someone to love and accept me. I'm not letting H define me. I guess it is more wondering if I got the raw end of the deal. If he has to deal with this at all, if he is disclosing or has any feelings associated with it at all. Kind of the same way you wonder after a bad breakup if the other person grieved or suffered.

So I had brought up before about my last partner being really unsupportive and emotionally abandoning me- also the man that I believe gave me herpes. I broke out within days of having sex with him. It has been 5 months since we spoke. He never told me of his status after he got tested. One of the reasons I am considering it is because I am trying to date again, which means I will need to disclose. I would like to be able to say that it was him, and I don't want to claim it was him if it wasn't him. Also, it makes me curious. The downside is that knowing it was him doesn't change anything, he could lie about it (which is unlikely, as he is usually brutally honest) and finally, if he is negative, then I may wonder who it was.

Yeah, cuz I can tell the taking pills thing every day. as a reminder, I take 4 per day. Two in the morning and two at night. Its the unknown thing again that worries. Me. I have the IUD which should keep me from getting OB so often but I was getting them easily when finals exams would come up or if I would cut myself shaving down there. Plus I am just kinda chronically stressed out as a student. Apparently an autoimmune disorder runs in the family, as many of us get sick easily if we aren't getting enough sleep or are stressed.

I'm comfortable with talking about their risk of contraction when I am on medication and risk of transmission with condoms and without on medication- I've mentally practiced those numbers. Also well versed in asymptomatic shedding, the percent of days shedding etc. The part that gets hazy is when they either want me to remain on meds to stay with me (which would be a pain in the arse because of how many I need to take per day) as well as the up in the air and unknown nature of whether or not I am shedding. I can explain the percent of days and can explain that condoms reduce the risk by X percent, but I can't give them numbers and data on if they get tired of wearing condoms and what happens when they don't want o do that any longer. I also didn't mean that we *just* need to watch for outbreaks. Sorry, was super early for me when I wrote that haha.

I just started suppressive therapy a few weeks ago and since my hospital doesn't have a contract with the usual meds fo suppressive therapy, I am on Acyclovir two pills twice a day. The doc told me that I could try that for a year and see where I am after that. My question is, what happens in a year? I do believe I have HSv2 because i was having recurring outbreaks. How likely am I to have recurring outbreaks after suppressive therapy? What if I meet someone at that point who does not have HSV2....is it reasonable of me to not want to remain on suppressive therapy for years? How do I explain to them that we just need to watch for outbreaks and wear condoms? What do I tell them about when we don't want to wear condoms?

Hey there! I've had herpes for about 5 months now. What doctor did you go to if I may ask? What about your partner? I've read recently that purely visual diagnoses are a thing of the past and you may want to go to a OBGYN and encourage your partner to see a specialist as well- planned parenthood is even an option. There are reasonably reliable blood tests for Herpes, as they test for antibodies. One of the reasons they will request an HIV test is that with the open lesions, it makes passing HIV easier. That, and HIV can be asymptomatic for some time as well, and HIV testing is still stigmatized to a point. I've yet to have sex since my diagnosis since my partner who likely gave it to me took off. BUT you can have a healthy sex life. Paying attention to when your outbreaks are coming on is important as is condom use. The self judgement will pass, you just have to make sure you let it do so. Soon enough it will become background. Think of it like a tattoo, you always know you have it but you don't always need to remind yourself you have it. You'll get there.

Another interesting thing, is that i learned that my family has an autoimmune disorder hat runs in the family, essentially if we don't get enough rest and if we are stressed, we get sick right away. I am always getting canker sores it seems. That being said, I know that had I had this any sooner I probably would have presented at that point. I'm not angry at him for giving it to me because being angry at that doesn't change anything. It's more a combination of missing him (as weird as that sounds) and still wondering what his status is. I haven't been beating myself up over herpes in a long time, and I recently got on the antivirals so it is even less of an issue. It is background at this point where I always know I have it but I can forget I have it all at the same time. So it's not necessarily causing me to love myself through struggle nor is it causing me to hate myself. Like I said before, I'm just still feeling this push pull towards him. I know I don't want to be with him again but there are times where I want to know what he's gone through, if he even had it. I want an I'm sorry.

I am at a point where i want something serious and had thought I'd found it with this guy, so that being said, I'm on the relationship track. It is also possible, this just isn't the season for good looking men haha! But yeah, I haven't had to disclose to another partner yet and a part of me wants to get that over with so I can get the first disclosure after my ex out of the way. That guy was a coward, at the end of the day I could say that I was there for him and selfless when I didn't have to be. It takes a crisis to figure out the character of someone in your life. The either step up or step out.

It's been about 5 months since I got diagnosed and since I heard from him. I've been trying dating sites again but I just can't get into anyone. I find very very few guys attractive right now, which is rare for me. I have some friends here in LA that I am trying to go out with but it's hard, the friends I've had the longest are back 8 hours away in NorCal. They are aware of my situation and I can at least talk to them about it.

It's been about 5 months since I got diagnosed and since I heard from him. I've been trying dating sites again but I just can't get into anyone. I find very very few guys attractive right now, which is rare for me. I have some friends here in LA that I am trying to go out with but it's hard, the friends I've had the longest are back 8 hours away in NorCal. They are aware of my situation and I can at least talk to them about it.

Lately I've wondered about this guy. He never told me whether or not he had H. We've spoken once when I drunkenly, and still eloquently asked him about what we were when we dated, and he surprisingly responded. Not long after the disappointment of his emotionally abandoning me, I cut him off and told him to never contact me. It could just be that I've been lonely, and still haven't been on a date since getting diagnosed. I just can't seem to find the desire for another guy (even though my libido is still in full swing). I just don't know what is going on with me, why I feel such a need to contact a man who let me down.

White bread will do that because it is a lot of simple carbohydrates. Whole wheat bread or other whole grains/stuff with fiber has more complex carbs so it will be longer lasting energy. No prob for the info, you can PM me anytime if you have any questions;

I am a big coffee drinker myself, but if you aren't noticing that you are getting jittery or feeling sick from all the caffeine then I don't see the problem. I do worry about the orange juice. Juice tends to have a lot of added sugar so I would cut back on it. Juice is basically a really concentrated form of fruit. It takes a lot of oranges just to get i cup of orange juice, but you are still consuming the amount of sugar. If you cut back on that, and replace it with something like a whole grain, or something with fiber, you'll notice your blood sugar won't spike so much and you might stay fuller. I don't know if any of these will shorten symptom time, but you may feel better which is always a plus.