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Excellent news!! Congratulations!! :-D

That's some dark thinking @FF1! Not sure I can agree with the propaganda campaign theory. There is a stigma, and frankly perhaps it's somewhat deserved, because of the scary photos. Do h- people sometimes refuse h+ partners? Probably. Would the relationship have fallen apart on other grounds sooner or later? Maybe. Will the h- person turn back up a few years later ready for a fully disclosed committed relationship? Perhaps. If there were a vaccine it would be a super easy choice. Sure I'd welcome a cure but really the appropriate public health reaction is 1) systematic testing for all of the sexually active population, and 2) inoculation. Use the scary images to encourage both of these objectives. HSV is not going to simply die off.

Wishing you courage and confidence @jaynine87!

And the pharmacist is just 1 person you "have to touch" subsequent to a herpes diagnosis. So much for HIPPA laws!

I wish my case of ghsv2 consisted of only 1 minor outbreak. You are soooo lucky!

Why has she not told him about h+ yet? Because dayum have you seen what she has had to lay on him already? @ashley will no doubt choose the right time and circumstance for the talk.

The more I read about this infection the more I'm convinced the mental anguish comes not just from the stigma but physically, from the virus in the spinal cord, as well. I swear sometimes I feel like those critters are running up my spinal cord all the way to my brain and wreaking havoc there by irritating the nerves. Little Mother Fuckers--get back! Or maybe that's just my normal crazy. Either way, bad outbreaks are like getting mono: you've got to take care of yourself on every level. Thank God for this forum :)

Best. Sex. Of. My. Life. This should be a Discussion Title. The post can say YES I'm h+ and YES I disclosed, and Yes...yes...YES! hahahaha LOVE This. Thank you for taking the time to keep us updated @smilesfordani ENJOY

Messaging you...

I always scratch anything in the boxer area thru my clothes. Good advice for men AND women! That and washing your hands frequently is probably the best advice for anything contagious or transmittable. I never worry about transmitting to anyone but a sexual partner.

oh my gosh @sickoflifelessons I'm so so sorry this happened to you :'-(((((

I hear you @Timbbey, I'm a working mom of 3 and I've had the dark moments you're having. I'm not giving up on my sex life however: h+ or h-, I intend to ENJOY this day and everyday for the rest of my life. I have a rich and interesting life that'll be worth sharing with the right man at the right time.

I think I'd drop that Rapist's bag off at the police station. He can pick it up there. Take care of your beautiful self @sickoflifelessons!

I will send you flowers @Timbbey . Message me your address :) I'm afraid too. We can hide behind the fear and blame it on hsv, or we can choose to love ourselves, because you are correct: Nothing Compares!!

Wow @Timbbey : Now I'm vile and single Would you say that to your best friend if he or she came and told you, "I'm hsv +" ? No? Then please stop treating yourself this way! Practice some empathy and compassion for yourself, please.

Although at first I objected to the title of this thread, "Be Thankful....It's not that Bad" because I feel like it trivializes the infection. It was that bad with my initial outbreak. Now every day I encounter someone dealing with some heavy issues and in perspective my HSV2 is pretty trivial medically/physically at this point, thank GOD. I think that's progress!

Oh my gosh @CWS00 you have been suffering sans sex WAY TOO LONG! I only wish we understood more about outbreaks and shedding and wouldn't it be nice to know when we're contagious?!? You can be h+ AND disclose AND have sex. Celibacy is not MY first choice. H was not my choice either but like you, I want my partners to choose for themselves.

Wow, @Ihaveittoo1975 you have a fantastic attitude and I ADMIRE how accepting and realistic and optimistic you are. I'm sure you'll find a fabulous woman to start a family with.

I have chalked it up to face to face as we're not sure where this is headed. Who knows? We could just not click in person and if that's the case I feel no need to tell her Looks like you've answered your own question @Wakeskater :)

That's fabulous news! Thanks so much for sharing this @DecievedAndDealing, it gives hope!

But even more than that, it's about you. If you start thinking you're a fantastic catch, others will follow. Very well put @Ashley

Yayyyy! I often wonder if it's better to take suppressants or allow my immune system to learn how to handle it on its own. Great to have the acyclovir option, even if H wasn't my first choice ;)

You're right @WCSDancer2010 :) all I need worry about now is loving my beautiful self and forgiving my human self, not just about H but about all of it. Thank you for your wise encouragement!

I'm thinking what Judith said. When you have the face to face you really just need to present facts and talk about minimizing risk. If he wasn't open to the idea, I don't think you would have heard from him like you have. The only thing that concerns me about him is that he is in "the middle of getting a divorce", that can mean a LOT of different things to different people. Good luck!

Wait, you disclosed you have H already, right?