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I'm sorry to you to experience all that @Theo1824. :'-( Is it a violation of HIPPA laws for ER staff to be talking like that?

What? I don't understand. How heinous is someone to disclose "for" you?

Can you imagine how hard it would be to purposely infect someone with HSV? It's not that hard: you just have sex with an active blister. That's how I got it. He came clean about it months later.

Very insightful and you're still really in the shock period. It's amazing the silence that surrounds this infection.

Great to hear that suppressives are helping you! I've never heard of the Depo Provera shot being used in a therapeutic way before. What is the thinking behind why that is helpful? Do you have high health care costs due to this regimen? Thank you for sharing your experience.

You disclosed and he insisted on proceeding without even a condom. The guy sounds dangerous. And violent. Take care of yourself and your daughter!

Glad you're outta there!

Actually the way he is acting @FLNewH, he might be the one who passed it on to you. That's one of the nastiest things about h, nobody knows crap except here on this blog. Looking forward to reading Your Story :)

Well I'm not there yet but I imagine there may be a number of health issues which are more inconvenient than an outbreak. Alzheimer's disease is my big worry.

Having contracted HSV2 from a non-discloser, I really respect all the people on here who wouldn't think of putting a partner in that position.

I'm sorry @CityofAngels, I don't mean to imply that anyone would single you out. It's simply because you clearly state that you would have nothing to do with an h+ partner. If anyone ever wanted to be with you they would have to hide their status and just risk it. It's the fear of being rejected that leads some to take the non-disclosure route.

But it still sucks that you're in this situation now. It's not what you would have chosen. I'm in the same spot. I KNEW better but persisted and placed my trust in someone who was not trustworthy. Sigh. Hang in there my friend!

@kimmie I was also treated for UTI with my first outbreak. In retrospect, it was probably more likely the nerves that regulate the ability to pee were completed irritated by the virus running up and down on them. Are you taking acyclovir?

@mom2one HUGS!! Getting this diagnosis and having to deal with relationship troubles on top of it all is just TOO MUCH sometimes.

Awww @ Cali you are in a regret cycle. Who is to say that waiting until marriage would have made everything all fairytale-ish?

@Synperx thank you for being conscientious and prudent. Does the woman you suspect you contracted HSV2 from know of your condition? Does she know she is h+? Knowledge and confidence are really our only weapons here.

@CityofAngels I appreciate your perspective and I (h+) also struggle with the opposing attitudes of it's-merely-a-bothersome-skin-infection v. it's-an-intimate-relationship-deal-breaker. I'm saddened that so many people here acquired this virus in an environment of either non-disclosure or ignorance. And I'm heartbroken that so many of these same people would never conceive of putting their potential partners in the same position. Particularly with somebody like you @CityofAngles, a less scrupulous person might decide, "Fuck it, I'm not in out break mode, I'm just going to risk it. If my partner does contract it, he/she will never be able to prove it was me."

@Theo1824 I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this. My giver denied at first (I knew it was him) saying he didn't have h and no no no. He also seemed oddly nonchalant like, "So what are you gonna do kill yourself? Think positive!" Much much later he confessed the truth. I'm glad you got the acyclovir right away. I went 15 days before I was diagnosed meaning the viral amplification and seeding got WAY ahead of my immune system. Sigh. You've got a lot to deal with right now. Make sure to put caring for yourself high on the priority list!

Genius!

@ forgivness, a vaccine makes H status moot. I would think so @seeker, but I'm curious what @CityofAngles feels.

@CityofAngels if a safe and effective vaccine were available, would you choose to be vaccinated? Or would you want to avoid h+ partners regardless? Just curious.

I'd be interested in tabulating my own costs to the system since this h+ infection starting with actual outlays for medical treatment, lost productivity, FUCKING EMOTIONAL DISTRESS, doctor visits, co-pays, insurance pays, ongoing prescription medication, yada yada. Today I heard more insight on exactly how the drug companies are in collusion with the HSV viruses: GlaxoSmithkline (GSK) made $1.8 billion on Valtrex in 2008. Is that right? Dang they make a lot of dough on that "suppressive" drug. Hmmmmmm...............

Oh gosh @sw85 you've just been diagnosed and you're already trying to make disclosures and such, that's just waaayyyyy too much to ask of any human being. First you need to take care of YOURSELF. Treat yourself as if you have mono (save family of viruses in fact) and give your immune system a chance to mount its defense. Plus, chances are you're still contagious so please just chill and take some time for yourself right now. Disclosure is the huge thing all of us struggle with once we have the infection under control and want to go on with our lives, and our sex lives in particular! For now your priority is your health. If you're newly infected a blood test will not show up as positive just yet. Hang in there!

It might be more than just h bringing you down. It can become easy to blame everything that's wrong with our lives on this effing infection. Alas, it's often far more complicated than that.

Then you need to chillax @Timbbey! You've been consumed by the darkness. It might be more than just h bothering you. Do you see a therapist or a doctor to help you through this?