desertlove

Hello all, I've posted on here before but it seems to not be very efficient in finding buddies lol. So here I am again. I currently live in Humboldt County, but I'm from the Coachella Valley in Southern Cali. I visit Pasadena a lot too so if anyone from either of those areas would interested in making a new friend hit me up:) Oh and I'm 25, turning 26 very soon!

I see what you mean about the article.. I also thought it was negative and not informative or inspiring. >_< I usually just ignore those kinds of things. I try to not let jokes about herpes bother me. I tell myself that they are simply uneducated on the matter and to not stress over it.

I think you should give it a try. If your psychologist judges you then find a new one. Mine was super nice and understanding. Didn't guide me much, listen mostly, but did provide tips and made me reflect on things which was good too. Perhaps a life coach. They are supposed to guide you more and help you plan towards a healthier life. Also, I agree with Scared16, perhaps some sort of trauma recovery would be good too. Hang in there

I am currently having a bad OB. This one is the worse so far since my primary OB. It's starting to remind me of my primary and that scares me a bit. It's becoming pretty painful. Usually my OBs are super mild. During my OBs I take 400mg of acyclovir every 8hours for 5 days, but I was wondering if I can increase my dosage this time? maybe do 800mg? or cut the 8hours to every 6 hours? Would this be dangerous? I just need this to go away asap. Ain't nobody got time for this! lol.

You aren't a bad person, learn from this and never do it again. Let him know. It's the right thing to do.

@jonedoe Thank you! I will def try some. Today the tingling is gone. Does yours come and go?

During the past two days I've noticed some discomfort in my legs. I was sitting down all day yesterday working on hw. When I went to bed I felt restless. My butt felt a bit numb and my legs did too. I figured it was due to my lack of exercise lol. This month I haven't been going to the gym as often as i'd like to :(. So today I decided to run some errands by foot hoping it would help with my restlessness but just now on my way home from school I began to feel some tingling in my legs. A few of them have been sharp. I've read other comment on here about nerve pain and tingling. I might be getting that now too. boo. lol. I've been on daily suppressive therapy for the past month or two. I currently have a mild ob. Is numbness a symptom too? What do you guys do to get some relief from the tingling? I'm going to the gym tomorrow and I'm hoping that leg day will help. lol.

:D thanks for sharing! I hope to post my own success story one day. Wish you two the best!

@wcsdancer2010 lol did someone delete my post about finding friends in my area? It's gone. I didn't realize I couldn't ask. I had used the H buddy thread before but no one replies on there. Find it odd. I didn't get a message, it's just gone! Adrial?

<3 thanks for sharing! needed to read this today:)

lol Well just once. My friend wanted to go hiking but I was just clearing up from a small OB. That was at the beginning of my diagnosis so I was still a little scared of OBs but part of it was that I was being lazy that day lol.

sry for all the grammar and punctuation errors lol -__- "so we decided that" * I was in a hurry

he graduates this semester and will be leaving for the summer. He might be coming back for the fall just to work that's why he wouldn't be interested in a relationship.

So I have a friend. Last semester he made it clear he was interested, but I turned him down because I was talking to my giver. Yesterday he came over and kissed me! After we had a really honest conversation about what we each wanted. He proposed to be friends with benefits. He didn't say those exact words, but he basically did because he said commitment is something he might not be able to give at the moment. From previous conversations he understood that I am most likely looking for commitment, but decided to bring it up anyways. Although he said he wouldn't mind just making out, we both acknowledged that he would eventually want more lol. I told him that at the moment i wasn't sure If I was ready to move that fast and that I was most likely planning on holding off on sex for a while until I meet a man that would be worth it. So we decided that, we would most likely just leave it as friends. However, it got me thinking... maybe I can use this to find out if he would sleep with me even if he knows I have H. I hear from some of you on here that casual sex is still possible with H! I find that a lil crazy. I feel like no one would want to have casual sex with me knowing I had H. Ultimately I am looking for someone to love me tho. Would I be wasting my time just for the purpose of proving to myself that I can get laid with H lol or would this just lead to a rejection that would hurt a bit. I do find my friend attractive.

I'm sorry about your friend. I know you are worried to disclose, but maybe this is your chance to tell a few of your friends. Start with her. It might make her realize that getting herpes can happen to anyone and that it isn't the end of the world. By you keeping quite it adds to the stigma of it. If she doesn't understand even after you disclose, then you know she was never a good friend. I've told a bunch of my friends and they all have been very supportive. Stay positive!

Thank you for your post! @Hollygirl @katidid The fact that you haven't passed it on is amazing! If I may ask, have you used protection and been on antivirals for that entire time?

:) thanks for sharing! I'm 25 yrs old and have been scared to date. I hope I can put myself out there again like you!

@WCSdancer2010 I found a quote that is helping me cope and understand. " They can't be right for you because they are not right within themselves, when the addiction of their sin is stronger than the love they have for you, loyalty is something they won't be able to give, the battle isn't with you its with their addiction". While I'm not a huge believer in god and he never loved me, this quote speaks to me.

Yes, I agree. He definitely has caused me more harm than good. It's been hard to let go him go. It's like he is my drug... I need help overcoming my addiction to him. I know my fear of herpes is holding me back. The other girl decided to give him another chance after he begged her to stay. He apparently loves her. She cruelly posted it on snapchat for me to see. I immediately deleted her. She's 31 and he's 24, I'm 25. I'm not going to lie, the fact that she is older makes me feel insecure, like if I wasn't woman enough for him. I need to stop taking it so personal and remember that it is him who has the issues. She must have told him I knew already because, today he sent me a text apologizing for hurting me. I replied that I felt humiliated and that I wish he would have been honest with me when I asked him to be. I told him that I hoped he had the courage to face me and talk to me and he replied with " we're not together, I don't owe you an explanation" . I know expecting accountability from him is asking too much of him, but I just want the chance to express myself. *sigh* I know, it's pointless but i'm struggling. I want my closure. @WCSdancer2010 I need you to slap some sense into me lol. @sill88 I've made some friends, but I haven't found a group of friends like back home. Friends that I truly connect with. I've also met a few guys that have showed interest, but I haven't been interested in them. I know that in order to find love, I need to be open to it, and right now I am not. @sunshineandwhisky Thank you, I know that there has to be better men out there for me. I just have to stop selling myself short :/.

i can't stop crying... It's not completely about him, it's about herpes. Im still dealing with accepting it 100%

I just found out that the guy who most likely was my giver had been seeing a girl at the same time he was seeing me. He has continued the relationship with her even after our diagnosis and today I found out that he never told her he had it. She only found out two weeks ago when she was snooping through his stuff and found my acyclovir pills. I have been sharing mine with him. I had ended our relationship for about two months but it began again. We have been hanging out since the beginning of spring semester. I am disappointed that he wasn't honest with her. I don't want him to be that person. She told me they haven't been using condoms. I don't know what to think of him. He isn't aware that her and I talked. She said she was going to end the relationship and that she wouldn't mention we talked that way I could have the talk with him when he comes back from LA. Now I'm stuck in Norcal, by myself... roomie left, he left, my others friends left.... I've only ate once today. Im starving but I have no energy to get up and cook. I am not as devastated as I was last semester but I can't help but feel sorry for myself. It's not fair. Last night I asked him if he has slept with anyone recently and he said no. I told him that I just needed to know so I could protect myself. He had the audacity to say " i've already hurt you enough, I would't do that to you and there is no reason for me to lie to you, I would tell you if I had" She was up here 2 weeks ago visiting him. Why can't people just be honest. Yes, the truth may hurt but being lied to is more hurtful. The sad part is that I still want to be there for him and help him. I don't want to disrespect myself but I'm conflicted. Especially because we both go to the same school and where we live is pretty secluded from civilization, so I feel like we have become dependent of each other to some degree. Having herpes def does not help. That's what really hurts. This whole time i've been suffering, trying to heal myself, and he has continued with his childish player ways. I would have thought herpes would have changed him for the better, but I guess he is too scared to confront his diagnosis. I feel lost. I just want to fast forward to the future when I'm married and happy. Exactly a year ago this week was when my nightmare began. Looking back at last year's spring break, when I went hiking with him for the first time...I would never have seen this coming. lol life :/

@fyrefenyx I have hsv 2. @winter I find the rash to be more uncomfortable lol @sanngrior is gold bond unscented? @WCSDancer2010 will keep that in mind:). thank you all for the responses!

okay, yeah i've been keeping track and I feel like I know feel more confident about knowing when I am getting one. Before I was confusing the symptoms with yeast infections, but my yeast infections have stopped. I will add this new symptom to the list. I just wasn't sure if anyone else had this happen too. Thanks :).

Are rashes part of a herp OB, even if it doesn't have blisters on it? I currently have one tiny blister on my lady parts, but is the rash also a symptom or is it a coincidence?

@lighthouse sorry that you are going through this. Well him and I have ended our relationship. It was becoming too confusing not being his girlfriend. We are now just friends. I stayed with him because I wanted it to work out so badly, that way I could look back and think that catching H was worth it :/, but you cannot force things especially when the other person is not interested in a serious relationship. I know it is hard to see right now (trust me I am still working on that), but we will meet someone who will see our value and love us:).