Condom recommendations?

[justjac]

Hi there all,

After FINALLY healing from my first outbreak and having the talk with my boyfriend (who was more than amazing about it), we decided to try the whole sex thing again. We took it reeeeeeal easy and found that it wasn't so bad. Two days later, same thing. But I found that I started getting the tingling sensation and my lymphnodes swelled. Cue the Valtrex and home remedies! After what I believed to be preventing the second outbreak, we tried things again. Again, slow and easy. Lots of lube and a lubed condom. This time, two nights back to back. While I didn't have the tingling, I feel as though I have a scab and my nodes are swollen. No tingling, no pain.

 

Anybody got anything? Any sort of condom or lube recommendations? Not going to lie... I miss my sex life.

[WCSDancer2010]

Early in your new partnership with Herpes, he gets a little out of sorts when you have sex.... he's already got anger issues and we need to create a safe environment for him to live in so he just gets quiet and leaves us alone. So don't fear, your sex life WILL get back to normal soon. :)

 

So you can try a few things.

 

1) Go on the valtrex full time for a few months until things settle down a bit

 

2) Practice other forms of sex that don't rub as much - get creative with your sex play. Look into Tantric Sex (which is very gentle and very erotic!). Try toys, role play, whatever where you can get all the juices flowing and not need much/any extended or rough sex to get to the Big O. Herpes can get you to do things you might not have tried... one of the (h)opportunities that our H friend brings to the table ;)

 

3) I'm hearing a lot about the F2C Female condom. I wonder if that might change things up a bit and it supposedly also covers more area so it should be better protection anyway. Look them up online...and shop around - I saw a BIG difference in price from one place to another.

 

(((HUGS)))

[victoriaxxx]

I use Skyn condoms because I am allergic to Latex, but I don't know what gentle sex means.. I don't know if I could do that..

 

To me Skyn feel better anyways.. I used to never wear condoms because of my latex allergy.. Now I am definitely using my Non Latex condoms.

[WCSDancer2010]

victoria - you guys need to check out Tantric sex..... take my word for it :)

[victoriaxxx]

Okay I will check it out..

I have a pretty open mind.. Doesn't mean I am not going to be rough and crazy sometimes also.

[WCSDancer2010]

Oh you can have both, believe me. Each approach for a different purpose as far as what you are in the mood for... and Tantric would be a great alternative for those days when you just don't want to risk causing a friction outbreak ;)

[victoriaxxx]

Good to know.. I know some people told me that rough sex doesn't give them an outbreak, and some people who do.. It all depends on your body.

 

(; Thanks for the advice.

[Klopz]

Im going to have to look up tantric sex. After delivering the news to my boyfriend about H he avoided even cuddling, but we've officially gotten over that bridge and oddly enough sex has only become more intimate and passionate. I am going to give all those ideas a try! thank you @WCSDancer2010!

[WCSDancer2010]

Yay for you Klopz..... Whoooohooooo!

[HerryTheHerp]

Klopz and her boyfriend, sitting in a tree, k-i-s-s-i-n-g. First came love, then came herpes, then came the sacred rituals in Buddha's carriage.

[victoriaxxx]

Oh my god you guys are making me jealous. I haven't had sex since I found out !! I wanna I wanna. ;D I am glad that it was fun and passionate. I feel sometimes the most passionate are the most erotic !

[WCSDancer2010]

Honey, my sex life has been virtually nil for several years now ... a couple of them for my own healing, but recently, just cause I have had 3 false starts ....

 

Some day (hopefully soon!) some guy ain't gonna know what hit him....LOL

[HerryTheHerp]

I've talked to some who say sex can trigger it for them. Those that aren't on suppressive pop a pill right before, and one the day after and it seems to help them. I even know one guy who is on suppressives who takes an extra one. Not sure about that, check with your doctor.

 

As far as condoms go, well, the FC2 is supposedly pretty good. It'll give you a little more protection from transmission because it covers the labia, and it feels better for him because well, he doesn't have a rubber band strangling his tallywhacker. From what I've heard it feels like wearing nothing at all for both partners.

[victoriaxxx]

Okay you make me feel a little better.. (:

 

I just cant wait !

[Klopz]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA yes, it happened something like that.

[JustSmile]

I honestly love you guys LOL

 

I am going to look up tantric sex as well.. HMM!?!?

[Klopz]

Girl, no worries we dont have sex like we did once upon a time. It used to be all the time. We've only had sex twice maaaaybe three times, but I think not being able to just jump into the act makes us appreciate it way more when we finally get to do it. One thing i can say is he is way more intimate not just bang bang. lol if that makes any sense. I definitely feel extremely blessed.

[victoriaxxx]

I love you guys..

 

Nevermind. e.e;

[justjac]

Thank you all not only for the helpful comments but for the laughs! This is a great discussion. I'm going to go look up tantric sex and the FC2 condom. Thanks again all :)

[WCSDancer2010]

Oh Gawd lookie what I started..... all you folks gonna be like "Sorry haven't been on here in awhile.... been practicing my Tantric Sex technique"

 

:)) :)) :))

[victoriaxxx]

Oh.. No I wanted to ask a question if anyone has used a swing... but thats kinda embarassing.

[victoriaxxx]

My boyfriend talked to me about tantric sex last night also..

[WCSDancer2010]

Nope - never used a swing... I'm a little afraid what my big arse would look like in one :-O

[victoriaxxx]

Lololol.. I was just wondering.

[Orngpeelmafia]

I leave the forum for a few weeks and this is what I miss?!?!?! Jeez guys you're having all the fun talks without me! :P and you can have a normal sex life...actually I wouldn't use the word normal...I have a BETTER sex life now. When I disclosed to my boyfriend things were cool but it took what felt like FOREVER to actually do the deed...but waiting longer meant more time to talk and be intimate in different ways. When it finally happened it was special