Disclosed herpes . . . and finally got a "yes"!

[ShaeShae]

Like the headline says. . . I was blunt, honest, and upfront. And received a yes! It's a purely no strings attached relationship, but that's all I want right now anyway. But it's a YES.

[vanessayee]

Nice Job! So cool, it's a yes. How long was it before you disclosed? I disclosed once on the first night but it was too soon

[ShaeShae]

I disclosed almost immediately. After about three days and we had decided we wanted a 'no strings attached' arrangement. He was extremely cool with it, and has already done plenty of reading.

[fitgirl]

Disclosure is case by case. I would suggest that in general, it helps to get to know the person and they get to know YOU. Not everyone would take the risk for someone they just met. It's so hard to know when the time is right. Trust your gut.

[PositivelyBeautiful]

@ShaeShae, so happy for you!!! Loved reading your success this morning!

[WCSDancer2010]

YAY!!!! Good for you girlie!!!!

 

((HUGS))

[HBH]

I can't find the thread where I talked about my fear of disclosing so am tagging in here since some of you were on that thread too. I disclosed to a guy who I had dated for 5 weeks without much physical contact but an awesome emotional and spiritual connection. I want that now. A real relationship with emotional intimacy. Anyway, he asked a couple questions, got turned on by me citing statistics and the rest is one great story after another. I'm so happy and grateful for this site. I referred him to this site and he felt a lot better about the situation after checking it out in the days after I told him. Thanks all!! ❤️

[WCSDancer2010]

Awesome @HBH ... so good to hear your Success Story too!

 

And you can find your conversations and comments by clicking on your own name (HBH) on here ... that will take you to your page and all your discussions and comments are recorded there :)

[HBH]

Thank you!

[MackMarkov]

Thanks a lot for this @ShaeShae !! Quick question: was he just cool with it and give you a YEA? Did you have to guide him to any literature/stats to help him understand more?

 

I ask because I am prepping for a little visit from a special lady friend who will be visiting me from out of the country soon. I want to be prepared.

 

BTW any advice/stories from anyone is welcome. Thanks much

 

M

[WCSDancer2010]

@MackMarkov

 

Your best resource on here are the Success Stories .... soooooo much inspiration there and many tales of how each one went about their disclosure :)

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/categories/herpes-talk-success-stories

 

Here's some direct links from Male to Female disclosures :)

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3439/tonight-is-my-night NSgreenville (male)

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3983/successful-disclosure-male-to-female xrcb 8/12 male to female rainyfeather

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6239/10-years-of-herpes-chats-male-experience

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/4879/when-to-disclose male to female success

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5369/well-that-was-a-mess-but-success Male to female

 

[MackMarkov]

Thanks a lot, @WCSDancer2010 !

 

Will look into these immediately.

[WCSDancer2010]

Forgot these "male" focused discussions too :)

 

Men who have Herpes and Disclosure

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/1716/a-question-for-men-with-herpes

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6071/lack-of-success-stories-of-men-disclosing-greater-difficulty-in-finding-partners

[ShaeShae]

Our first date was on May 23. We immediately clicked, so I sort of started gearing myself up for it right then, having a feeling that this one could work. I didn't feel totally positive 100% of the time, but who does? I disclosed on the evening of June 6 when he came over to keep me company during one of my migraines. I opened by telling him that I felt we were developing a really good thing. One that I hoped was going to continue for a long long time. So I told him that I felt if he were to know "the very worst possible thing about me" and be ok with that, that we'd have a fighting chance. So he said "okay, hit me with it". So I H-Bombed him and he didn't even flinch, just replied with a shrug and a "So? Is that supposed to change my mind? Because it doesn't."

[whitedaisies]

Awesome!!!!!

[ShaeShae]

Well, my reply was meant to go with my newest post. I'll have to move it hahah. I was really tired last night.