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Disclosed herpes . . . and finally got a "yes"!

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  • 3 weeks later...

I can't find the thread where I talked about my fear of disclosing so am tagging in here since some of you were on that thread too. I disclosed to a guy who I had dated for 5 weeks without much physical contact but an awesome emotional and spiritual connection. I want that now. A real relationship with emotional intimacy. Anyway, he asked a couple questions, got turned on by me citing statistics and the rest is one great story after another. I'm so happy and grateful for this site. I referred him to this site and he felt a lot better about the situation after checking it out in the days after I told him. Thanks all!! ❤️

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  • 2 months later...

Thanks a lot for this @ShaeShae !! Quick question: was he just cool with it and give you a YEA? Did you have to guide him to any literature/stats to help him understand more?


I ask because I am prepping for a little visit from a special lady friend who will be visiting me from out of the country soon. I want to be prepared.


BTW any advice/stories from anyone is welcome. Thanks much



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Your best resource on here are the Success Stories .... soooooo much inspiration there and many tales of how each one went about their disclosure :)




Here's some direct links from Male to Female disclosures :)


http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3439/tonight-is-my-night NSgreenville (male)

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3983/successful-disclosure-male-to-female xrcb 8/12 male to female rainyfeather


http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/4879/when-to-disclose male to female success

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5369/well-that-was-a-mess-but-success Male to female


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  • 4 weeks later...

Our first date was on May 23. We immediately clicked, so I sort of started gearing myself up for it right then, having a feeling that this one could work. I didn't feel totally positive 100% of the time, but who does? I disclosed on the evening of June 6 when he came over to keep me company during one of my migraines. I opened by telling him that I felt we were developing a really good thing. One that I hoped was going to continue for a long long time. So I told him that I felt if he were to know "the very worst possible thing about me" and be ok with that, that we'd have a fighting chance. So he said "okay, hit me with it". So I H-Bombed him and he didn't even flinch, just replied with a shrug and a "So? Is that supposed to change my mind? Because it doesn't."

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