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Rejection fucking sucks. In general, when someone we care about disappoints us, we cannot let our own anger and sadness get the better of us. Love empowers us. Love the person who disappoints you. Wish them well on their way. Life is all about free will. I choose you to be my partner or I choose you not to be my partner. I choose you to be my friend on this journey or choose not. I would never want this taken away from me nor would I want that taken away from them. Herpes can never define us. It can only empower us to choose wisely. When I think about all the trials and tribulations that people and life's circumstances, I think .. rather I know, that I choose. I choose. Not them. Not their paranoia. Not their fear. What greatness ever came about from fear. Nothing. Bravery. We are all brave. Be brave. When the anger causes us to lash out and the tears are falling like waterfalls, BE BRAVE. Love you. Love everyone around you. Love is where it all begins. Love is where it all ends. Be good to one another. Be happy for another's triumphs. Our triumph, our comeuppance will come with acceptance. Not theirs. Accepting different views. Accepting that people have their own right to choose. I choose. I choose. It's all about love. It's all about beginning after disappointment. It's all about life. Life is about loving. And, it all starts with loving you then others.

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Yay!!!! Peach!!

Aren't we all, love ;)

You've just inspired me to post a pic on here :)

WCS.. I had no idea you publicly disclosed. You're my hero xx

"Ah - now THERE's the rub. And probably the message that H is bringing to you. And only YOU can figure that out.... but in the long run, it may be the best lesson you ever get in life. " Love :)

Hi Molly, "Why did I feel like I could trust him? Why did I trust him so quickly when really I didn't really know him? I think I'm somewhat desperate to be in a relationship and I thought this could develop into something and I was projecting all of this onto it and dropped a bomb somewhat early." First, rejection hurts. If it weren't herpes it could be rejection from someone not being emotionally mature or anything really. You're not dealing with having herpes (that's physical) you're dealing with the rejection that comes from someone not accepting you (that's emotional). Rejection never gets easy so I won't promise that this gets better. Take heart that pain is a part of life, but only a single, small part. (Actually it's as big or small as we want it to be :) ). What does get better is how you will now, moving forward and having learned a pretty big lesson through this rejection, will manage relationships. You will have to expose yourself and you will be left vulnerable to someone else's judgment. It's a bitch but it does make you stronger and wiser. Your disclosure will be a filter. A filter that throws people out of your life that really do not honor you. And, it seems you're learning that the filtering starts with YOU... pre-disclosure. Don't accept just anyone into your life. Figure out if they complement and respect you. Lastly, to understand who WOULD complement you, you have to get to know you first. Take some time to go within. Ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship so badly. Is it to complete you or is it truly to complement you. Tough questions... long well thought out answers are best. Above all, be honest with yourself. So, to answer your question, Molly... Yes. This does get better. And, it starts with you healing you, understanding you, knowing you, and loving you and then seeking a like soul. Peace love, Nic

Yeah, felt powerful when I wrote it. Sometimes I have to write it out to remind myself.

Btw.. Although I actually rarely watch tv... The other day I caught the ending of an old episode of Sex and the City and Carrie was embracing singledom by having a glass of red on her own. Thanks, Carrie. You may be fictional but you inspired me to embrace being alone and still being happy.

Loves, Tonight brought an amazing encounter for me. I decided to embrace being single and to drink cabernet at an Italian restaurant bar alone with Pema's The Wisdom of No Escape. A book given to me by an amazing old friend. I ordered. Sat and sipped alone. By me, sat a woman in probably her fifties. I saw her look around and she was greeted by a lot of staff so I knew this wasn't her first time here. She questioned my reading in fun lighting and I engaged her in conversation. I learned she was a math teacher. Loved her job and had passion for statistics and algebra. We could relate. I went on to conerse about yoga and her own trials and tribulations in life with her family and previous relationships. As time became late, I bought her wine. We hugged and she said she needed our conversation tonight and almost cried. Friends, it just proves that when you're open and compassionate, you are never truly alone. Even when you intended to be ;) We all feel lonely but if you open yourself up to life and the universe, empathy in a friend is provided. Please take this to heart tonight. Embrace being single if you are and the right people will just be drawn to you when you and they need it most. Cheers, loves xxx Oh! Almost forgot... She had no idea I have herpes. I am so much more and offer so much more than this ...

Luv u Simply xx Happy December !!!

Hugs to you Peace.. Love ya xx

You are so welcome and thank you! Btw... I love everyone cause you call me Nic.. Only my very old friends from back in the day call me Nic .. Love xx

We are most definitely stronger together :) Welcome, CharlieB! *hearts* back atcha

Dancer.. Ha! Does Santa deliver such "packages" ;) Peach Yogurt... Happy Holidays to you as well, dearest! Hope.. Will def check that out! Aerial... :)

Anytime, love! We have all had those days that require that reminder. And, a list is a most excellent idea :) I have one myself.. Truth!

So you're a loving person, you have a clear and independent path toward financial independence and intrinsic self actualization, you're a good friend, you love to dance :) and you love the water (which in psychology means you're sensitive btw.) How could you ever, EVER, think no one could ever love you for you one day with all that going on...and pretty to boot :) Go easy on yourself. All of this can be managed. Deal with that emotionally first.

Hey... Breathe. First, it's not about finding someone. It's about loving yourself and putting you first. Love you first. It's the most powerful message I could ever "pass" to you :) if I didn't love myself, I wouldn't be able to have faith. If you're looking for hope tonight .. Start with you. So, pretend We are at a restaurant. Pretend I know nothing about you at all. What qualities would you describe about yourself? Would you start by defining yourself by having herpes? Let's start there. Sooo ... Tell me a bit about yourself..

Good to be warm this season :)

Hello, loves! I hope everyone is well and enjoying life. Just a gentle reminder for those celebrating any of the upcoming spiritual holidays this December that having herpes doesn't define you or this season. There are so many wonderous times to be experienced for all of us. If you're newly diagnosed or have been around the mistletoe disclosing responsibly for awhile now :) ... Remember.. With each day, week, month or season.. You are wanted. There is only one you. Only one! You have purpose because of your specific and special created self. Keep faith! Have faith! You are the miracle. Don't pray or reflect or meditate for a miracle. Rejoice the miracle that is genuine you! Enjoy and cheers, fellow angels xxx

Carlos, This may be the best thread yet :) Nicely done, love! xx Many blessings to you and into the new year!

:) I am hoping incessant poetry night doesn't happen for a little while. LOL. But, thank you for reading. I'll post when I'm published again next month. It's a yoga article but it's good stuff for the new year :). xx

Hope. I love your UN. It's brilliant :) Thanks. I hope you're well, love. Live well. Be well. xx