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I have tried several times to go off Valtrex but I get a bad outbreak about 9 days off of it. So I just keep taking it. When I'm on it I don't have any outbreaks.

Sorry this happened. It definitely sucks. You think you meet your person only to be dissed because of something you have no control over.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I am almost 2 years into my diagnosis. It was hard to accept at first and now most days I am ok with it but some days I still get upset. My initial outbreak was awful and lasted over a month. The pain was so bad it hurt to pee and the leg pain was unbearable at times. Some things that helped me was adding Lysine to my antiviral medication, Motrin, and baths with baking soda (the ONLY thing that helped the itching). But they subsided and then I started to mentally heal with this group and my friends. I do take antiviral meds only because every time I try to go off of them I have an outbreak so I continue to take them. Life will get better. This forum is great for support and information. I wish you the best and remember it is not your fault and you are still an amazing person!

@MaddieLynn When I had my first outbreak the pain and itching were unreal. If you are still having a lot of discomfort try sitting in a bathtub with a little baking soda. It helped me tremendously. Another thing that helped was putting an icepack on the sores - not directly of course but wrapped in a towel through my underwear. That was a lifesaver at night. Motrin may or may not be useful. Sometimes I felt relief with it other times I didn't. I hope some of these can help you get relief.

I just started seeing this guy. We've been on a few dates and I can tell this could lead somewhere however I am having real anxiety about disclosing. I'm not sure when or what to even say. I have learned getting herpes was NOT my fault and it does NOT define me as a person however the stigma of it is so hard to break. I am terrified that I will be rejected yet again. My last boyfriend was also HSV 2 positive so it was great not having to have the conversation or even try to explain it is manageable, you can still have a fantastic sex life and intimacy you just need to be a little more cautious. I am on anti-viral meds and have not have any sores (I do get the tingling and pain on my legs periodically when I get over stressed) in about 6-8 months. The last time I had sores was when I tried to stop the anti-viral meds. So I still take them regularly. I really like this guy and part of me thinks he'll be ok with it but part of me thinks he will "lose" my number. Just at a loss of when to say something or what to even say.

Just my experience with constipation. It was so bad at first that I had to take laxatives in order to have a BM. Then it would be so painful - abdominal cramping and just so painful I almost went to ER on several occasions. Once my first OB (it was very bad and lasted about 5-6 weeks) I haven't had too many issues since. I am about 14 months into my HSV journey. The thing I find most annoying is I still get constant firing of nerve endings on my tailbone. Other than that the symptoms have not been too bad. I do take antivirals only because I get constant breakouts without them. I've tried to go off of them 3 times and like clockwork get a breakout within 10 days of going off. So its my choice to stay on them in order to control it. But that is a personal decision. I'd rather not take them but the outbreaks suck so...

Everyone has his/her own journey and life experiences. I was on both a regular dating site and a positive site. I have been on dates with men from both sites. I had really nice dates from both and some really shitty dates on both. The big difference for me is I still am friends with a few I met on the positive site. It was so nice to talk openly about our experiences and while we didn't feel a connection on our date we still talk. I did end up meeting the love of my life on the positive site. We had an instant connection that was very hard to deny. It was actually when I started to feel my positive status wasn't a big deal but a blessing because if I never was exposed I would've never met him. I didn't limit myself but I also don't feel I hindered myself either. I think it is a choice you need to make for yourself. Just wanted you to hear of my experience with both types of sites. I wish you luck!

I personally never disclose on a first date. Why tell someone if you never plan to be intimate. Now if we were planning on getting intimate or I would. Why tell someone you just met? Clouds the judgement. I want someone to know me for me not for my herpes. Just my opinion.

Have you tried an ice pack? It helps calm my burning and itching. At least makes it more tolerable.

I get nerve tingling at the base of the spine and frequently have tingling around my labia and anal area. My ass cheeks get nerves firing and itch all the time. I occasionally get leg pain really bad where it hurts to walk but that has subsided quite a bit since my initial outbreak and taking anti-virals. I also get the constipation. Seems my BMs have never been the same. You're symptoms sound far worse. Have they tested for neurological issues - like MS? I hope you find some answers!

Sweet!!! I was hoping it would work out for you. So happy!!!!

YES!!! I love this too. Enjoy your "dinner and dance" this weekend!

@NJRunnerMom I actually met him on a dating sight pre-HSV+. I was a little nervous but the words just flew out of my mouth LOL. We got this. It definitely puts wrench in things but I am slowly realizing I am so much more. Remember you do not need to disclose unless you are ready. Going out for drinks and/or dinner is great. I'm not saying I'm going to date this guy but his response at least earned another date LOL. Feel free to message me if you ever need to chat!

I have only been positive since the beginning of February. I had NO interest in dating. I went out a handful of times with this guy last year. I told him I didn't think it was working out and that was that. I know the problem is I was super interested in my gift giver. Still would be with him if it were up to me but he has moved on. Anway fast forward to after my positive PCR swab- the guy has been texting me asking for another date/chance. I finally agreed cause hey who doesn't want great conversation. We had a great time but then I pulled back and told him I can't get serious right now and blurted out I have HSV2 (I hate the word herpes). He's like and your point is what? He did not care. He's like I have friends with it. Its really no big deal. I was actually surprised even though I shouldn't be. He is a great guy but I'm unfortunately finding my defense mechanisms going up. Point is I got a disclosure out of the way and was accepted. That made me feel like a person and I almost started crying.

Hugs to you both! I've actually been in a decent place lately. I'm not as pissed off at the entire situation and am starting to deal with it. I found out my aunt too has HSV2 so its been nice having someone who knows what I'm going thru. Its a learning process. Learning to love ourselves even with our "gift".