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* just wanted to add.. herpes isnt passed thru any bodily fluids. just skin to skin contact

Im gonna be blunt amd crude. i hope you DID end up giving him herpes. Serves the dirt scumbag right. ive been taken advantage of 3 times in my life. how the fuck is it my fault when i say no? Its not. And its not ur fault either. the prick deserves a swift kick in the balls by someone wearing steel toe boots. End of story. he doesnt need to know u have h. if he doesnt get it fine. Bad karma is looking for him anyways.. if he does get... serves him right. i havr no sympthy for users and abusers. As for you, i wish the best with recovering from this! It is a horrible feeling. talk amongst ur closest friends or fam members and explain the situation. Giudance and love is what u need right now!! It could have been worse... trust me ive had worse. Just please know u r not at fault. Drunk. Not drunk. Stoned not stoned. Damn as hell f u say no thats the end of it! No discussion!! Keep strong. As for the bag? Toss it out! Blame it in ur parents or roomates. !

You have gennital herpes. Thats it. in order for the hsv2 virus to transfer, it needs skin to skin contact. Rubbing, touching the infected area on an h- persons genitals. Its not in your blood, or any bodily floods. It lives in the nerve at the base of your spine. and it uses that specific nerve to traval from dormant in the spine to o.b. on the skin. You are 100 % fine!! and you need not worry about transmission especially since ur hubby has it too!! Hug, touch, shake hands.... the only suggestions i have is to just wash your hands if you been touching your o.b. ... but that just commen hygiene sense! One day itll hit ya like a bag of bricks.... and youll realize it really isnt anything to fret about!!

Less to no o.b. ... less to no prodromes... i would have to assume asymponmatic shedding would decrease too wouldnt it?

Telling someone you have herpes isnt a life sentance to you. i mean i told my now bf. But heck were not planninh a wedding or buying a house. We r just bf and gf. And livin it to the fullest as much as we can. and heck we might even break up in the future... as he wants kids someday and i dont... so who knows.. But my point is.. u can tell someone you have the hsv virus..but it doesnt mean you wamt to ge married yet.. 2 different things! Just beacuse you have h tho.. doesnt mean you cant talk about future stuff either. go with ur gut instinct

I know a guy whos 29 and is a virgin..

Honey if he hasnt walked. Then hes staying.. at least for a bit. i mean... say it wasnt herpes u talked about. U have to think of it as.. maybe even without herpes he wants to take er slow!? Who knows.. and maybe hes a little nervous cuz he hasnt been tested yet..

I get where ur comming from seeker, but i think its half and half.. I mean disclosure about anything really personal is tough. the first date my bf took me on, (we went fishing) he had to disclose to me about his bro comming, and that his bro has bipolar schitzo... and not to ask too many questions about their dad who passed away last yr cuz it may cause him to tweek a little.. i.m.o. i think him disclosing to me about his bro, was harder for him to do than me disclosin 2 dates later that i had herpes. And as said earlyer, if you focus on YOU. and what YOU know you are brilliant with, i dont think any girl could reject ya, unless it was something she really couldnt risk due to a health problem she might already have. For me... honesty and trust is where its at. If a guy doesnt have these qualities... he wont qualify in my life! Damn a man or woman who doesnt have these two qualities in their life!

I personally think its just a pimple as it looks like it has a white head. But thats just my opinion!

Its just a glitch in the forum when u hit the post discussion buttion it actually has posted it, but it looks like u havent. Just gotta hit it once !;) As for the subject at hand.. im sorry i dont have more info other than the links i posted but i know the more experienced members will chime in soon, @WCSDancer2010 is full of great ideas, you can click on her name and read the posts shes made, untill shes online again!

Hey shel! First... breathe!!!!!!! So hsv 1 or 2 have litterally no rules. Theres guidlines its suppised to follow, but "h" breaks the rules all the time!. (For instance all 6 of my o.b. have been pretty minor since jan whenni was diagnosed, and i have hsv2. Yet a girl i know bfs o.b. are horrible nightmare worse case o.b. and he has hsv1.) A swab is the most accurate. I.m.o. i highly doubt u were mis diagnosed. Some steps you can rry is a change in your diet and life style. Treat yourself as if you have a cold amd only do relaxing and calming activites Epsom salt baths help and work wonders for not just healing but overal relaxation and skin health. When finnished a shower or bath use a bkow dryer on your special area to keep things dry. And go comando whenever possible.You can try to take a vitamen supplement called L-Lysine 1000mg a day. Avoid foods that are high in arginine too as h loves it for some reason. These links should help you out too! http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3183/new-video-herpes-facts#Item_7 http://herpeslife.com/hsv-1-hsv-2-types-of-herpes/ http://herpeslife.com/herpes-prodrome-symptoms/ http://herpeslife.com/herpes-outbreak/ http://supporttruthanddialog.com/ ( @WCSDancer2010 )

So im out here in canada so our dates i know are different from most of yours... But i just wanted to say how thankfull i am for everyone contributing their input, stories, and support. i realized this morning, i am also thankful for herpes. i mean, i hate that i have it. but without it i would still have some horrid souls in my life... and throu out my journey this year i have learned alot about myself. And although ive never been too judgemental before h, it has taught me to not judge, and be more patient. and thanks again to Adrial and Dancer for their on going support with this forum!

Thanks for all of your input guys! Ive come to the conclusion it wasjust an ingrown... u know those tiny hairs.. as it healed up by the end of last night. @seeker ... what u went thru sounds absolutly devastating! Sorry to hear about ur discomfort!

Well about time! Im happy some one is finally trying to help you figure out what has been happening. good for you for staying strong, and continuing to look for answers! And i know youve had weak moments, but youve made it this far.... You're going to be super woman by the end of all this! Big hugs to you chickie!! <----(^-^)----> (That is my attempt at an internet hug) haha

I.m.o. Go to ur doc and request a swab. They are he most accirate in testings so far. also request a blood test type specific. If the doc doesnt do as per requested. Go get a second opinion. Im not saying it is herpes... but those are the steps to fi ding out for sure. blood tests can have false results.. most accurate 3 to 9 months after possible exposure. (Mine was neg blood after 4 months. Possitive blood afyer 6 months) It os very possible to be a different infection, like the doc origianally said.. fungal.. yest.. who knows. But dont stop trying to figure out what is going on! Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

My geuss is the fling. only because with a longterm relationship and u guys are still talking means a bit of trust is still there. i hooked up with a guy dec 23. On dec 27th had one tiny freckle of size bump. Swab was possitive. Came back jan 3rd. April blood test negative. june blood test positve. So in my case.. it took 6 months for an accurate blood test. If it werent for the swab on dec 27th being possitive, i would be just as confused as you.. It had to be one or the other... unless and i truly hate to say this, the ex cheated, and gave it to you unknowingly so then when she got a blood test done it may still have been a new infection so her blood would have said negative as well... When did ex get a blood test?

How much are you paying? I get a month supply for 37$

Ive been going comando for months now ( sorry seeker! Haha) Havent switched soaps... but i do get really warm at this new job.. i geuss onky time will tell..

* and i only dbl up when have an o.b...... or prodromes..

So good hear taylor!! Yay!!! Must feel pretty good to have the closest in ur life in on what u went thru, i know it has deffinatly helped me by telling my one guy friend and my one girl friend! As for the meds.... im only on vacyclocir (cheap valtrex) 500mg a day.. for suppressive and to lowrr transmission to my bf.... i dont think u have to up the dossage... f*** that would get expensive over here in canada!!! Eeek!

I have hsv2. Diagnosed january this yr. Had one hook up march or april... and to my knowledge he didnt get it and still doesnt have h. We used a condom. Im now with my bf since june, im on anitvirals, no condoms, and so far bf doesnt have any symptons prodromes or o.b. but i want to encourage him to get a blood test next month just to make sure i havent passed it.. Some ppl still end up getting it. Iits a tricksy lil virus..

So i know every body takes to the virus differently.. im just wondering if the chaffing i experience at work is the cause of a tender little ingrown hair (right in the iner thigh close to my lady part) Or is a sympton of a minor herpes o.b.? Ive experienced all to well the joys of ingrowns when i shave "down there" But this little episode my body is portraying isnt in that section.. its like 4 or 5 imches away from that area and, its not itchy or tingly, (ive never experienced tingly so far thru my o.b.s this year) Im really starting to just hate that everytime i feel or see something.. im think f***! Damn herpes. like... i just want this virus to come and go when it does, and i wishbi could stop thinking every little thing is herpes, but its always on my mind now...

* i just want to add that communication is key when dating with herpes. if she feels the prodromes/symptons, its not an o.b. but they can indicate that the virus isnt dormant at that time, so sex needs to be avoided then too.

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I wouldnt be so sure that ppl would think or know he gave it to her. Maybe talk with him about disclosing to someone u know u can trust, like one of ur fam members. Talk with him. Then talk to one of them. Then maybe all talk together, and maybe he'll realize that the person u decide to tell isnt judgemental about it he might be ok with u telling others in the future. Its a sticky situation. I personally want to tell my bfs buddies but i cant cuz my bf isnt comfortable with them knowing i have it yet.