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@Hippyherpy do you have sex more than once with a one night stand...meaning when you disclose and have sex do you have several episodes of sex that night or just once? I'm just curious as to how you've had so many and not passed it on. So is a one night stand for you a "one sex act" night or several times or just depends? Sorry, I just am curious and you seem so open to answers. I think you said you usually wear a condom, but some of your dates choose to go raw. I'm def in your court and so glad you are so successful!!!

I know it's basically the same drug, but obviously something is different..no side effects at all from acyclovir at all.

I started Valtex in March after having had H for over 30 yrs. I had approx 6 ob's per yr and wanted to take it to zero. At any rate I started having constant prodrome symptoms such as tingling all over glute, thigh and vaginal area and never had prodrome prior to Valtrex. I transitioned straight to acyclovir from Valtrex and all that is completely gone in two weeks time. I know that it's not a side effect at all ( tingling) for Valtrex. I even called the FDA and put it in the list of side effects after reading about similar symptoms from others on Valtrex. I was also having vulva pain. It's all completely gone so I don't know if it was the way it's metabolized in my body or what. Just wanted to share.

You are not doomed just because one guy decided he didnt want to take the risk!!! I've had H over 30 yrs and have had two successful disclosures......one who I am happily married to for 20 yrs now and is H negative!!! I personally know of another discordant couple with grown kids and are very happy. There are plenty of educated people out there who know H is not the big deal some make it out to be. Yes, some people have much worse symptoms than others, but that does not mean they are doomed to a life of celibacy. It is the "other" persons right to either accept it or walk away....just as it's up to them to wear a condom or not. Very personal choice!

Well, I would explain that your std test a year ago was negative therefore you assumed you were negative. I mean, that's very reasonable. Has she mentioned being tested prior to your dating? Maybe she has it too.....you never know. At any rate, you've been practicing safe sex so that's a positive. It's really all you could have done till now. I would just tell her you had a suspicious place show up and found out you have 1 and 2. If she cares about you, she will accept it. I would suggest she get tested right away. If she's negative then the ball will be In your favor showing her how safe sex actually does work. Good luck! Also, I think I would go on anti virals since you have 1 and 2. I think it's a pretty safe drug.

My husband of 20 yrs is still H - and he was so crazy about me that he didn't care what I had. Having said that, he does not want H, but knows it could happen and we take every precaution to keep him H-

I'm thinking now that he really wasn't /isn't that good a friend to be shunning you over this. A good friend would be very interested in your well being and would def lend an ear. I guess, he was wanting to get somewhere with you (sex), but now that you've told him about H....he is done. I know it's hard.....I promise another guy will come along and H won't matter one bit

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Thanks so much! You are a gem:)

Way to go!!!

You never know....a little bit of time and he may actually change his mind. Likely he is going to come across H again... very likely and they may not know they have it so you are actually much safer than most out there. I know, I can be very hard. Hang in there gf and stay in the loop here

Sometimes we have to do things we really don't want to do, but know it's the right choice

Keep him as a dear friend. Good friends are very hard to come by. He was honest with you in how he feels so that's being a good friend. I think I would let it go, but ask that he please keep this confidential. Let him know you always want to remain friends and that you truly respect his decision.

Thanks @WCSDancer2010 I agree with you. It wasn't my Dr...it was a "Dr" on valtrex side effects site. Thank you for responding. How should I do it so my system doesn't freak? As you know, I've had this as long as you have and went on valtrex simply just to take ob's to zero. I've had continuous prodrome symptoms since going on it. Crazy because I never had prodrome prior to valtrex. My ob's would just simply show up. I've been on valtrex about 5 months.

I want to completely stop valtrex. Can I cut them in half and just do half a few days and then taper to every other day? Anyone tried this approach? I read a Dr's response about how quickly it leaves your system: He said valtrex has an average half life of 2.5 to 3.3 hrs so length of time it stays in system is relatively short. Would appreciate any advice.

I just think it will put your mind to rest as far as knowing you did all you could, but you could def reach out to Hippyherpy on here and get a man's perspective. He is very open minded and seems to have no problem disclosing and or getting women. I would want a man's point of view on this and Hippyherpy will tell you straight.

Oh, ok. I would def text and or call him and ask if he would be interested in the literature. With my husband 20 yrs ago....I sent him home with the little bit of info that was avail back then (very limited). He came back and said he read it and knew he didn't want it and chose to wear condoms. It's been absolutely his choice and he's still H free to this day. My first disclosure said he needed to think about it and took two weeks......came back and said he didn't handle the situation as well as he should have (I guess he meant taking two weeks to think about it) and wanted to continue dating. He wore condoms as well. We split up due to his previous gf finding out she was pregnant and had moved to TX. He chose to move to be close to his baby. I found him years later on fb and he is H -. So, sometimes it takes guys and prob women too a while to process.

Ok, so he has all the info, right?? I think I would leave it where it is and see if he still is interested after he reads and processes it. If he asks you out again and is reluctant to kiss you, I would prob tell him you are done and see what his reaction is from there. If he quickly says ok.....well, then there is your answer. Best of luck and remember, there are plenty of men out there who will accept you just as you are H and all.

400 mg twice daily

Not sure....I will look. It said twice daily.

@janedoe so I started straight on acyclovir yesterday morning and I swear my tingling this morn is almost gone. I don't know if it's because my piriformis injection has finally kicked in as well or combination of both.....will keep you posted. There may very well be just enough difference between valtex and acyclovir to upset my system. I've read numerous posts in other forums where people on valtrex seem to have almost constant tingling. Fingers crossed!!!

My husband of 20 years now saw this as no big deal when I told him and has remained feeling that way to this day. There are people who will see you for who you are. If you make it out to be a horrible life changing event then all who you disclose to will freak out. There are ways of preventing transmission to a great degree. I suggest you download the handout at the top of this page to help you better understand this is not the "hell" you think it is. Lots of people are very happily living life and have life long partners. I suggest reading @Hippyherpy's posts.. Go out there and try to have a grateful day and k ow you are a great person!

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I've had issues off and on with it myself. Maybe reach out to @Adrial for some assistance