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Well, I can say I have had Hvs2 for over 30 years. Have had oral performed on me more than intercorse and have not passed it on orally or otherwise.....it's not impossible.....very, very low risk. Are you on anti viral?

I think your chances are pretty slim give that you already have hvs1.

I don't know....wondering if you have some sort of female jock itch in addition to H. I work out and get down right SWEATY!!! I don't have what you are talking about and I wear Victoria Secret cheeky undies.....if that helps.

@JenPhoenix40 it may be that you are still in the early stages of H and your body still trying to adjust. I aquired H at age 23 and I'm 58 now. In the beginning I had frequent ob's with no prodrome symp....it would just show up. As time went on, I had maybe 5 or 6 per year. I went on anti viral in March of this year and have not had one ob. I lift heavy 5 or 6 days a week and do a mini boot camp on days between lifting or pull a sled. Nonetheless, it has not caused me any stress or ob's. Everyone is different though. Do you take vitamins? That can really help. There is a multi vitimin called "Alive" for active women. I take one per day in addition to vitamin E, D, calcium and fish oil as well as anti viral. At 58 I can run circles around people half my age! I've always been very active....was a distance runner for 20 yrs....also biked long distance. Been weight training about 14 yrs. Working out is a de-stressor for me

Awesome basically my husband's response too.

@GotWhat was your ex wife on anti virals? Just curious how you eneed up with it

@Chargeit2thagame....your personality shines brother.....I mean shines!!! That by itself is a chick magnet!!! If you are on meds and use condoms....u pose almost zero risk. Hahaha...just put that personality about 20 paces in front of the H and you'll do just fine:)

@S123 I have only disclosed twice...both successful....married 21 yrs to the last one who is H-. I do, however, strongly feel the "other" person has responsibility to inquire and or suggest condoms as they are knowingly taking taking a risk otherwise. Condoms are very, very helpful just on their own if used properly....it's kept my husband negative. I only just started anti virals last March to take my 5 ob's per yr to zero......it's working. No ob's at all. Those of us who know we have it are close to zero risk as long as we take precaution.

@chargeittothagame Entertaining as always! We don't really have to resign ourselves to H+ people. I didn't and we are very happily married for 21 yrs tomorrow. He is H-....and was so crazy about me that it just didn't matter to him. You will find the same with that personality, but you have to put yourself out there. You can do it!!! I can almost hear your disclosure now....once she stops laughing at your "very you" disclosure, she will accept it and you with no prob.

@chargeittothagame I'm sure you are right!! We are different (men and women). It's really nice to have a guys perspective. You have a great personality.....it shines right through on here. I'm surprised you don't have girls chasing you down. Personally is key.....that's coming from a woman's perspective!!!

Spot on Avril!!!

Did you actually see his results or did he just tell you that? If he has cold sores then that's likely where you got it.

@AmyDazedConfused I find it really odd that (if he doesn't have H) he hasn't scammered to get tested. It's the first thing most H negative people do once they find out their partner has H especially if they slept with that person. Asside from that, you will find someone else if he runs. You have to be confident in yourself and show it!!! It will all be ok in the long run. You said you may have had this a while so you are still who you were last week. I've had this over 30 yrs. Am married for 21 and he is H-. It is possible to have a lasting relationship, see the world, have great friends aND most of all be happy!!!

Def get the lump checked. I would think an ob would have come sooner than a month out from being off your meds. Maybe it's swollen lymph nodes from being sick. Yeah, I would certainly ask for a running supply of anti viral. If you have to, tell the Dr you are having ob's every month. I agree with Hippyherpy......I take them like I do my vitamins (every day).

First of all, get tested again! Wear protection and get her on anti viral. That being said, I can understand how hard it is to disclose, but having sex with an ob is very selfish on her part. Even if she was afraid to disclose, she should have come up with a reason for no sex during that time. You owe it to yourself to use protection until you get tested again and know for certain if this is a relationship that will last. You are already worried about her bailing on you just because she might have to wait for sex. Well, that could be a red flag as there will be plenty of time you will have to wait for her ob's to clear up before sex......it works both ways.

Exactly how I see it too. I would just let it go and not sleep with him again. If it turns out you are more serious, then you will have to disclose. The chances that you gave it to him are slim. I would suggest at the very least....always use condoms and anti viral if you can't bring yourself to disclose

@Lemmy wow! I'm so surprised....I've read numerous articles about hvs2 oral and read that it's extremely rare (1% of population) and that it did not reoccur. In other words, you get the initial ob and that's it. Hmmmm I've never passed it on either way.

Definitely don't make disclosure a big deal otherwise the person you disclose to will take it as a big deal

Just find something else to do that night if the episode. Like go out to dinner

Very well put Ringo!!! I'm way better than H any day of the week and twice on Sunday!!! Don't let it get the best of you because it will if you let it. Look the best you can look, be the best person you can be, love yourself, put your best foot forward and get out there and show the world your greatness is here!!!

Yeah, you sound like a pretty funny and out going guy....put yourself out there. Plenty of women who will not give H a second thought. You're a young guy....go get em and have fun!!!

You are definitely on the right track. Be kind to yourself.....it's not the end of the world. Many people go on to live happy, normal lives such as myself. Over 30 yrs with this. Two positive disclosures (married the second one). Married 21 yrs now and he is H negative. The biggest thing we worry about is my husbands stg 4 cancer and the major damage 3 yrs of chemo has done to his body. H is never on the front burner in this house.

I give you a big ole "Go Girl"!!! For handling things as you have thus far. Are you on anti virals yet? It will give you that much more protection and security. So you had a positive and a negative disclosure pretty close together. Pretty cray what the other guy said to you.....if he has it were on, if not, goodbye. Just be glad he's gone.

In my opinion, no...not necessary at all.

Very, very rare. Chance of a sink hole swallowing you is greater!