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Not if she has hvs2. That is genital so she can preform oral on you all day long and not give it to you. Hvs1 is a different story.

Very, very unlikely. I've had it over 30 yrs and my husband of 21 yrs is H negative. We have oral more often than intercorse. I had a bf prior to him who also didn't get it from me and he spent quite a bit of time down there.

Bambina you are exacly right! For some H is an ongoing ob and or symptoms. I wish I knew why it was worse for some than others.

@Dandelion that's about how my disclosure went and we've been married almost 21 yrs and he's H negative to this day. We were on our first date....mind you, he'd been after me for a while to go out. He wanted to jump right into the sack so I asked if he had condoms, he said "no". I said "well, that's not very smart in today's world, I have herpes and you'll need one". We never looked back!

I agree with Hippyherpy here. You have to change that attitude!!! Had my giver told me he had it straight out, I'd have completely accepted it as I was soooo crazy about him.....just as my husband was crazy about me (still is) when I disclosed to him. It's not life threatening!!! He chose to wear condoms and does to this day, but it's his choice and he's H free.

First off...H is not the worst thing that can ever happen! I was 23 (that was over 30 yrs ago) when I got it. I knew my giver and he thought (remember a long time ago) it was ok to have sex with an ob as long as he used a condom. Well, it came off and whala!!! However, I have been happily married 20 yrs....almost 21 now and he is H-. When I disclosed to him he was so crazy about me that it just didn't matter. It's a non issue with us. Life goes on. You can have a great life. We have seen the world....not all of it, but quite a bit. We go out with friends, have a great family, do lots of fun things, have great careers.....etc. It is devastating at first...until you educate yourself, learn to respect and love yourself and be confident!!!

Well, you did the right thing and if he's any kind of friend, he will stand by you in some way, shape or form. If you had lots of sex (unprotected) and he tests clean, it will be good for you both to see how dificult it really is to spread when you don't have an ob. On the other hand, if he does have it, then he has it!!! He may just want to continue with the relationship. Keep us posted as to how it goes and best of luck!!!

@Cheezit...my first ob 30+ yrs ago (one lesion inside) drug on for weeks and was very painful. After that it seemed rough sex brough them on so lots of lube took care of that. I was 23 so periods brought it on also. I never had prodrome I would just wake up and whala...there it would be. These days (I'm 58) weight train 6 days per week, eat clean every two hrs and get lots of rest...I was down to 5 ob's per year with no anti viral. Started anti viral about 5 months ago and have had zero obs. Husband of 20 yrs is H-....we use condoms.. My gyno is completely on board obout H and says it's so common......meaning soooo many people have it. Always made me feel completely at ease talking about it. This gets easier in time or I should say for me it did. I virtually never think about it

Also, typically the itch will subside once the blisters are gone

I do know that if you freak out while disclosing, the other person is definitely likely to freak out too. You just have to be confident in yourself, like yourself and if the person you disclose to decides to walk on...you walk on too with your head up. It's their loss!!!

Not sure what to say here other than this is probably how some H disclosures actually go. Very happy none of mine went like that!

Well, we are both veterans, but you have taugh me so much. I never really gave H much thought as I am barely effected by it, but for some odd reason, I started looking into this crazy virus and just decided to learn all I could. I had never even been tested. I always thought if it was genital, it was H2. Anyway, I've learned a ton and I hope I've helped some. Also, a huge thanks to Adrial and this very informative website which has brought all of us together!!! Thanks Dancer!!!

You likely did not pass it on.....so relax!!! Continue to use condoms along with your anti virals.....I'm not going to say "always disclose" because I feel it's the "other" persons place to ask too! You are safer than most of the population who don't/doesn't know they have H.

My husband is H- after 20 years of marriage...he has stage 4 cancer and has just had yet another major surgery due to the effects of chemo. He always wears condoms during intercorse ( his choice) we have loads of unprotected oral. Nonetheless, I'm sure he'd rather have H than cancer any day.

I agree with all of the above!!! Try switching to acyclovir. I know it's the same drug, but it's processed differently in your body. I've had H over 30 yrs. Only 5 ob's a year, but decided to try anti viral to cut them out entirely. As soon as I started Valtrex I went into an almost constant prodrome (never had prodrome prior to valtex ever). I had tingling in glutes, back of thighs and vulva pain for 4 months. Switched to acyclovir and in a week my symptoms were almost gone and in two weeks completely gone. I've read the same on other sites. I would start there.

Try to find someone who will listen and take you seriously (maybe on a forum in your area you can ask around for a good gyno) and then tell Dr you are having ob's back to back.

It's interesting that after all this time your ob's are getting closer together....does that mean more often? Are you on anti viral daily or just with ob? I've had H over 30 yrs and only had about 5 ob's per year which isn't a lot, but started anti viral in last of Feb this yr and have not had one.

I also eat a lot of Greek yogurt. I eat every two hours and always try to get equal amounts of protein and carbs with each meal

I'm one of the positive stories on here. I've had Hvs2 over 30 yrs. I've disclosed 2 times (both positive)....I'm married to the 2nd one for a little over 20 yrs now and he is H-. It's very possible to have a great sex life and relationship with someone who is H-. Just put your best foot forward, always try to look your best, take care of yourself etc and be confident.....you will find that special someone who knows H is no big deal.

@hhxoxo Mmissouri is correct...different people have different triggers. I weight train (heavy) 6 days per week and I use the high dollar protien powder Annex... it's hydrolyzed meaning it's absorbed by the body very quickly to forego any stomach issues therefore $$ but I don't worry about the lysine content. I've been doing this for aprox 13 /14 yrs and have never noticed it to bring on an ob. I've had Hvs2 over 30 yrs and over time ob's become less and less. Friction from rough sex was my biggest trigger. Really, prob the only trigger. Now, that does not apply, but prob because I use extra lube. I take about 45 grms (almost two scoops) of Annex mixed with oatmeal (one cup) as a post workout sup as well as my breakfast with (whole almonds)....... ( lots of people feel nuts are a trigger). Of course, all protein powders come with different sized scoops and serving specs. Just sort of try to monitor what you eat/do/drink and see what triggers your ob's and act accordingly. I drink two cups coffee every morning as well as a glass of wine each night:).......I don't eat anything with sugar.......just because it's empty calories with no nutritional value at all. That's about the only thing I avoid besides fried foods

I agree 100%. Go out and be the awesome guy that you know you are. Get that spring back In your step

Wow! That's just rediculous......H has no bearing on how well I perform my job!!! If it did, the automotive industry might be in big trouble considering 1in 4 or 5 of my co-workers are likely H+ lol

I don't think you have anything to worry about. I've had Hvs2 for over 30 years and have never spread it to any other body part or any person for that matter

Exactly!!! Why would we even think about letting our government have control over our health care???

Very strange as they do recommend testing for all the other std's. Screening for people who show no signs may cause harm due to inaccurate testing.....that's about the most rediculous thing I've ever heard. Yet another case of total ignorance!