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Good answer dumfonded

Did you use condoms with her if u don't mind me asking

I think you should definitely say something to her, if she can't show you her paperwork, she knew all along she had it and probably thought you wasent gonna catch it, I'm pretty sure she didn't want to give this to you but it's wrong she didn't disclose and you found out this way, I wouldn't continue a relationship with her

The thing with pursuing legal action is, there's no way to tell if someone have it to you , like yeah if you tested negative before your encounter and has sex with the person get the outbreak in the incubation period but if you don't you will never know unless you have sex with one person ya whole life, honestly had I known who gave it to me , and I could sue or press charges I probably would because of the emotional damage it did to me more than the physical just so that person would think and disclose before they have sex with people and stop spreading it, I hate people like that with a passion just running around having sex with everyone they can with no disclosure and putting uneccesarry people at risk but it might be more stressful on u than anything

Wow that opened my eyes more , interesting, I understand what you saying about having casual sex partners who doesn't know their hsv status than a partner with a known risk

Honestly we all know deep down hsv it's not a medical problem more of a social problem, I personally feel if you meet the right person that's confident and feel good about themselves they won't reject you You'll end up finding more attractive good looking people that's confident and will not care about hsv at all , because they can handle it and don't sweat the small stuff I feel like it's the people whom are not that confident in themselves or just have other "noreason" reasons they reject someone..

Funny thing is I was just thinking about this today, how would I deal with society and people making jokes about it ? Well first thing first I assume whoever joking or talking about it has one strain or the other orally or genitally it's a higher chance they have one strain or the other then not to have either strain because doctors and clinics don't test for it, somebodybthey slept with in the past most likely had either strain wether it's orally or genitally , I personally know people hat caught claumydia and gonorhea, and just laugh because herpes is not going anywhere it's always gonna be passed around I'm not the only one sitting here like omg I have it , it's almost like when people talk about stds in gene real and make fun of people that caught claumydia, there's people still gonna feel some type of way about it because they had it before and they will feel ashamed as well, there's people that literally make jokes about HIV and that's SERIOUS to someone's health , we don't have all the problems in the world it be much worse after my diagnosis I decided to stay away from social media more like Facebook instagram and so on because hats where I see ignorant people talk about herpes like they know wat they talking about

I understand how I feel try not to be too upset with him, I just found out like 2-3 years ago cold sores were herpes I thought cold sores was a something everybody get I didn't know it was something u can catch, honestly I never gave anybody hsv 1 orally or genitally idk it's because so much people already carry it or because the spot I get them , but a lot of people no ways days are catching cold sores down below , you probably won't ever get another outbreak after this just look at it like it's a common virus 80% of the population has , he didn't mean to transmit this to you

Hey I know the feeling I got a full on outbreak sore throats oozing lesions months possibly years after I caught it, I was scared and it took 2 weeks to heal, I got cold sores for a long time as well, my cold sores doesn't look nothing like other people cold sores online it always looked like a It do you know wat strain you have down there ?

I'm not judging her....

But it's safer having sex with someone that knows they have it va somebody that doesn't know they have it

I only had the one outbreak in April none since, people don't realize it's not in vaginal secretions or semen it's in the nerve and the skin of it's even shedding but yeah I think it's the overwhelming feeling it's gonna be for the rest of our lives

Honestly herpes seem inevitable , especially hsv 1 , hsv period is a non issue but we all seem to take it harder especially when it's genital, I think it's the thought that for the rest of our lives we carry this virus that's considered an "std" which is kind of silly because on a day to day basis, it's not a issue for me, its psychological thing more than anything.. I just know if everybody sexually active go get a hsv test for hsv 1 and 2 they will be in for a surprise lol

Yes there's a lot of people working on vaccine to rid the virus completely out of our systems don't worry about it and they are really close to doing it but even if hey don't we still fine it's likee a common cold virus that's what my doctor said it's harmless , just cause symptoms every now and then but when the symptoms not there feel free to have sex with a loved one disclosing as well

You'll be fine , and u don't even have to disclose this to anyone at all u can have sex with out disclosing this , I never gave that to anyone

Just don't kiss or go down on anybody if you have a cold sore , I had it for years and never gave it to anyone orally or genital...

They do my doctor admitted to me that she had genital hsv I thought she was telling me to make me feel better but she told me her story and it was believeable

Hey please don't do that , trust me I know he feeling I was there!!! I literally wanted to die I got over it here I am today and I wish I never had those thoughts , you don't have to either, take everything one day at a time, it does get better , right now it seem like it's the end of the world it could be worse we can have hiv

I don't mean to take away from how you feel , but honestly people like you irk me, the fact that you have to go as far as him getting tested for it to see if you passed it to him is crazy to me we'll all On her are complaining about genital herpes and hsv 2 and your hear complaining about cold sores which 80% of the population has, like all of us on this forum wish your "problem" was the only problem we have which is NOT a problem, are you kidding ?? Don't mean to come off rude but this just pissed me off a little

Good answer regularguy

That disrcharge sound like it could be from he lesion, because I my speed oozed yellow liquid on the outside u might have the sores on the inside I'm not sure

I think I'm just still in shock with what I went through like I literally can't believe it, the guy I had sex with last went so hard to have sex with me like if I was the last woman on earth , so it wouldn't make sense if he knew he had this and put me at risk

It's crazy because the outbreak you have I got months after a possible partner and have no idea who it is smh and I used a condomi just liked you

I think it has a lot to do with where you catch it as well that's where the outbreaks occur and where u will be contagious when my doctor told me a guy can have a lesion or outbreak above his or is that's when I knew it could have been anybody that gave it to me,then hikinggirl u caught it in a spot where unprotected sex doesn't matter like inside your vagina is not necessarily infected and herpes is not in vaginal fluids or semen

I would first see if the blood test is gonna come back negative indicating a new infection and see That it was him that gave it to you , because it will be 2 different conversations you could have with him, then that I would wait and see if you have the antibodies for it then see him face to face and tell him because you don't want to have these type of conversations over text or phones it's best to make them feel comfortable in person and let him know you might have exposed him to it