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@FreeSpiriting i agree however if the risks are really that low how did a lot of us end up here? This is where I get so perplexed!

@browneyes886 the k you for your post . I also don't know what I would do without this community. The last few weeks have been so rough on my spirit .

@willow please share your relationship story for those of us seeking inspiration 💕

@Soawful if you want to chat PM me. I'm in my 40s and going through all the same emotions .

Hmmm I'm not sure what type I have but assumed HSV2 due to being in my 40s. But it seems many older ppl are being diagnosed with HSV1.

@Canuckgirl how are you doing ?

@angel94 I'm right there with you . Can't seem to think of anything else and am holing up at home. Nothing about my old life feels normal at the moment . There's hope on this site that things shift - and I keep reading . But right now I'm right there with you .

Try probiotic suppositories . Could be an imbalance and not H.

@ihatethis I'm trying with you too.

@Ishmael and apparently very humble too 🙂

@Blondie1982 thank you for your story .

@Ishmael how are you so wise?

Please do not tell me this is the sex live of my future . I'm already in a slow downward spiral ....

@Ishmael these numbers do not work 😞 unfortunately which why I was asking if anyone knew of updates?

@SD74 I know it's been a long time but just wondering how you've been with your disclosures?

I would love that. I need some real life connection right now!

Does anyone know of support groups in Montreal Canada? The HELP listings seem out of date . Thanks

@nicola12 I have a freaking MD and here I am . Was safe as I thought I could be my whole 44 years of life . Im reeling too - especially since it feels contradictory how could I get it do easily but it be so hard to pass?! I understand the limited choices feeling too - im right there with you . This forum is helping but I have a knot in my stomach every day . Youre not alone 🙂

@LotusBud I'm so sorry for your loss. im struggling because rejection was hard for me before this now I can't imagine how it's going to be . A man had to be willing to get a life long virus in order to be intimate with with me . I can't imagine anyone wanting to play that game honestly . I feel defeated . And so very sad .

My doc put me on suppression after my first OB due to my anxiety. This concernd me a bit because I will not know the natural course of what is happening . Will this impact the burn out effect that happens naturally? I'm scared to come off and scared to not ;(

@Ubikwity you are so kind you made me cry . And very wise . And courageous .

@LotusBudthank you for reaching out . How long did it take you to get over the initial shock and grief stage? I fear that I may be there for a long time - and being 44 i also feel like time is running out to find that partnership .

@Ubikwity thank you so very much for replying makes me feel less alone with my thoughts which can be overwhelming. I suffer from depression and anxiety and have gone back on my meds in the last couple weeks but feel I can't seem to do much more than get my head above water . I blame myself and my previous choices - including my apparent lack of self worth because I although I never really slept around I didn't really screen well - just thought " I'd try it out and have fun ". In today's world connection seems so hard to find and I can't imagine being accepted with this - when it was so hard even before . I know it's a process and I have worked on myself a lot the last few years and this feels like such a derailment or even a punishment for not being true to who I am. im sorry for being negative despite your very kind message - I just haven't had anyone to talk to. much much love ❤️

I really need to hear how life will be sweeter 🙂 please send some kind words

Hello i am very new to this and still in shock over my diagnosis which I still have to follow up on . I am 44 single never married no kids . I can't help feeling completely defeated right now when I think of finding a partner . Things were tough before this - but I was at least free to get out there flirt and have the occasional fling . I feel completely lost right now . I also wasn't really worried about the physical symptoms until I started reading all these experiences ! If things only improve after years - will I be in my 50s before tings settle down? Ive only had my initial OB so far and am now on suppressive therapy as I was super anxious about getting it . Please help. I really don't know where to turn . Much love 💕