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What does lichen look like. I have so many skin issues right now and I still struggle with knowing what an ob is

The antidepressants never helped me. Only thing would be nerve pain meds, suppressive antiviral therapy, reduce stress, and take vitamin supplements. I hope sthng works for you.

I know exactly how youfeel!!! Exactly. You are not contagious all the time. I had two sexual partners post h and they didn't get it from me. I still had weird symptoms going on and honestly I just had to hold my breath and go for it. I wasn't going to not have sex forever. I told my partners my symptoms were frequent and they were really compassionate and just went for it. You will get to that place too. I know it's horrible but the option is abstinence and I did it for a while and it's not fun. You will learn to relax in time. Hugs

@sassytiger I am in the same boat. There are other people on here too that are Hang in...over time (maybe more time than others) you should get better. Try taking vitamin supplements and probiotics and eat well. Take ur antivirals and then just wait it out. But definitely emotional acceptance of h and your overall emotional health is drained bc of constant physical symptoms...I definitely hear that. Hugs Xo

Just wondering for those witht frequent ob.... 1) how did you disclose? I get if you are a typical carrier with a few ob a year....but how do you disclose and feel comfortable that you are protecting your partner and giving them the truth about the risks when they are likely greater with more ob? 2) when you have found someone who is hsv - or +, how do you have a normal sex life? Do you abstain during every ob or prodome? I haven't had a relationship with h...just two fwb so the situation is totally different. I am just getting a little anxious wondering if it's even possible for someone like me to meet anyone who will accept this and have a normal sexual relationship. Any pointers?

Oh. I was hoping you would tell me. Yah it works and I would have some hope.

Have u tried the LDN yet? I have rhumatologist appointment at end of nov but I haven't been diagnosed with any immune problem yet. Although I must have one...I have had ob multiple times a month for two years. Never lesions just red bumps.

My therapist told me today that when men process things they go into their cave to digest which usually means isolation and silence. Either he stays in the cave or he comes out. You won't know but for now he's in trying to process. Try to be patient. Good luck Xo

do your kesions always have a white head normally? Best thing to know for sure is go to the Dr and have him/her swab Being sweaty and exercise sometimes causes an ob but lots of stuff can appear on your lady bits that are not h. Yeast can mimic the way h looks and if you are in sweaty clothes that also is the perfect environment for that. Hard to know unless you get it swabbed and unless it looks exactly the same as the others you have had. Herpes shows up all different ways at different times. That's the frustrating part about it.

Awesome!!!' Happy for you. I am newly divorced and haven't dated much. Most of my relationships have been people I met through work or friends etc. on line dating has me super scared and then on top of disclosing to someone new is petrifying. My disclosures have been rather safe ones with little risk of them bolting mostly bc they were good friends. I don't know if I could ever do it. But awesome that you did.

Thanks @thisusernameistaken. Sounds like you hit the jackpot. I have never done on line dating before and petrified. Thanks for a positive post.

I hear you....it took me a long time but I started finding pleasure in different things than I used to do. Like I used to be so super busy and I loved being someone who could push herself to do lots of different things. Now instead of pushing myself I am takinn it slower and smelling the roses so to speak. I am travelling way more now on my own. I love that!!! Never did it before. It's fun to wander around new cities.... Went to Wilmington beach, North carolina which was lovely and Florida and Boston and Cape cod twice. Even went to Fenway park and watched a Red Sox game. I not a baseball fan but how can you go to Boston and not experience that!? So I make little short trips to change things up that are not too expensive. I appreciate that I can see new things. I also made a bucket list. Don't know if you have one. Things I always wanted to do. And even with h I managed to cross lots off. I would suggest you make one so even when you are down, you can say hey at least I got to do this. Some silly ones I had was skinny dip (lol yeah 41 and never did that lol pathetic), visit a american university (I ended up doing a tour of Harvard), travel, redecorate my kitchen, fly a kite....haven't done it in forever. Give it a try.

Omg I wrote sthng so eloquent and it didn't save lol Let me try to replicate.... Basically you are pretty much guaranteed an uncomfortable sexual experience before you even start. My advice is your feelings count. You feel like the precautions are a little excessive which I don't blame you. Condoms are reasonable imo but gloves are a bt excessive. My advice is share how you feel. You need to be authentic and share with her how you feel. You count. Authenticity brings truth and great information. This information I.e how she reacts to that sharing will help you decide if this experience is for you. I say let her know how you feel amd

Difficult. Just you have prodome and pain. Your discharge may change. You may feel it inside. The only way you really know is if you have a Dr to check

Thanks. Nothing seems to work for long. If I as asymptomatic or got an ob here and there....I have done enough personal work that it would be easier to pick myself up and dust myself off especially since hsv1 is so common. But to get it like this? It's jusy horrible. Pain is less and symptoms are less but frequent ob and prodome are a mind fuck No matter how much personal work I do. It's still there everyday I love music and watching comedians in cars drinking coffee. Maybe I will start watching again.

Didn't for me. I swabbed the shit out of it. They are really tiny for me.

It's different if I had a good sex life before I can say hey....you had your time. But I got knocked down before I got up?

Thanks for the apology. Lol that made me laugh...former good lovers. I needed a chuckle. Hopefully you won't be former too much longer. Hope things settle for you. I know. It's so pathetic!!!! I can't even stand thinking about it. I was always comfortable pleasing the man and I guess my husband never really cared to determine if he pleased me. Then my first lover after that I think wasn't very talented. Actually got my first orgasm after h. And another good thing about h, watched a lot of porn and now I have built up my repertoire lol. Anyway I just feel my sexuality has been robbed. I can't just go out...I got to be prepared to have the talk and then on top of that I got to constantly worry about transmission. What's the point?! Btw hwrpes can trigger rheumatoid arthritis. You can get a blood test to determine if you are predisposed for it. Maybe that's what's happening to you.

Btw I have swabbed these red bumps that I have and they have come back negative but I know they are from h.

And on top of it all it took me 42 damn years to have an orgasm. Pity party today

Used to be constant burning pain. Now just different pain it's never consistent. I will have bone ache pain in legs or bum. Or burning pain on my vagina. Or nerve pain down to my toes. Or sometimes just itchiness before bumps come. I just started embracing my sexuality at 40 after a sexless marriage and then first partner after ghsv1. I only had at that time two sexual partners!!!! Wtf!? And then to get it like this!?!? It's just so sad.

I have mild eczema as well Antivirals don't seem to help much I have constant ob and prodome but thank god I don't get typical sores just red bumps on legs back and bum. Only one or two at a time. I doubt they are very contagious at all But the nerve pain is excruciating and a mind fuck for sure Really hoping someone comes up with something Just ended it with fwb and now just feeling so hopeless and sexually frustrated. I just can't go out again and keep doing this. I don't want to go on an exclusive h website (don't even know if ghsv1 would be there or if it's more for hsv2) but my symptoms are so frequent I really am just struggling. Anyway bad day today. Sorry didn't mean to hijack thread It's been two years of total frustration and sadness and I get out and go back in. I don't like my body. It makes me mad I can't have herpes like everyone else and then not even having meds that work for me on top of that

Bc u can take vaccine that reduces shedding and also take Antivirals which reduces further. Multiple effect.

Call westover heights clinic. You become a patient of Terri warren. They mail you swabs and you swab yourself and then they call you in a week for the results. $75 to process each vial and you have to do an initial consult call.

Can you tell me what your blood test scores were please? I had trouble with mine so I could never prove seroconversion. For example, I always show negative on Elisa hsv blood tests. I only show positive on inmunoblot or western blot blood tests. Wondered if you had the same issue. I know you said you took them at different labs but do u know what type of hsv blood tests they were and what the score was? Thanks for the hugs!!! I need them too.