JessikaRabbit89

That's totally bogus. I went through similar troubles at the Health Department. They refused to give me more antivirals until I had signs of a full on ob and basically told me the same thing. Most docs don't really take Herpes serious since its not a life-threatening condition. So they just tell you avoid sexual contact during an ob and take painkillers and call it a day. I know my body and I could feel the signs of prodrome so I called my gynecologist who rushed a prescription order to my pharmacy the same day. He also gave me 3 more refills in case I have any more in the future. You may want to try calling your local Planned Parenthood and tell them your situation and see if you can get a prescription through them. Good luck!!!

Thank you for that :) @WCSdancer you're right. I appreciate the time I spent with the guy I met recently. It wasn't completely all bad, but there were things about him I couldn't see myself putting up with. He was very childish and sometimes brash. I could see that getting old with me very quickly. His time in my life did serve a purpose, it helped distract me from my heartache of losing Nick and it gave me hope in finding someone in the future. I'm thankful for that. It had its fun times, but it wasn't meant to be permanent and I sensed that going into it. We still talk as friends also, and it will stay that way lol.

Yeah, I don't want to get back with him...especially not now. I just missed having him as my friend more than anything. Us being intimate was a big mistake. We should have kept it strictly platonic. Then again I'm glad this happened with him of all people, instead of say, the guy I just broke it off with. He was a jerk and I would've felt the pain of violation from an A**hole all my life. There just aren't a lot of guys like my friend (we'll call him Nick) I can vent and talk to and have them truly understand me like he does. That's why we were so close. I know he did do a lot of things that were douchebaggy, he even owned up to that and apologized for it also, but I'm not ready to date anybody right now. So yeah, I will be much smarter this time around.

Thank you :) its possible, but we are just working on rebuilding our friendship now. It really has given me such peace and closure. I think it hurt more losing him than finding out I had Herpes. Now I can continue moving forward and be positive with him by my side. I'm blessed and so thankful for it. :)

Something I definitely did not see coming. He called me, sincerely apologizing for giving it to me. He admitted he was angry and confused when I told him to get tested and he found out he was positive for HSV2. He was sure he got it from me but after I explained the situation of him having no symptoms and still being able to transmit, and the results of my test being negative while his was positive, I guess he needed to process it all. He told me he got saved and has been regularly going to church and completely changed his life. He also admitted he missed me. I am so overwhelmed with emotions. He and I both considered Herpes as a life saver, because if it weren't for us being diagnosed, we probably would've continued going down that path of dating casually and having no strings attached sex and could've possibly ended up with something much worse. So we are grateful for Herpes being our reality check and allowing us to be more responsible. As for the guy with HSV2 I met online and was dating, coincidentally, I broke up with him just hours before all of this happened. I wasn't feeling as appreciated as I should. Just because I have this doesn't make me any less of a person, I still deserve to be desired and treated with respect, I didn't feel that from him so I ended it. I guess everything in life truly happens for a reason. I don't know what the future holds, but I am optimistic in it holding something great for me.

I have refills also. That's awesome though, the health department was where I went initially and they gave me Acyclovir. It worked great I just hated that I had to take it every 4 hours. Valtrex is definitely easier to take but since its a stronger dose it upsets my stomach, even when I take it with food, so I only take it as needed. Have you had any issues with it?

Yeah, herpes is definitely an expensive condition. My meds ran me almost $200 before my insurance kicked in. Valtrex is pricey and there is no generic for it, but you can take Acyclovir its more affordable and it works just as good. The only difference between the two is the concentration and how it is absorbed into the body, so you take Valtrex less (1gram every 8 hours) than you would need to take Acyclovir (400 mg every few hours). The lab work was about $275 altogether. So I feel your pain. Planned Parenthood wasn't too expensive and they do things on a sliding scale so if you ever need more treatment its a good option to check out. Also, if you have a Costco or Sam's Club in your area, they sell medication at wholesale price. I got about 60 pills for $12 bucks at Costco because I'm a member there. Even if you're not a member you can still go to their pharmacy and get it far cheaper than CVS or Walgreens!

Just remember you can only go up from here. Things will truly get better. There will be days, many days, where you will forget you even have it because life will go back to normal and everything will be the same. This is all still new to you, as it is for me also, so there will be moments where you'll think about it and get upset, but its just a phase I promise, and you will accept it and it will no longer be this curse or dark secret to hold from everyone. So keep your head up, and remember we are your support whenever you need it. :)

I used POF as an experiment to open up about my status and see how men would respond. I just didn't beat around the bush, I wrote it as honest and humble as I could on my profile, and men still messaged, wanting to get to know me. Most of them thanked me for my honesty because usually people would keep that to themselves until they felt comfortable. I decided to say it straight off the bat so men could make a choice, so they appreciated it. I even had men who also had herpes message me as well after seeing my profile, it made it easier for them to find a woman a lot like them. I only had 2 people with negative comments and that's because they knew nothing about the virus. So in the end it was a truly positive experience. I hope it works out for you too :)

You're so right @WCSdancer... I had a moment of weakness...it happens from time to time, especially when I'm alone. For the most part I am happy, very happy. Then sometimes reality bites me in the butt and it stings a bit...

I know there are worse things to have...but its just a feeling of pure violation. You gave yourself to someone you deeply care for, out of trust and thinking they would never hurt you, and this happens. That's what gets to me when I think about it. I'm about to cry as I'm writing this. I felt like my purity was taken from me. I went from having nothing to having something that will never go away, something that will always remind me of him for the rest of my life. That's what kills me the most.

I couldn't have said that better myself @ABC111. That's so true, and I swear its like we lived the same story because those are my thoughts exactly. I missed work due to the pain and cried many nights alone while he went and bought a brand new motorcycle and went to a Dallas football game. Yet he's going through so much. Yeah, life must really suck. That truly sickened me to the core.

It would definitely help if you get one done @Kasbean1818. and @ABC111, I got blood work done about 3 weeks after my first outbreak. So it was still relatively soon after being exposed. You're still in the window period for a possible negative result, so no harm in getting tested. I'm sure by now I probably have enough antibodies to be detected at this point. I hope any man that reads this does not take offense to what I'm about to say, but typically they don't do their research on things like this. My giver as you said was truly an uniformed jerk. I think he had his own personal suspicions before but played it off, because I questioned him about a strange rash that he brushed off as a "heat rash" and prior to us getting physical he would often make jokes about herpes. So looking back on it now, I think he was positive all along, and that's why in the beginning he kind of owned up to it before his tests came back positive, then he tried to put it all on me.

Well, I'll tell you how my situation went after finding out my test was negative and his was positive.. he sent me a text saying "I think you knew you had it, whether you admit it or not. You lied to me" so I replied by saying "Considering I had symptoms consistent with a recent exposure, the fact that I had an outbreak immediately after having sex with you, and the fact that your test results were positive so soon after our encounter, that tells me you were the one who had it all along, because it takes at least 3 months to have an accurate positive result with herpes, and my test is currently still negative." After I sent that, he went from blaming me to not texting back at all. He's ashamed and full of guilt for giving it to me. Just educate him on the facts when it comes to being diagnosed and how many people don't even have symptoms of the virus so they wouldn't even realize they have it. Usually people who do have outbreaks have pretty bad ones after being newly exposed. So that will be your defense.

Funny you asked that @Kasbean1818. I met him through an online dating site for people who have Herpes (yes, there's a dating site for that too, lol). At first I was very skeptic, but I felt like nobody would want me, being this girl infected with an incurable disease, so I sought out that dating site, not really to date anyone at the time, but just to find people in my area to talk to and see if they could give me comfort and insight. He ended up shooting me a message, I thought he was really cute so we talked on the phone, Skyped, eventually hung out and the rest is history. I wasn't even really expecting to find love so fast. I was becoming content with the thought I'd be single for a while and I started growing to love myself in the process. I guess that gave off a confidence I didn't think I had and I talked to men from non-herpes dating sites that were even interested in dating me, but I'm happy where I'm at. Plus its a sense of comfort in knowing you can't transmit it to your partner because you both have the same thing. Takes a lot of stress off for sure. and @ABC111, I totally understand, and honestly I think getting a blood test will only give you peace of mind rather than feeling worse. I mean you already pretty much know you have it so whats worse than a confirmation at this point you know? That way you can at least prove to him he very well infected you. I had to get bloodwork done for my own sanity, and even with that, he still acted like a complete douchebag towards me. I think its probably guilt eating at him. He really did care about me, I know he wouldn't give me this purposely, but rather than man up he's avoiding me at all costs. Not much I can do anymore but continue moving on with my life and wish him the best. you're also very right at how you approach a guy with this issue. I handled it the same as you. I confronted him in a victimized manner, freaking out and totally uncalm. He reacted with shock and panic because he was feeding off of my emotions. If you talk to him in a calm, educated, comforting way I think your outcome will be much better and if not, at least you did your part @Kasbean1818. Definitely let us know how it goes.

Wow, @ABC111, that's exactly how my giver was too. Before he was tested he confided in me and kept saying "I never had symptoms, I swear I didn't know". After his test came up positive he started pointing the finger at me. I couldn't believe how quick he changed but I learned that guys would rather play the blame game than admit to their mistakes. I'm still hurt over it, but if it weren't for this happening, I wouldn't have met the man I'm dating now. Us both having herpes has made this relationship deeper and more open than any I've ever had in the past. So there was a silver lining in it for me, even though there are times I look back at what could've been between me and my giver, his reaction to this has shown me he wasn't worth being with in the first place.

I disagree with that. Cancer is extremely painful and mentally as well as physically exhausting and I guarantee you they would rather have herpes than a disease that will or can potentially kill them. Herpes is all in how you think of it. Most people who look at is as a disease that only promiscuous or dirty people get and attach the stigma to it, only do it because they are very little informed about the disease. I used to criticize and judge those I knew who had it too, and once it happened to me and I learned more about it, I understood that its something anybody can get, regardless of race, gender, financial status, religion, etc. Basically any and everyone who engages in sexual activity is at risk for getting herpes. Most don't even know they have it.

There have been stories of people who thought they had herpes until their tests came up negative. Yeast infections can in fact cause blisters in some situations if it goes untreated for a while, but the likelihood of that being the case is low because it takes a badly compromised immune system for that to occur. When you do get your results, it will take a bit to sink in, but it will be a bit of a relief as well, because you have an answer, and to me, knowing I have something that can be treated is much better than having something doctors can't figure out what it is and don't know how to treat. He will definitely be upset initially, but as time goes on he will come to accept it, and maybe in the future you two can come together and have a talk about it. Everyone deals with it differently. All you can do is focus on getting better and taking care of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually, and wonderful things will follow.. ..and again if you need to talk, we are all here for you. We know where you're coming from and how you feel. <3 sometimes just having a caring support group helps too.

You shouldn't be so down on yourself. The bigger picture is Herpes is nothing more than a skin condition, like people who have eczema, or psoriasis. Its also something over a billion, not million, BILLION people have, so you are FAR from being alone. When I was going through my depression from finding out, my sister, who is an RN, told me "Do you know how selfish you sound? You're sitting here, crying about having herpes. Are you going to die? Do you have any missing limbs? Do you still have your health? You can easily say yes to all of these questions." She then said to me "I get patients that are so depressed because they are paralyzed from terminal illnesses that they wish they could kill themselves but physically cant". When she told me that, as brutal and cutthroat as it was, it really put things into perspective for me. I realized there are worse things to suffer from. You could have AIDS or Cancer, God forbid. Just try to think on the bright side, I know its easier said than done, I know its all a process..but take it from me, who at first wanted to kill myself from this, to loving every moment of life with this.

Don't sweat it hun! Even though I am in better check of what I eat, I still splurge on chocolate, peanut butter, and the same foods I ate before having herpes and the only time I had an outbreak was from having sex the first time. My diet didn't effect anything at all. Hell, I even drink alcohol and wine and don't have any issues. For some people especially in the first year their body is sensitive to many things and certain foods and exercise can trigger outbreaks but that doesn't mean it happens to everyone. You should be fine but if you start to notice anything funny afterwards then get a jumpstart on your antivirals and you should be okay.

Lol I was the same way, panicking about HIV, so much that my Dr sat me down and said "based off of your tests, from the day you were born, up until this present date, you have NOT been exposed in any way, shape, or form to HIV". This was after 6 months of multiple testing. I am a serious worry wart. If it makes you feel better, my boyfriend is in the same boat as you. If he stops taking Valtrex he has recurrent outbreaks back to back like clockwork.

Hello, Nicu! Pleasure to meet you and so glad you found this site. I am new to Herpes also (diagnosed December 1st, 2014). I am handling it surprisingly well. I have to admit joining this site when I did and meeting people like @WCSdancer and @Adrial, as well as many others, gave me the strength and courage to go on with my life without fear and shame. I love meeting new people from here and making new friends, as well as out in the real world. Hope to see more posts from you, Nicu! And your English is actually pretty good. :) take care!

Even if they don't call, call their office. They are almost always busy and have a tendency to forget to return calls, so stay on top of it.

I know exactly what you're going through, my giver and I were in the process of starting a relationship before this happened as well, so I was more heartbroken than anything. In some twisted way I was hoping since we both had it that we could stay together and get through it together...but he was too busy blaming me that I gave up on trying. It still hurts to this day because I still miss him, but I am giving him his space to process this on his own. I let him know I was still willing to be there as a friend and someone to talk to when he comes to terms with it though. I think you should tell him as soon as possible so he can get tested. That way, you will know he was your giver, because some men can have sex multiple times with an H+ woman and not catch it. Though I do believe he gave it to you, its best to be safe and know for sure. As much as I hate to tell you, prepare yourself for the worst. He may become angry, make accusations, completely shut you out, but that's all a typical reaction dealing with this situation. Even though YOU were the one who suffered the most from this, he will play victim and act as if he was just given a death sentence. If he doesn't speak to you, don't call or text him. You need just as much time as he does. You need to find yourself again and learn how to handle this on your own as well. Time truly does heal all wounds.

If you need anyone to talk to off of here I will be more than happy to do so.