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  1. That’s a very bold statement for someone who doesn’t know my situation! You don’t know who I am , so I don’t get how you can even assume that ! I’ve had a massive struggle and I’ve been to the lowest points where I thought it was the end , I still struggle with this but I’ve learnt that with a positive attitude it isn’t the end of the world! I’m also not saying what she did is ok , because it’s not, but expecting to get revenge and feeling better as a result isn’t going to happen, what I’m saying is to let all the resentment and hate go, it isn’t going to change anything , apart from harbour stress which will cause more outbreaks ! Take it how you want but by getting revenge you’re just lowering yourself to that level and people will see that as bullying if you post it on social media, so if you want to do that just know that you are accepting any of the repercussions that come from it ! I got this in pretty much the same way and situation , once I let go of the hate, resentment and what ifs it honestly took away the power HSV held over me and I was able to develop a more positive attitude, I can’t emphasise this enough ! I’m definitely not arguing, but I just want you to really understand the potential consequences this advice could have on everyone involved. This situation happens very frequently in people who have HSV and people who don’t and it always feels horrific, so to acquire HSV under these circumstances I can fully relate and understand the impact this does have! In order to find peace though you need to understand what it is , how you can try and reduce the impact it has on your life and the importance of accepting this isn’t going anywhere, so don’t live in the past of regret and sadness because this will cause more and more outbreaks and symptoms ( it’s a vicious cycle that you need to get out of ) revenge isn’t the answer to finding peace , acceptance and a positive outlook is! Start looking at healthy foods, foods to potentially avoid, vitamin supplements, medication if that’s the route you want to go down etc , doing this worked for me as it allowed me to feel like I had a bit more control over it.
  2. I’m sorry but this is a very bad way to deal with it! It’s bad that she didn’t tell him till it was too late but having HSV of any kind isn’t the end of the world, outing her to all her family and friends out of spite and bad blood, could be the end of hers. People talk, it’ll get into the wrong hands, so if you want to take revenge and out her to everyone that she knows just makes you equally as disgusting as you believe she is, whilst also creating a bad stigma towards having HSV! Please think about the real consequences theses actions could have before promoting this response !! Also getting revenge won’t make you feel better, because once it’s all said and done, it doesn’t change the fact that you have this ! Instead of focusing on the revenge, focus on accepting what you have and keeping healthy and stress free to combat the symptom and live a happier healthier life ! That’s the best option, be the bigger person and focus on your health and happiness, without sabotaging someone else's.
  3. Thank you so much for the response ! I’m In the Uk also, I wonder why I’ve been give only 400 daily, but yeah it’s working fine so I’ll stick at it
  4. Hello, I’m currently taking 2x 200 mg of acyclovir daily as prescribed by my doctor, it seems to to working fine but I’ve read on here that to be able to suppress it and cut the chances of transmission you need 500-800mg daily is this correct ? I’m debating if to ask for a higher dosage or start taking 4 of my tablets daily if that’s the case .. but don’t want to do that if it what I’m on is already enough Thank you
  5. That’s brilliant!! Thank you
  6. Hello, quick question as I’m starting to worry, so I have hsv2, I’ve had it for nearly a year and I don’t have many outbreaks as I’m on Acyclovir however I’ve just booked to go to Mexico for 2 weeks and I’m just wondering if I’m actually aloud to take the tablets in my luggage ? Or would it be best to just leave them at home and hope for the best ? And will the sun and sea make outbreaks more likely and frequent ? I know the sun can trigger cold sores but I wasn’t sure if it was the same concept down there as obviously that area won’t be as exposed Thanks in advance
  7. Hello I’m a 23 year old female from the uk with HSV-2 , I’ve been diagnosed for about 6 months now and although I do have a lot of good days where I try not to think about it, I’d love to be able to talk to people in the same situation or similar situation to provide and receive support, advice etc , no gender or age preferences.
  8. Hello I also had something similar on my first outbreak, I couldn’t wee without being in excruciating pain for about 2 weeks and I’d try and put myself of going in fear of the pain, the Drs wouldn’t swab me for herpes so I was given antibiotics which actually made everything a whole lot worse ( my body doesn’t react well with antibiotics) which extended it to about 3 weeks of having to wee in a freezing cold bath pretty much under the cold water tap, I literally cried every day until I went to the specialist Sexual health clinic and was given some acyclovir .. 6 months later I’ve had about 2 proper outbreaks and I can assure you that they won’t even come close to being as bad as what you’re currently going through & that itself makes them a lot less stressful and a lot more bearable ! You will be able to wee without pain soon and it will be the best feeling ! Keep up with the supliments and don’t stress ! I know in this situation it’s hard , I was a little ball of stress,however that maybe what’s prolonging the outbreak, so keep positive, know it will go soon & remember it isn’t likely to ever be this bad again ! Hope it clears up for you soon.
  9. Hello, I’m 23 currently studying my masters and I think the stress is causing me to break out literally ALL the time I have HSV-2 and I’ve had it for just about 6 months so I’m a bit gutted my outbreaks have actually increased in frequency ! Whilst most are simply just a little bump which is a little tender this one is worse with actual ulcers luckily it’s at the side so it’s not as painful but it’s put me in a real negative place again! I keep trying to remind myself it could be worse and to be greatful that I can still live a happy, healthy life .. but it’s a lot harder to do whilst constantly breaking out I don’t know anyone around me who also has hsv2 so would just like some reassurance because all i can think about is future relationships and how hard it’s going to be to disclose when I know how the ulcers can cause pain and be a bit depressing .. Thank you in advance
  10. So I’ve had HSV-2 for around 6 months and thought my outbreaks would be less frequent but they seem to be happening quite a lot they aren’t terrible, I just get a bit of pain,tingling and swelling no ulcers or anything but it’s so frustrating! Does anyone know any food / vitamins that I can take in order to try and prevent this happening? Also when I had my first outbreak I was already ill and on antibiotics so my first outbreak was absolutely horrific! However I’ve noticed the places where I had the ulcer like sores is totally different to where I now seem to get my little outbreaks ( always in the same place),does that mean when the virus is active and shedding it will be from all of these places or will it just be from where all my outbreaks occur ? Thanks in advance
  11. Hey so I’m recently diagnosed so I can’t offer that much help , however I’m sure that’s not the case! I’m sure he can still do all these things if he wants, yeah disclosure absolutely sucks ( I’ve not done it yet but I’m terrified) however it really is only a skin condition , it isn’t life threatening, it isn’t scary once people know the facts, so I’m sure he will find women who think he is worth the risk and even if this isn’t the case and it means it’s hard to have one night stands, at least now he knows he can find someone who truly wants to be with him and that in itself is a blessing! not to meanition the fact it’s extremely common so he might even be super lucky and find someone who already has it ! With the whole relationship and starting a family situation, he could take anti virals whilst trying to maybe slightly lessen the chance of transmission, but if the woman gets hsv2 before she can go on to have a healthy pregnancy and as long as she isn’t breaking out at the stage of delivering the baby she can go on to have a natural delivery ! Any pregnancy has the chance of a C-section, so this is really no different ! Honestly I know it’s hard and I know the guilt is going to be hard to deal with but don’t overthink it, I’m sure everything will work out fine in the end x
  12. Hey thank you both so so much for the help and advice! It’s so appreciated, especially with your attitudes regarding relationships and how people are still willing to consider a relationship after learning the diagnosis! Because that’s been weighing on my mind so much, the diagnosis itself didn’t bother me it’s the whole disclosing which scares me and has impacted my life the most I met him again and I’d come to the conclusion that if I did tell him about it I’d be in constant fear of him telling everyone about it as he seems like a person who struggles to keep stuff in especially when drunk.. or use that as a way to trap me in a relationship so I decided to just try and end it before anything happened and just stay friends , he took that really hard but I just know it’s the right decision to make i need to take time to truly accept it and be strong enough to put myself out there so if rejection does happen I can accept it easier, I’m just going to stay single until someone who doesn’t know any of my friendship group comes along ! Thank you both so much for your help x
  13. Hello, I have recently been diagnosed with HSV2 about 6 months ago and have had a few outbreaks, nothing as bad as the first one ! I took the news really, really bad and couldn’t deal with it at first , however I started to feel a bit better as it is effectively a skin condition with a really unfair, bad stigma. I have remained single ever since In absolute fear of disclosure and rejection. However recently I started speaking to a guy I’ve known for a long time , he’s absolutely lovely , he’s really into me and on paper would be perfect, however , the other day we got onto to topic of stds and he actually brought herpes up and said a lot about how he’d never stay in a relationship with someone who has it as “ it must be horrific having to tell people and would be a right mood killer on a first date” he said more about it and I tried to low key educate him on how it isn’t as scary as what people think and was shocked at how misinformed people are however now I’m really panicking as I know if I tell him he won’t handle it well and the fact that someone who really likes me and is already after a few dates planning a relationship with me won’t be able to handle the diagnosis, it makes it a lot harder that he is in pretty much the same friendship group and knows a lot of the same people I do so I don’t know how to put an end to the dating , would it be best to tell him about what I have and hope he doesn’t tell everyone ? Or do I just break it off with an excuse about how i can’t get into a relationship right now ? This whole situation has really knocked me back to square one and I just want to know if there actually are people out there who will infact hear someone has a herpes diagnosis and still want to stick around? Thank you in advance
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