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I actually don't think non-disclosure is the worst thing in the world. Many people do it without even knowing, and if you do know and are doing everything in your power to not spread it, I don't think you are a bad person. I think this website is more focused on the positive things that can come from disclosure as opposed to being a place to condemn people for not disclosing. Trying to rationalize non-disclosure isn't what this place is about from what I was told. In the end it is up to you and how you feel about taking particular actions. There's no mechanism that will disclose for you like a n online registry or something.

You have decided not to disclose and will constantly live in fear. You don't have to disclose, but you aren't being honest with yourself, because you wouldn't need to post here if you were. It's not even about the other person, it's about you. In this last week, disclosed to two girls. Yes it felt like it was a bump in the road to sex, but we fucked anyway. Seriously- go read my thread on casual sex and disclosing. I outline in detail how to do this and have had a very high success rate. If you aren't going to disclose, then what's the point of posting here? Go read my early posts- I was in your position when I first got herpes.

First of all, I'm living proof that you can have casual sex life (I've told over thirty girls in just this year alone), so go look up my ladies man disclosure thread. Second, if you really thought it was OK not to disclose, you wouldn't be on here writing anything about that. But you are here. Nobody can force you to disclose, but you know that deep down you are not 100% sure if not disclosing is the Ok. If you aren't certain about that, than perhaps it's in your own best interest not to act act in that direction for the sake of your own integrity. If you are cool with not disclosing, than you don't really need to be on a forum like this. From what I read, you don't sound like you are cool with it, but are in fact rationalizing. I know because I was there too, and still sometimes feel like I don't want to disclose. But this website isn't just about minimizing the negative aspects of having gerpes, it is about viewing herpes as an opportunity to actually make your life better. I know that might sound a little crazy, and like I'm rationalizing, but here are some of the benefits I've gained from herpes disclosure that so wouldn't have otherwise: Confidence boost- This is massive. Everytime I disclose, I get a boost in confidence. It's just been piling up the whole year to the point where I almost feel like Superman. Why? Because I have beat one of the most pervasive stigmas around through sheer force of my personality, frame, and honesty. That is a level of confidence that I could never reach before. I've actually been with more attractive women this year than in any other year my whole life. Not sweating the small stuff: In some ways, disclosing about herpes is like being beyond the scope of what the average person considers to be socially possible. It is like having a super power that few other people can have. That power is perspective. When you get herpes, it can be like a sort of death and rebirth like Phoenix that that knows that herpes isn't anywhere near as big a deal as it is made out to be, and that there are probably many other things that people needlessly make a big deal out of. You are above a lot of petty things in this way, and actually maintain a sense of ease in the face ofthat most other people won't be able attain. Connection It should go without saying that disclosing about herpes is considered by many to be a reflection of great character. It's a massive trust builder. I'm glad you wrote this post because lately, I've been having second thoughts about disclosing.. and now Im reminded of all the good things it's brought to my life.

I asked my doctor about this recently and he said that in the last few months, he noticed that he no longer has the option to even request herpes blood testing in his computer anymore. Crazy shit methinks, what about ya'll?

Yeah- that's on your face, I'm asking about genitals.

You don't have to say zero, but you can say that expert doctor on it has never seen a case in over thirty years and let them do the math.

So if I take my genital hsv2 to the beach, I don't have to worry about an outbreak? That's only for oral herpes people?

Go see the doctor. Also, I could be wrong about this, but if you are overweight, then do what you can do reduce and maybe hit the gym because I think that being in shape could have some impact on the severity and frequency of outbreaks. Herpes is very much related to your inner feelings- I've had breakouts when I was dealing with a dark emotional time. Your parents may or may not understand you, but maybe there are other resources available. Is there any way you can talk to a doctor? Also, they don't mail yountest results.. that's all done in person at the facility.

I personally think that everyone needs to chill out about herpes like they do in Brazil. Honestly getting herpes was worth it for me. This may sound like a rationalization, but I had a hell of a fun time sleeping around without condoms and I was pretty much destined to get it. I still get my rocks off but now I disclose and use condoms a lot more often. People should just go into life assuming that they will probably get some kind of herpes if they want to have a decent sex life. For most people, it really isn't a big deal to get. Also, if you look at the animal world, herpes doesn't affect how they breed- it doesn't make an animal less attractive to its mate. That's proof of how little herpes actually matters. If it was a serious social death sentence, then animals wouldn't mate with others that have it. That's not how herpes has survived. The reason that herpes has been around for so long is precisely because it isn't a big deal. If it were, the carriers of it wouldn't be able to reproduce and the virus would have been evolutionarily weeded out a long time ago. herpes = harmless for the vast majority of cases.

Now that Trump is elected, it's looking like a lot of people are going to lose access to health insurance. Are there any workarounds for getting Valtrex without health insurance?

Adrian I agree and see your point completely. If you had HSV1 in your mouth and were out on the dating scene, would you tell every girl you made out with? There are many people who ok that. It's just that once the genitals come into the picture it's stigma bullshit. Ultimately, you are right, but it's so not a big deal with HSV1 oral. I mean what do you call it if you get HSV2 in your mouth? "cold sores"? "Genital herpes"? "cold sores light (because it oral hsv2 is the least reactive)?

People kiss people who have HSV 1 all the time like I said, and that's much more likely to pass orally than HSV2. And that's not even counting whether of not someone is taking meds. Maybe the problem is that stigma that is still attached to it. An ignorant version of me would say "yes, I'd want to know." But if the girl isn't having an outbreak, I have less a chance of getting hsv2 in my mouth from eating her out than I have of getting HSV1 in my mouth just from kissing 9/10 strangers on the lips. Do you see what I'm saying? In some ways, this example shows just how hypocritical the herpes stigma is.

I think it took like a month to go back to normal.

I think it can take a while for dick head skin to completely heal and there might be some scarring. I believe I have a little scarring but I can't tell. I'm on meds.

People kiss each other all the time and pass on hsv1. Yet nobody really discloses that they have cold sores when the kiss someone. Since GHSV2 is actually harder to pass from genital to oral then hsv1 which goes from oral to oral, then it would make sense that if it's generally considered ok not to disclose on a kiss with hsv1 then it would be possibly even more ok to not say anything if someone goes down on you and you hsv2 genital (no breakout and on meds). Kids pass on oral herpes to each other all the time .. it doesn't seem like a big deal. Is genital to oral hsv2 even worth disclosing about ?

I think that herpes doesn't have to be a big deal unless you make it one, and that you don't need to know how to feel after disclosing. You just disclose and then feel however you feel. It's important not to conflate other issues you have in your life with having herpes. Getting herpes is not an excuse to get down about a pre-existing social anxiety or insecurity. I think a lot of people will try to scapegoat having herpes as the root of drama and relationship trouble in life when the reality is that pretty much everyone in the world has herpes and it doesn't have much baring on what they do.

It's different for almost everyone, but in general is subsides over time. Are you taking any Valtrex for it? And when I say everyone, I really do mean like 90% of the world's population.

Being ashamed and embaressed about havingbheroes is like being ashamed and embarrassed about having to eat or sleep. It's just a completely normal part of life for many people, and if it was really a big deal, it would by have stuck with the human race for so long.

Here's the thing: herpes is normal. It is the norm. More people have some kind of herpes than don't. People in general don't get that herpes is not hard to get if the two partners aren't aware and going raw they are likely to get it sooner or later. Also, normalcy of feeling is an illusion. Life isn't static- you will get old and there are many ganges that come in life. Getting herpes can be like a popping of the comfort bubble that's most people want to live in. Not because herpes is dangerous but because getting it is proof that people aren't invincible or immune to what life throws at them. You actually will get more comfortable then before you had herpes because now you know the boogeyman is like the wizard of oz: the myth is scarier then the reality.

Tell him you just got tested positive for herpes and see what he says. Either that or just go on with your life.

Attractive people are actually or probably more likely to get herpes because they tend to be more cavalier with their sex lives. This was mentioned by a doctor to a buddy of mine. Think about all those famous people who have herpes.. supposedly thanks to Derek Jeter hahahha Interestingly enough, I had sex with more girls who had herpes before I got it than I've had so far. I'm still waiting to sleep with some herpettes now that I have it.

Is it possible to get Valtrex without a prescription? Also, is there some government agency that gives it out for free like they do with condoms?

I have HSV 2 and proud to say that I have defied the stigma by leading a life of casual sex with disclosure for at least a year.

As far as HPV goes, it's pretty much a useless disclosure. Almost everyone has that, and men don't even know if they got it because there's no way to test for it. Sometimes it stays forever, sometimes the body clears it. Some doctors say it's only contagious when you actually have a wart. There's no real way to prove that he gave her HPV or even HSV if she's had sex before with more than one or more partners. STDs are a part of life. This is how it works- unless you are completely chaste and living like a nun, then you are probably going to some kind of STD at any given point. Almost all of them harmless and can be treated to go away. The ones that stick around, like HSV, are pretty much a non-issue for the majority of people who have it. Even HIV, which was at one time thought to be an automatic death sentence is now being viewed as more or a chronic condition that can be managed. Many animal species are also rife with STDs. It's just part of being alive. People, especially in USA has this purity myth in their minds, like they are going to be a perfect unicorn forever. Forget STDs.. what about things like aging and dying from cancer and all that other shit.. Nobody lives forever, health fades inevitably for everyone. Enjoy the life while you got it, don't sweat the small stuff like HSV or HPV, and don't buy into some dumbass stigma. And as far as HIV goes, unless you are exposing yourself to high risk populations, then you are very unlikely to even come into contact with it.

NYC is the Big-Herpple 1/4 people have it in NYC, so you definitely aren't alone and if you were doing casual sex, especially without a condom, there's a good chance you came into contact with it before. It's just a fact of life for anyone who likes to party in NYC. Also, it's usually the most attractive people who STDs like herpes because they are so confident and are also getting hit up for sex a lot. It really just becomes a minor adjustment when compared to all the other stuff that anyone who is living NYC have to deal with. If you are worried about disclosing and casual sex, then fret not. Go read my Ladies' Man Disclsoure Successs thread to get a sense of how possible it is to continue having fun even while disliking herpes. Also, I know several people who have herpes from NYC and they are doing fine there. That's probably one of the best places to have herpes.