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You really have to just ignore that crap. Stick with the reality that herpes ain't a big deal and people who make it into more of a big ideal are either hysterical or naive.

Anyone here know about zinc? Is it good for preventing or treating gab outbreaks? What about zinc in general- pros sand cons.,

Ha yeah my big ole dirty herp dick

I could be wrong, but you sound like a woman. Am I right? Everyone has an experience of loneliness, not just herpoids like us. I think if you can connect with people on a larger scale like that or through some positive emotion, it will diminish the significance of herpes in their eyes and for yourself. I'm not sure how it will work in a rural area like what you are describing. I take there aren't a lot of people around. That might make you feel more pressure when you around the few people that are there. Perhaps it would be good for to go to a place with a larger population like a city. That way, if someone rejects you (for whatever reason), it won't seem like all that big a deal because there are more people to meet.

Sometimes you get white bumps that are like little cists that have nothing to do with herpes. Could be that. Go a to a urologist and get them checked out.

I think the thing to do is to avoid the high risk populations in general even if you don't have HSV.. the thing is.. so many have people have hsv1 and do rial Sec. that you think they would be getting a lot HIV that way considering that HSV leaves the throes t-cells at the site of breakout Something doesn't make sense with all this.

Right but does shedding leave those T-cells hanging out that HIV likes so much? I thought those T-cells only happen at the area of an outbreak. Otherwise.. are you saying that a girl with HIV could drip period blood somewhere on my crotch where I didn't have a breakout, and I'd still be three times more likely to get it from her?

Let's say you've had herpes for a few years. One big outbreak at the onset and then nothing. Are those T cells going to still be at the location of the outbreak regardless if they make a vaccine that suppresses the virus. If you take Valtrex and don't get outbreaks anymore you are still three times more likely to get t.

Would a vaccine for herpes reduce a a herpes infected person' of getting HIV? Or once you have any outbreak, the area where you had it is permanently three times more vulnerable to getting HIV because of the increased t-cells? Anybody know how this would work?

Good for you you got some D. Next time you don't even have to do the big wind up. Everyone takes it differently.

That's a drag, but you can use this as opportunity to start with a clean slate and find people that appreciate you more. Herpes is just a part of life and it really isn't much of a big deal in general- the stigma is the worst part of it, but the stigma ain't shit. It isn't based on anything that real, and the stigma isn't even all that bad.. at least in my experience. Herpes used to not be such a big deal in society, then it was in the 1980s as stds were brought into the spotlight because of HIV. Soon it will be back to normal and people probably won't give a shit. Hell, doctors recommend against herpes testing- that's got to say something about how important it's considered.. low priority.

Don't worry, 1/4 people in NYC have herpes.

First of all, I ask them if they know anything about it. If they say no, then I ask if they ever had a coldsore. If they say yes, then I say that they already have herpes I just have it in a different spot. I keep it simple and tell them I don't have sex on outbreaks and take a pill that makes very hard for it to pass to them. I think if it's a tiny risk like 1/100 or 2/100 that's extremely improbable that it will get passed on. I only get into numbers if they want to know more info, and really, telling all the numbers had less to do with the actual numbers but more of just showing them that you know a lot about this thing. If they trust you, then they trust that you wouldn't be reckless. Knowing the risks is more for me in that regard. I know when it's more risky- without condoms and without Valtrex or on an outbreak. For them, it's all about whether or not they trust you or have confidence in you.

Why not use Valtrex?

Yes go look in the success stories section. I know people with bi-polar that have managed to stay in relationships for over thirty years.

My man. I give you a slap on the back. I get the ball rolling and you take the baton and we are moving the goal posts back. Keep it up.

Like I've said before, the numbers discussion is a dead end during disclosure for multiple reasons. Instead, learn how to communicate the risks in ways that most people will be able to understand.

So you don't officially know yet if you have it?

If your husband had it, then there would be no problem? You will always alone in that relationship if you don't disclose, correct?

I would wait until you meet with them and even then I usually do it when sex is immenant. But hey, if what you are doing is working, don't fix if it ain't broke. You might get more even more chicks of you take it out of your profile though. It's too impersonal online and also talking about sex way too early in the relationship for most girls. Like STD equivalent of sending a dick pic, sort of.

Here's another recent stab at curing herpes: https://www.fredhutch.org/en/news/center-news/2016/09/can-gene-editing-cure-herpes.html Scientists at Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center have used a gene-editing technique to attack the DNA of the herpes simplex virus in infected mice, a key step on the road to defeating an often-stigmatized virus that infects one in six people in the United States alone and for which there is no cure. The study, published today in the journal JCI Insight, “lays out the pathway toward a potential cure for human herpesvirus infections,” said Dr. Keith Jerome, a Fred Hutch and University of Washington virologist and the paper’s senior author. Researchers in Jerome’s lab deployed DNA-cutting enzymes called targeted endonucleases to damage the herpesvirus genome, inducing mutations that destroy the virus’ ability to replicate. The study is the first in a living organism — rather than a lab dish — to show that gene-editing tools can be delivered to the herpes simplex virus in its latent state or to a latent viral infection of any kind. Doing so is key to curing herpes because a latent infection can reactivate and seed new outbreaks. “We can take these targeted endonucleases, we can introduce them into a mouse that has a latent herpes infection, we can get them to where the virus lies dormant and we can successfully attack that virus in its dormant state,” Jerome said. “The process can work.” The plan going forward is to “optimize every step of the process,” including using a newer generation of gene-editing tools such as CRISPR (more on that below), to attack the virus more effectively and boost mutation rates enough for a true cure. Jerome said it would take “several years of work” before researchers could think about testing the approach in human trials. “But we’re certainly thinking about that,” he said. “That is the goal.” The physical — and psychological — toll of herpes There are two types of herpes simplex virus. The most widespread is herpes simplex virus 1, or HSV-1, which is usually transmitted through mouth-to-mouth contact. During an active infection, HSV-1 can cause so-called cold sores around the lips. Globally, it infects more than 3.7 billion people under the age of 50, or 67 percent of the world’s population, according to the World Health Organization. More troublesome is genital herpes, which is usually caused by herpes simplex 2, or HSV-2, and affects about 417 million people, or about 11 percent, worldwide. It is transmitted through skin-to-skin contact during vaginal or anal sex and can cause painful genital and anal lesions. Another 140 million people have genital lesions caused by HSV-1 transmitted through oral sex, bringing the total number of those with genital herpes to more than half a billion. With genital infections, the virus can be passed to newborns, a “devastating complication” that can cause serious illness or death if not treated early, Jerome said. In people with suppressed immune systems, such as those undergoing chemotherapy or other cancer treatments, sores can be severe. Genital lesions also can increase the risk of transmitting or getting HIV. Then there’s the psychological toll. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that 776,000 Americans are newly infected with genital herpes each year. Even when symptoms are nonexistent, mild or suppressed by medication, infected people can still spread the disease to their sexual partners, making a genital herpes diagnosis a source of embarrassment, shame or stress that can interfere with relationships. “I felt like someone had just shot me in the chest every single day for those first six months,” wrote Ella Dawson, a self-described feminist millennial sex writer who was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 at age 21 and has since written openly about it in an effort to eradicate the stigma. Numerous online support groups provide a safe place for the newly diagnosed, who often prefer to be identified only by their screen names, to talk about such things as when to have “The Talk” with a potential romantic partner. “While many people associate herpes with outbreaks, they don't realize the emotional pain it causes,” said "Dex," who created and runs an online dating site for people with herpes. “The stigma of herpes is often worse than the physical effects. It's not like you can easily tell your friends and family of your new herpes diagnosis. In our world, it is known as ‘The Talk.’ Often, the fear of rejection and the anxiety can keep some from attempting to date at all.” A cure, Dex said in an email, “would mean so much to so many.” Reaching the latent virus HSV infections occur at mucosal surfaces — the mouth, the genitals. The virus is then picked up by sensory nerve endings on those surfaces and travels along axons to neuronal cell bodies, where it persists in a dormant state. But unlike some other lifelong infections that have latent stages — HIV, for example — dormant herpes simplex viruses rest in just two places in the body: a nerve cluster called the trigeminal ganglion in the skull for HSV-1 and, for genital herpes, the dorsal root ganglia adjacent to the spinal cord. Having these virus dormitories confined to such specific sites is a huge advantage for researchers seeking to cure herpes, as is the relatively small number of neurons infected. By comparison, said Jerome, latent HIV is found in T cells, which are everywhere in the body, and researchers still don’t know the full extent of the latent HIV reservoir.

Once the deed is done, and if you aren't going to see them again, I don't see the point in bringing it up. You really don't know if they got it from you, even if they have an outbreak, and the majority of people who have it don't get outbreaks. Disclosure is something to consider for moving forward more than it is for past slip ups. Don't dwell on it, and move on. There's no guarantee that you pass it to them so why fix something that isn't yet broken. That said, in the future, know that disclosure is not as bad or tough as stigma will have you believe, and it's also the right thing to do. Nearly all of my disclosures have been greenlight situations, so that busts the myth on herpes killing people's sex lives. I've had over thirty successful disclosures in the last twelve months. There were maybe five or seven rejections this last year, and the majority of those were via text if I can remember correctly. There are other reasons that people reject for more often that have nothing to with herpes, but a big deal is not made out of them. People except that stuff as a normal part of dating and sex.

A lot of people already have it they just don't know yet, and they are fine. Herpes is really not such a big deal.. otherwise doctors would take it more seriously and it there would be pink and red ribbons for it like cancer and HIV. Can you imagine a herpes ribbon? That's laughable. A cold sore ribbon? Don't let the stigma take over your mind. Herpes is so not a big deal that doctors recommend against testing for it now.

Girls are usually cool with it once they decide. I had one girl message me a couple weeks after about it, but she got confirmed negative for it. The bigger a deal you make out it then it needs to be, the bigger a deal it will probably be for them. Remember, almost nobody gets disclosed to, so you are setting an example for her. It's almost your duty to everyone else not to make a big deal out of it in order to help fight the stigma. Be honest about it, but also show them that herpes isn't such a big deal by being cool about the whole thing.

Do you have hsv2?