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Hello!! I hope you are well. This is a great question! So, it is possible to have HSV1 and HSV2 at the same time, but I honestly am unsure about have both at the same site on the body. Since you can contract both, there are many ways to help combat possible transmission. Suppressive medication is helpful. You and your partner can talk about suppressive medication. It would make more sense for him to go on it since he has type 2, which is typically more likely to be spread as it results in more frequent outbreaks, and GHSV-2 tends to be more intense in women (if he spread it to you). Wearing a condom significantly helps as well, and making sure to abstain from sexual activity if either of you think you are experiencing prodrome shedding (tingling, itching at site of HSV, possible aches/cold symptoms, etc) is also a good idea to prevent herpes from passing to either of you. I am going to engage in some more research and get back to you about getting both types at the same site, and meanwhile hopefully others who are more familiar with the situation will reply!! I hope this helps!! Sending happiness and peace!! 🍀🌄🌼☀️❤️

@My thoughts Hi!!! Thank you so much for bringing this to our attention. Yes, neonatal and herpes acquired during delivery would have consequential illness. @SimpleILeasha I apologize for the misinformation and hypothesis suggestion of that!! Now that hypothesis can be checked off. Thank you again!!! Sending love and light ❤️🌄🌼☀️🍀🌈

Hey Friends!!! I just had my first OBGYN visit for my first annual exam and PAP exam. It went well! Something that was awkward was talking about my HSV in front of my mom, who accompanied me. When it was just me and the doctor, italked about my HSV, and the doctor said, "Okay and you know you need to disclose it to others?" I said, "yes of course!!" Somehow we started talking about dating, and I mentioned the stigma of herpes. She said there isn't a stigma anymore since AIDS broke out,and that since then everyone sort of forgot about the other STIs. I was sort of shocked that she said that... we all know how stigmatized herpes is!!! I then told her how I've been rejected so many times for having it, and she seemed surprised. Honestly I think so many people, even doctors, forget about the impact of illness, and viruses like herpes, on social interaction,self-image, and intimacy. It is so odd how there are so many open-minded people out here, but there are many people who really don't know the facts and truth about herpes. Like, we are still people!! Thanks for listening to me rant!! Lol. Blessings to you all!! ❤️🍀☀️🌈🌄🌼

Hi Again! That's okay. There are so many people with herpes and many know they don't even have it! It seems to really be part of humanity. Oh my gosh, three children ❤️ I can't wait to have kids! I hope they are doing well! Yes I guess they don't test for STIs when you give birth, but maybe they should start! Maybe reach out to those you trust. Evaluate the pros and cons of the relationship, and ask yourself (and him eventually) if he wants to make it work. Marriage counseling is also wonderful-- it is very hard but I have heard it can work wonders, but only if both people really truly are willing to change for the benefit of the other and the relationship as a whole. However, please don't feel obligated to stay with someone who treats you poorly. My own mom was in a situation similar, and something she told me was she divorced my father so I wouldn't observe their relationship and think it was normal. Children observe their parents and this often becomes their worldview of how relationships are and should be. Stay strong!! We are here for you!! 🌼🌄🌈🍀☀️

Hi! Okay, so I want to address a few things. First, ingrown hairs and herpes sores can look the same at first, but there are a few key differences. INGROWN HAIRS: Typically will have a dark line in the center (the hair). They may be painful or not, and are often red. They can occur immediately after shaving or a few days later. Ingrown hairs would not include tingling or numbness (this is herpes prodrome syndrome that happens when the virus is shedding). Ingrown hairs often occur by themsleves. HERPES SORES: Herpes sores will often occur after sex, if you are doing something with a lot of friction (even cycling can cause them to flare up!), Or if you notice you have tingling in your lower spine, buttocks, legs, or groin area. Especially for women with type 2, you may get the herpes around your period, and/or you may feel achey or feel like you have a cold. There won't be a little hair in the center, but a little dimple or sorts. after the sore is there for a day or two, you'll notice fluid filling in the center (it will be white usually). The next stage is the yucky one; the sores often either pop by themselves or they pop from friction from clothes or just walking. They will release the inner cloud, and then crust over. And ingrown hair may also look like this if you accidentally open it, but it will most likely bleed. Herpes sores have a unique healing process where they ooze and scab over, eventually fading away and often leaving discolored skin. For me, I can tell where my sores were even when they healed because the new skin growth is lighter than the rest of the surrounding skin. IN TERMS OF THE BUMPS: you shouldn't have bumps of your anus after sex; soreness and sensitivity is common, due to the friction, but I don't think bumps are a typical post-sex body response. Do they look like either of the things mentioned above? (Herpes sores or ingrown hairs?) IN TERMS OF THE RELATIONSHIP: The way you describe your husband is truely a red flag. I am actually studying to be a teacher and have been certified to recognize signs of abuse and emotional abuse in children and adults. A key red flag for emotional abuse is control over a spouses whereabouts, extreme anger and accusation, and demanding to know where you are at all times. This control really seems to upset you and interfere with your social life; even your friend said she was worried for you because he kept calling. For question one you answered you weren't sure if he would neglect you or the children; this isn't a no, so obviously there is doubt about his intentions-- you deserve better! Although these things may not seem like a big deal, this control and emotional abuse really can negatively impact your wellbeing, and your wellbeing matters. You matter. I recommend reaching out for help, just to talk to someone and ask them for their advice and evaluation. Calling a Planned Parenthood or even a local domestic shelter is helpful (they can give advice on your herpes and relationship). Just ask them if you can talk to someone and ask them if they think the situation indicates red flags and signs of abuse and emotional control and manipulation, and what you can do to stay safe and keep your children safe. Resources are almost always confidential so if you called the shelter, they wouldn't ask who you are or anything unless you provide that information. However, please reach out to someone more trained to offer advice. Domestic violence shelters are amazing and they help so many women, regardless of the type of abuse or neglect. HOTLINE NUMBER: 1 800-799-7233 or call 911 if you need it! Don't hesitate to call. It's better to be safe and have something on the record than not to call. ❤️ This website is awesome: you can chat/type with someone and talk about the situation, or call. And, you can do your own research. https://www.thehotline.org/ Let me know how it goes!! Sending you love and strength!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Hi!! Yayyy!!! This is awesome and inspiring. I am so happy for you!! You totally deserve this understanding answer from him, and he seems to be very respectful. Hooray for honesty and understanding!! I wish you both well ❤️ Sending happiness and blessings!! 🍀☀️🌄🌼❤️🌈

Hi!! I'm back. Sorry for the delay! Okay, so first I want to say that it will all work out however it is meant to. In the meantime, make sure you are taking care of yourself and your children. Have faith, it will all be okay. Second, accusing someone of cheating because someone looks at you or tries to be flirty with you is really not okay. It is accusations like that which can cause so much resentment, drama, and overall sadness and stress, which is not good for you or your children. I am sorry he accuses you. He could be jealous or possibly projecting his fear of you splitting up again. Regardless of the reason, it is not okay, though. Have you tried telling him how the accusations hurt you? In terms of the diagnosis for herpes 1 and 2: Did the doctor take a blood sample and see this? If so, it makes sense to have HSV-1 (since it could be orally like cold sores or genitally, too, and your husband has it . Also, the way your doctor responded was not very gentle or compassionate. I am sorry they made you feel ignored and just 'shooed' you away. Your questions are valid and there are MANY RELIABLE resources out there-- avoid unreliable resources, as there are incorrect rumors and stereotypes about HSV 1 and 2 that are not true!! Here are some quality and medically accurate sites: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/herpes-simplex-virus https://herpes.org.uk/frequently-asked-questions/passing-transmitting-herpes/ https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/default.htm Questions: Main Question of Key Importance!! Are you in any danger? Are you afraid your husband will harm you and/or neglect you or your children if you tell him the test results? If so, please contact a Domestic Violence shelter for support and services if needed. 1. Does your husband have HSV-1 orally or on his genitals? 2. Have you ever had an outbreak? If so, where on the body were they and when were the outbreaks, and have you had outbreaks since? 3. When you guys split up, and he entered a new relationship, it is possible that he got it from someone else and transferred it to you. 4. This may sound like an odd question, but did you mother have HSV-2? HSV-2 can be passed neonatal, and during birth if she was virally shedding/having an outbreak. The chances of this happening are not particularly high but I just wanted to ask. 5. Is it possible you have had HSV-2 and have not known it? This would be odd since females typically have more outbreaks and symptoms when they have HSV-2, but you seem like you have never even had herpes symptoms. You are not alone! Please direct message me if you need any support. We are all here for you! If you need domestic shelter help, please reach out for help if you need it. Sending you love, happiness, peace, and strength !!!!

Hi!! I am so sorry. However, don't spend life worrying and assuming... so many times our assumptions are so wrong! Sometimes someone doesn't know what to say, sometimes they didn't see the message, etc. Don't assume that you did anything. You never know what could have prevented her from replying!!! Regardless, please know that others' responses about herpes is just their reaction; it isn't truth or the end-all be-all; just one human's reaction. You are worthy of love and kindness. You deserve respect and understanding. Just because someone does not treat you with that respect doesn't mean you did anything to deserve it, it just is a reflection of their beliefs, knowledge (or lack thereof), or feelings. I hope this helps ❤️ Sending peace and joy!! ❤️🌄🍀☀️🌼

Hello ❤️ I hope you are doing okay. I am sorry for everything you are going through. Please know this isn't your fault. You are not dirty or bad. You are worthy of love and understanding. I want to address everything you are saying, however I actually am setting up to see family, so I do not have enough time, but I wanted to reach out and just say that everything is going to work out. You are love, worthy of love, and are loved. I will reply back soon!!! Sending peace and blessings 🌄☀️🌼🍀❤️

Hello! First, I am so sorry to hear about the outbreak. I also have HSV1 on my genitals (GHSV1) and I also had about thirty sores during my first outbreak, and it was evil. haha, kidding. But basically, it felt horribly painful. Okay, so this honestly sounds a lot like how I contracted GHSV1! My partner at the time did not know they had herpes, and it seemed that I had gotten it from receiving oral sex, which could possibly be how you contracted it, as you mentioned your partner has oral HSV1. Sometimes it is just the luck of the draw; the virus starts shedding in someone's mouth (even without cold sores present) and we just happen to get it (such a bummer!) However, no hope is lost! I am happy to hear you and your partner are still together! Hooray! Now, I can answer your questions: 1. Since my GF has high antibody/igG levels and has had simplex 1 for a long time, does that mean I won’t pass on my genital herpes simplex 1 to her genital area? Do I need to worry about spreading it to my GF? Okay, great question! So, basically, you cannot give someone HSV1 again if they already have it, because their body has built up an anti-body response to the virus. I did some research and found this answer for you, from the Herpes Virus Association of the United Kingdom! "If you have caught it on your face from your partner’s genitals, then they will not catch it on their face if they do oral sex on you. If you have caught it on your face from your partner’s facial cold sores, then they will not catch it on their genitals if you do oral sex on them." The WHO (World Health Organization) says... "Individuals who already have HSV-1 oral herpes infection are unlikely to be subsequently infected with HSV-1 in the genital area." HOWEVER THE SITE & MANY OTHER SITES SAY... it is ALWAYS possible to pass on herpes to another part of the body, even if you/someone else already has it. While the chances are extremely unlikely, transmission to other body parts is always possible, especially during an active outbreak. https://herpes.org.uk/frequently-asked-questions/passing-transmitting-herpes/ 2. What are the downsides to taking daily valtrex? Should I take daily or just take it during an active outbreak? Another awesome question! The mild side effects of Valtrex could be bothersome if you show any side effects (nausea, headache, stomach issues, and many more, including severe side effects that could potentially occur (see them on the website below). The Pros and Cons of Valtrex can be seen here! https://www.goodrx.com/valacyclovir/what-is Also, there is a medicine called Acyclovir which is another HSV antiviral. Ask your doctor about them, and if either/both are compatible with other medicines you may already be taking or preexisting health conditions. 3. When I don’t have an active outbreak, how much do I need to worry about spreading herpes to other parts of my body? So, this is happy news: you really don't need to worry! Your body has built up an immune response, so you can just breathe and know the likelihood of transmitting your HSV1 it to other parts of your body is very very very low. Of course, wash your hands after you touch sores, or your genitals, especially during an outbreak or if you are experiencing prodrome symptoms (tingling, itchiness, etc). 4. I have not been horny at all since my outbreak. Is this a side effect of valtrex or just possibly a psychological effect of having a herpes outbreak? If anything, I would say it is mostly psychological, and your body just went through a painful experience that your subconscious could be associating with sexual intimacy, which could be causing the decrease in desire to engage in sexual activity with your partner. Don't worry! It'll all be okay. If anything, knowing you both are still together despite the HSV can bring you closer together and INCREASE intimacy! This herpes opportunity website and blog actually talk a lot about that! Check it out! However, if you are concerned, talk to your doctor about it. It could be a potential side effect! It's always good to notice changes and talk to them with your doctor, or even calling a doctor's office and asking the Nurse Practitioner on-call your questions can be super helpful. 5. Am I correct in thinking they simplex 1 usually had less frequent and less severe outbreaks? Typically, HSV1 has less frequent and severe outbreaks. I have had GHSV1 since 2019, and I have only had about two other outbreaks since the original first outbreak. However, different factors influence outbreaks (stress, foods, etc) so it can fluctuate depending on the individual. However, generally speaking, yes, HSV1 tends to have less frequent outbreaks, and when they do occur they are less severe. 6. How long until I don’t have to worry about kissing my girlfriend and getting the virus in my mouth too? This question relates to a few of the other questions you asked! Generally, you wouldn't get HSV-1 in your mouth, too (since you already have it elsewhere and your body built up the immunity). However!... If your girlfriend has an open sore/outbreak in her mouth, it would be a good idea to abstain from kissing, since it might be painful for her. She could engage in oral sex because technically you already have HSV-1 on your genitals, but again, it wouldn't be the best (or most comfortable) idea. You can still preform oral sex on her while she has an outbreak of course, and you can still have sex and be intimate in many other ways besides kissing. Overall, because you already have HSV-1, it is very unlikely that you would contract HSV-1 orally if she kissed you. Is it possible? Yes, of course it is, especially if she has a sore or prodrome symptoms. I hope that all of this is helpful!!! Also, I am not a doctor or nurse so please consult your doctor for information. I am only a college student lol, so please consult more knowledgeable people!!! Sending happiness and blessings to you and your girlfriend!🌄

Hi! I have never received a false negative, I'm sorry I cannot offer any advice! However, blood tests are a great way to see if you have it. The swab test is extremely helpful but only can be done if there are active sores. So, maybe a blood test would be helpful if you are concerned about the false negative. This website offer a lot of reliable information about tests, if you wanted to check it out! https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/herpes-testing Sending Light and Luck your way!! 🍀🌄

Hello! First, i need you to know that you are pure, worthy of love, and worthy of respect You deserve way better. Don't settle for someone who is unfaithful because you are afraid of rejection. You are worthy of so much more. I understand how it feels to crave love. I didn't have a dad since he left when I was a baby, and later my stepdad was kicked out. I looked for a while for love in men I was dating... And I settled for less because I thought something was better than nothing. Let me tell you that settling is worse than being by yourself. Because when you are by yourself, you at least have YOU. And I am sure you are a wonderful human being. Respect starts with you. Others will it be respectful to you if you aren't respectful to yourself. Know your worth. Do not expect others to make you feel worthy. Please please know your worth. I know you've been in this cycle since you were 19, but you have the power to make the change. There are so many things we couldn't choose, that were out of our control -- such as herpes. But, who you choose to love and share your life with can be something you DO get to choose. Take back your power. Stay strong ❤️ We are here for you! Sending Love and Light ❤️🌼🌈🍀☀️!!!

Hi!! I have HSV1 but only on a singular section of my body, so I can't give the best advice. However, I would say to expect not immediate results. It may take longer since you have more sores, but hopefully the antiviral medicine will help. Monitor symptoms, even keep a log of symptoms and when you feel better/worse to help the doctors, maybe? Maybe then you can see triggers of outbreaks. I am so sorry about this. I am sending you healing prayers! Keep the Faith. 🌄☀️❤️🌼🍀🌈

@~Minerva~ Hey! I literally wanted to say thank you for educating us all on Mollaret Meningitis. I've never heard of it before you mentioned it here! I bet this will help a lot of people who have been experiencing the same symptoms. @12073273 I hope you feel better 🍀 sending love and wellness your way! 🍀❤️🌈🌼☀️🌄

Hello!! I am sorry to hear that you've been suffering. You don't deserve that at all. Please know that there is hope. So many people see age as something bad, but in reality it is wisdom, maturity, and strength. You can 110% still find someone at age 52, even with HSV!! You are not dirty, unworthy of love, or 'used'. You are pure, deserving and worthy of love and respect, and are not defined by what society sees as "wrong" with you. Stay strong! We are all here for you to help you through this journey. Sending Love and Light! 🌄❤️☀️🍀🌼🌈

Aw gosh! Okay. I'm glad you got to ask questions. Stay strong!! I recommend tapping, an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). It might seem a little out there but it works wonders. Check out Brad Yates on YouTube it's really meditative!! Sending blessings your way! 🌄

Aw thank you that is so nice! Honestly it's been hard. People my age (early 20s) are not accepting of differences and STIs overall. Honestly, this really shows the lack of comprehensive sex-ed student recieve. Like, seriously, how can we expect people to be successful if we don't even teach them biology and how their own human form works?! I am so sorry to hear about your struggle. I'm happy you are starting to feel better! Hold your head high and be kind to yourself. You deserve someone who is kind, respectful, and unconditionally loving and accepting!! Don't settle for less because you are worried that no one else will accept you. You deserve the best and nothing less!! Sending happiness your way!! 🌄

@Askingforgrace Hi!! I'm so sorry you were suffering. It depends on the type of HSV you have. I have had GHSV-1 since 2019, but I've only had two outbreaks after my first, and I'm not on suppressive medication (I only take the medicine when I have an outbreak). I know that HSV-2 is more likely to result in more frequent outbreaks, so suppressive treatment may help you if you have type 2. If you have type 1 but are in a relationship and don't want to have to worry about anything, suppressive treatment also would be helpful. It all depends. Just know that the first outbreak is always the WORST, since your body has to build immunity to the new foreign virus. We are here to support you with whatever you choose!! Sending Love and Light! ❤️☀️🍀🌄🌼🌈

Ugh! I am so sorry, you do not deserve that AT ALL! I really hope everything works out. We are here for you! Sending prayers of health your way! 💛☀️

Hi! @Owningmystatus My journey has been so odd, honestly looking back it makes me laugh! So, I got herpes in 2019. I was 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I got it from a guy who was really mean. Very bad relationship... not a good egg! The day before I got it we were having intercourse. The next day I woke up with thirty huge angry looking red sores on my genitals. I was so freaked out! So, I go to school and such and make an appointment with the school clinic. They couldn't see me for three days, so I waited it out. The burning was horrible! It hurt to walk, go potty, etc. I went into the exam room and the doctor told me I had sores even inside of my vaginal cavity, which was causing the excessive pain. Although I would need to wait for the actual results to come back, the doctor told me it was most likely herpes. I was, to say the least, embarrassed. I left the exam room crying, and went into the office of my boss. Oh, I forgot to mention... I worked at the student clinic as a sexual education and wellness peer educator. So obviously, I was embarrassed that me, a sex educator got herpes! I remember I walked into my boss's office and she said, "What's wrong?" I said, "I think I have herpes." And she goes, "Well why would you think that?" and I said, "Because the doctor said I do." And she laughed and was like, "Well okay then, you have herpes indeed, sorry to hear that." I was so embarrassed I was afraid to admit I had herpes I said "I think"! Looking back, I laugh haha. My boss talked to me about herpes, and I explained to her about my boyfriend and other things. She did give me this piece of advice: "you are more than just a bunch of holes for him to stick his 'thing' in!" And this quote I have relayed to many friends of mine. Anyways, I get the call that verifies I have HSV-1. I meet up with my boyfriend and tell him that I have herpes. He told me I was dirty and got it from some filthy guy I had slept with (untrue, I got it from him). I calmly explained to him that I had gotten it from him, and he freaked out. He said, "No! I don't have anything. And you better not have given it to me! I came into this world clean and I am going out clean!" Like who the heck says that? A jerk, that's who! So, for about ten days I waddled around campus like a duck and fidgeting in my chairs during class since sitting was uncomfortable. I went to a holistic store and bought some lysine cream which really helped the burning. Oh, even funnier. I got my period during the huge outbreak. And I had a sinus infection. My body was just really having a field day, lol. I have dated since that mean guy (whom I broke up with, of course!) and have told my herpes story to many of the people I have dated and to my friends. Yes, people have been cruel in response and judgment, but so many people are honestly just misinformed or confused. Can't blame someone for not knowing, you know what I mean? So, I do my best to educate others and fight the stigma, which is honestly the strongest in my own mind more than anything else. That is why I joined this forum! My OCD was so hyper-focused on the pandemic and my herpes and I just needed others who understand it. I have had a few outbreaks since, but nothing as severe. I hope you enjoyed reading my story!! Stay strong and be kind to yourself always.

Hi Again! Yay! I am happy to hear that. Symptoms and sores should start going away soon. The sores may start to scab or ooze, so just be prepared. That is all normal and expected. I was doing some research and there are many viruses related to HSV that can cause sores on the chest and back. Have you been tested for other viral infections? In the mean time, be kind to yourself. Counter the negative thoughts with positive ones. I know you may be thinking you are dirty, unwanted, and vulgar, but counter that with, "I am wanted, beautiful, worthy, and pure." We are all here for you! Sending peace and self-acceptance! 🌼☀️🌄🍀❤️

Hi!! Yay I'm happy to hear your relationship is strong and happy!! ❤️☀️🌼 This is such a puzzle to me! I mean I was thinking that the original 2017 test didn't pick up on it (maybe you had just gotten it somehow?) Also, I know that HSV is related to chicken pox and many other viral strains, so maybe those could have affected the reading for HSV-2? Have you had any viral between 2017 and 2020? I wish I could offer more hypotheses!! Sending happy things your way!! 😊🍀❤️☀️🌼🌄

Hi!! @Rei Hino I'm sorry about this and for a late reply! I hope things have been okay in your relationship since you last posted. I have a question! What made you get tested for HSV-2? did you have an active outbreak with a swab test or a blood test? This can help me better answer how you may have gotten it! Sending Love and Light!! ☀️🌈🍀🌼🌄

Hello! I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I am happy that you finally got to figure out what your skin condition actually is, because hopefully now it can be managed with antiviral medication. Did your doctor prescribed you anything to help? You are not dirty or disgusting. You are pure and worthy of love and happiness. It will get better. We are all here to support you!! Sending Love and Happiness! ❤️🌄🍀🌈☀️🌼

@Southpaw Hi!! Thank you so much!! 🙏